Learning to Love the Scary

“Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” – Steve Jobs
I love this quote and it got me to thinking about 2013 and how I deal with the scary. What do I trust in? I am the first person to admit that I’m hesitant of change.  Not that I don’t like change, I like change just fine.  It’s the anticipation I feel when the change is about to happen.  That’s what is scary to me.  There are a number of changes that can occur in a year and some I’m prepared for and others catch me off guard, but I decided that in 2013, I’m going to love the scary and trust that God will handle it.  He will take care of me.  He won’t let the scary get me.  Here are some of the tips that I will be practicing this year when dealing with the uncertainty of change:
  • Be Confident – I plan to accept the changes that may occur and know that I can handle any and everything because the scary isn’t that scary because I have faith.  I have faith to know that things will work out as they should.  Lee used to say that, “Tikeetha, fear and faith can’t co-exist in the same place.” It’s true. I’m confident that the scary is temporary, but I have faith that God will never give me more than I can bear.
  • Be Encouraged – This is is a hard one for me.  Sometimes I don’t feel encouraged with the decisions I make or the changes I go through because I feel that no one can truly understand what I’m going through.  I know it seems weird, but as I used to tell Lee, “Everything you go through is a testimony. Your testimony.” I need to remember that all change is scary, but I’m encouraged that I’m not alone. All things work according to God’s will. I have to submit to it and be encouraged that I’m going through my season in the valley to strengthen me.
  • Be Still – A lot of times, we go through our season in the valley and spend so much time trying to get out that we don’t know how to be still and listen for the lesson we’re supposed to learn.  I’ve said to God, “What is it that I’m supposed to learn?  There’s a reason for this and I’m shutting and standing still so I can figure it out.” I am going to be still and know that all things will be revealed to me in time and that being still and in prayer will help me love the scary.
It’s been an interesting year thus far, but I promise to update you on how I’m learning to love the scary things that happen this year.  I promise to be confident, encouraged and still and allow the changes to come and know that I’m anchored in God and that He will never let the scary consume me.