Rantings on Domestic Violence

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I found this article regarding a model found hanging and police looked to her boyfriend as a suspect because she was a victim of domestic violence. Please note that her “murder” was in fact listed as a suicide and the boyfriend was not charged. However, this got me to thinking about domestic violence as a whole. Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Emotional abuse is often minimized, yet it can leave deep and lasting scars.

No one should live in fear of the person they love. In today’s economic times, many people are staying in abusive relationships out of money. This should never be the case. I told my girlfriend one time, “I wish you loved you as much as I love you”. Psychological or verbal abuse destroys your self-esteem. When you love the abuser more than yourself, you don’t value your self-worth. You don’t believe that you are worthy for a better life, a better future or a better right now. Remember to surround yourself with people who love you, because they will support you when you need them. Signs that you are in an abusive relationship:

Does your partner:
humiliate or yell at you?
criticize you and put you down?
treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
blame you for his own abusive behavior?
see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Remember that our bodies are temples and once we respect the temple, few people can enter and destroy the temple. Love yourselves first. Oh, and my friend: left her spouse for a better life.


Thanksgiving Bound

So, Lee and I are getting ready to go to Danville, VA on Tuesday with the baby. This is his 4th trip to Danville and we are excited to have him spend time with Lee’s godmother. This holiday, I’m more concerned about the other folks in America that will go hungry. The children who won’t have a turkey, dressing, collared greens, sweet potatoes and mounds of other food to chow down on. What will they eat? Who will help them? The fact of the matter is that there are so many Americans unemployed and living without food that it is a crying shame. My friend told me yesterday that a woman at her church was car jacked at the grocery store. The next day the police found her car. The only thing missing was her groceries. My mom told me about her friend who shops at the food bank and how hard it is to get meat at the food bank. She said on this trip to the food bank, they gave her some steaks. She was so happy to get those steaks and went about thinking how she was going to prepare them. She said the procedure is to finish shopping at the food bank and then leave your cart and pull your car up to the door. The volunteers will help you load your car. When she returned to get her groceries, she didn’t notice that someone had stolen her steaks. This Thanksgiving, I’m thankful for many things: health, happiness, family, shelter and food. I never took the small things for granted, but this year, I never realized how blessed I am. We have survived! Let’s pray for those and help those who are less fortunate.

Check out this video on CNN: http://us.cnn.com/video/?/video/us/2009/11/18/rowlands.hunger.report.cnn