I’m in a Tomato Season

My very first job was picking tomatoes at the age of 12.  I’m sure there were some child labor laws that were broken during that time, but it was a job that paid cash daily.  I earned an honest day’s wage for back breaking work in the dead of summer in a tomato field in Tennessee. 

I started thinking about the planting process of the tomato and wanted to give you a simple and realistic view of how God works with me by planting His seeds of grace, mercy and favor over my life.  He is nurturing my spirit, just like the tomato so that I can grow and be fruitful during the planting process.

Now, there are 5 steps that you must do in order to produce viable tomatoes:  select a site, establish stakes or cages in the soil (staking keeps the fruit off the ground and caging lets the plant hold itself upright), planting seeds two feet apart, pinching and planting deep enough and finally watering well.

Stay with me folks …I have a point.

Step 1:  In order to plant tomatoes, you need to select a site that is full of sun and well-drained soil.  I’m from the south, so you need to know that light afternoon shade will help tomatoes survive and thrive. 

Thinking about how my own soul now seems to be planted and rooted firmly in God, I know that I need a little afternoon shade (aka rest) to survive and thrive in these tumultuous times.  You see, people think they know me or know what I’m going through, but they have no idea.  They don’t see me broken and crying and falling out so they begin to assume things about me or my situation.  Don’t worry, God’s got me!  Just like the tomato, He knew where to plant my spiritual seeds to provide the optimal chance of survival.

Step 2:  You have to establish stakes or cages in the soil at the time of planting.  Staking keeps developing fruit off the ground while caging lets the plant hold itself upright.  Some sort of support system is recommended, but sprawling can also produce fine crops if you have the space, and if the weather cooperates.

Wow! I’ve been staked and caged in situations and realized that I wasn’t producing fruit that was edible to God.  So, God said, “Okay, let her sprawl and grow low to the ground.  She’s good.”  He knew what I needed and when I needed it.  The sprawling helped me to get the necessary nutrients from the word He was providing.  It was at my lowest that I learned to be still and listen. There was uncooperative weather, storms and flooding, but I still grew.

Step 3:  Plant seedlings two feet apart.

I love this because it is in the space where you can grow and find out what God wants for you.  You see, I can’t get to Heaven on anyone’s merits but my own.   It’s in the space that I can stretch my mind and absorb the things that God wants me to see.  I am planted with like-minded folks, but I am growing at my own pace and not at theirs.

Step 4:  Pinch off a few of the lower branches on the transplants and plant the root ball deep enough so that the remaining lowest leaves are just above the surface of the soil.

You have to be planted in the soil in order to grow.  How can I grow in my faith if I’m halfway in the soil?  Aren’t I just trying to grow in mud instead of letting the spirit water my soil and grow in the right situation?  I’ve been in muddy situations and it’s no fun.  But, God has allowed a farmer to come along and replant my seeds just where they needed to go.  It’s the transplanting that takes place that allows me to thrive above the surface of the soil.

Step 5:  Water well to reduce shock to the roots.

No explanation needed right?  But, let me try…you need to water the seeds of your spirit well with God’s word or you will be shocked.  See, your roots won’t grow and you won’t develop into viable fruit.  Watering reduces shock to your roots.  Imagine the electrical shock you get when you run your feet against carpeting and then touch someone.  It hurts right?  Do you think your roots could take that kind of shock on a regular basis with poor watering? Nope, they can’t. So, it’s important that you know that God’s word is the truth and understanding and accepting that Christ is your personal savior will reduce the impact of that shock.  It doesn’t mean that you won’t get shocked, it just means that the shock will be reduced and you can still ripen in your faith and walk with God.


It is in the planting that the hardest of the work is done.  You can’t skip a step in this process or you will realize that you will not grow like God wants you too.  See, there is no shortcut or secret to being what God wants you to be.  You have to do the work.  You have to go through the planting stage in order to grow and become edible.  A process takes time, but I promise you that it is worth it in the end.  He is a phenomenal God and there is no other like Him.  He will do exceedingly and abundantly when you let Him in to do His work.  Let him go through the steps and feed your spiritual seeds.  

Be blessed my loves!

God & Brennan

Last week I told my friend that I wanted to make God proud.  His response, “God is proud of you”.  I didn’t believe him.  Not that I thought he was lying, but how could he know if God was proud of me?  But God.  I have to say that again.  But, God.  You see that same evening, God allowed Brennan to tell me that he loved me and tell me that I’m the best mommy in the world.  Why, you might ask?  Because I take him to church.  God was answering me.  He was letting me know that he was proud of me because simply, I take my son to church. I loved it.  


God’s pride in me was further demonstrated to me how proud of me he is with Brennan when I took Brennan to school on Friday. Brennan said that he doesn’t like Easter. I asked Why? He said “Because I didn’t get an Easter basket from my teacher”. I asked “Why didn’t you get an Easter basket?” He responded “Because I messed up on my shapes and now I don’t have any candy.” I replied, “I’m sure there is more to this story, but Easter isn’t about getting candy. It’s about the resurrection of Jesus.” So, we spent the next five minutes talking about Jesus and he said, “Mommy, we need Jesus don’t we?” Yes, was my reply. He said, “Like in the Lion King when Nala tells Simba we need you, that’s how we need Jesus?” Can I just tell you that I broke down in tears? Wow!



If you’re like me and you’re trying to remember that scene, I’ve attached it for you.

How Do I Want to Be Remembered?

I read this beautiful post by the author of Life In a Blender where she wrote how she wanted to be remembered and it was absolutely beautiful.  It got me to be thinking how I want to be remembered.  People have always thought it weird of me to think about death, but as a Christian, I always wondered why is it weird?  As my grandma says, “Only people afraid of dying are those that don’t know where they’re going.”  I know where I’m going so death isn’t something I worry about nor am I morbidly obsessed about it, but I want you to know how I want to be remembered so that should I die before you and head off to the great beyond, I hope some of what I said below will make you smile because you remembered me as this person.  Here goes…

I want to be remembered as someone that…

  • Loved Jesus, my family and friends. In that order.  I was an evolving individual who tried to live each day better than the last. 
  • Lived life on her own terms.  I made mistakes and admitted to some and not others, but I grew from the lessons I learned.
  • Was a servant leader.  I lived life trying to be of service to others.  I got the greatest joy of being in the Lord’s army and realized that I could do more serving others than anything else in this world.
  • Was a great mother who loved her son more than life itself.  Someone that put his needs first and made sure that he had all that he could but more importantly that he was reminded of God’s grace and mercy.
  • Was a lover of food.  I liked to try new things and enjoyed the fellowship and frivolity of my friends.  My friends were my family.
  • Was a lover of colors.  I liked the color of blue because it reminded me of the ocean in Jamaica.  I loved the color of yellow because it reminded me of the sun shining on my beautiful brown skin as I swam in Hawaii.
  • Was a lover of strength.  Strength in a man, car or anyone was attractive. I tried to have strength in all things but I sometimes felt weak.  
  • Had an imperfect relationship with an imperfect man who was a runner. My dad. But God built that bridge and we took steps towards a reconciliation.
  • Knew what it felt like to have a broken heart, but God heals all and in the end I just loved love.
So, smile and think about all the things you’ve done and still want to do so that in the end how will you be remembered?