Happy Halloween!

Eat, drink and be scary. ~Author Unknown

 

Happy Halloween folks! I’m on mommy duty so all my time is spent being with my favorite boy in the world…my munch.  We’re actually going to get his best friend and god brother and head out trick or treating later on tonight. Munch decided that he wanted to be Sonic the Hedgehog again. LOL!

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Enjoy your day loves!

Trick or Treat

Candy candy in the bag
It’s that time of year
Funny clown witchy hag
Another house is near

Popcorn balls and tootsie rolls
A handful is the best
Taken from the biggest bowls
At homes that pass the test

Ding dong ring the bell
Trick or treat is said
And if it does not go so well
Then mark the first word said

Trees draped in toilet paper
Fecal bags on fire
Dressed like an undertaker
The trick was their desire

Midnight comes all bags are full
Time to count the bounty
The night is done we’ve played our role
All throughout the county

Enjoy this yearly fun filled night
Feast upon it’s riches
From the first and final bite
Of Hugs and Hershey Kisses

© Jim Ellis More By Jim Ellis Visit Jim Ellis’s Site

Published on October 2011

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/trick-or-treat#ixzz3pE9z5nCL
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#FBF: Hallow’s Eve

Hey Everybody!

Tomorrow is Halloween and we have a busy weekend filled with festivities. However, I wanted to share prior Halloween costumes of my munch with you (as suggested by a fellow blogger) in preparation for his favorite holiday.

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He was a duck for his first Halloween at 6 months old.
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He was 1 and Tigger in this photo.
He had two costumes this year. I can't remember if this was a platypus. He was 2.
He had two costumes this year. I can’t remember if this was a platypus. He was 2.
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Second costume at age 2. He was a skunk.
He was 3 years old and Thomas the Train
He was 3 years old and Thomas the Train
He had two costumes this year. He was Super Why? Age 4
He had two costumes this year. He was Super Why? Age 4
Here's the second costume. He was Lightning McQueen. Age 4
Here’s the second costume. He was Lightning McQueen. Age 4
He was Jake from Jake and the Neverland Pirates. Age 5.
He was Jake from Jake and the Neverland Pirates. Age 5.

 

That’s all. I don’t have any photos from last year because it was his dad’s week and he didn’t take the photos. He was Sonic the Hedgehog. He will be Sonic again this year.

Happy Hallow’s Eve Folks from Munch and I!

5 Basic Things All Women Need From A Man

The other day a friend and I were conversing about the state of men and women relationships. He dropped some really deep knowledge on me that I felt compelled to write and share with everyone. Now, before I do that, let me give you the following disclaimers…

  • We were sober. No alcohol.
  • He’s jaded and believes that people are not programmed to be faithful.
  • He’s in his 40’s.
  • He’s divorced.
  • He’s happily single.

LOL! I thought it best to share the specifics before continuing. But, what he said made sense to me. He said that women have five basic things that they need from a man. He said that it applies to all women. I disagreed and said maybe the majority (85%) would agree.

Here’s what he determines that women need:

  1. A provider. A man that will provide for his family whether financially or any way that she needs and views him as a provider. Doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have to work but that he is her partner. She is his helpmate.
  2. A protector. A man that will protect her should someone harm or disrespect his woman or their family. She needs to know that he won’t hesitate to fight someone in her honor.
  3. An intellectually stimulating man. A man that can stimulate her intellectually. She needs a man that can have conversations about any and everything that she finds to be of importance.
  4. An emotionally stimulating man. A man that will meet her emotional needs. Be concerned when need be and provide her the emotional support she desires if she is going through something that she finds challenging or difficult.
  5. A man that is an animal in bed. A man that will satisfy his woman completely with whatever they desire in bed.

What do you think ladies? Could you see this as being true? Do you disagree? Now, don’t get me wrong. I think you could add more to the list or rearrange to suit your needs, but many of us would agree to keep at least two of the basic needs right based on our views, morals, personal experiences and such?

However, I guess the bigger question is that if it is that simple, then why can’t we find eligible suitors? Are we looking for perfection? Are we too hard to please? Probably a little bit of both, but I guess it makes you wonder why can’t men meet those needs if they are that simple?

Ah, the joys of dating!

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200 + is Awesome!

I am now at over 200 followers! I have 218 followers to the blog, 318 on Twitter and 259 on my Facebook page. I’m super excited and I want to thank all of you for walking with me on this journey. I know it seems like a little thing to post a thank you for reaching over 200, but this is a big deal for me. I am super excited!

imageFor my new followers I want to scream “Welcome to my blog! I hope you see this blog as something you can relate to whether in faith, parenting, friendship, family, social injustices and/or relationships, I have something for everyone. I want to let you in to who I am and what I’m about. “

For my “old” followers, thank you for sticking with me on this journey. Your encouragement, likes and/or my comments on my posts have helped me continue when the road seems dim. You are truly appreciated.

I know that sometimes my posts seem like a hodgepodge of things from religion, to social issues to parenting or relationships but trust that this is my life. My wacky 40-year-old life that I love. I write about what matters to me or what is on my mind. I try to keep the posts to 5 a week, but sometimes the week is rough and I have more to say. Just stick with me though.

Thank you again for following and you are truly appreciated.

Who Knew

That I would like to work out with him. That I would enjoy working out with a man trying to live just a little bit healthier like me. What are your fitness goals? Are you trying to lose a lot of weight? Nope. Just trying to be healthier. I don’t want to be on medications.

I changed into my workout clothes and switched my hips when I walked in front of him, so he could get a good look at my bum! Yep, I was flirting. But, I was serious about the workout. I was sweating with my make-up running, but I was still looking cute. My hairstyle was holding up. I listened to Fetty Wap Radio on Pandora while we worked out. He listened to love songs. He smiled. I smiled. He has a nice smile.

He is an introvert. He is a parent of one. Has had similar experiences. He’s smart. He’s funny. He gets my satirical sense of humor. He likes my witty personality. He likes my desire to be a happier and healthier version of me. Who knew working out could be a fun date? Maybe we should do this again?

 

Photo Credit: Black Hair Magazine
Photo Credit: Black Hair Magazine

Assault at Spring Valley High

Please Note: This post has a video clip. If you are receiving this post via email, please click on the title and read it from my site directly to see the videos.

 

By now many of you have seen the video of the school resources officer, Deputy Ben Fields, in Richland County, South Carolina and the violent way in which he called himself removing a student. A FEMALE student. Can you believe it? Do you understand why I scream #BLACKLIVESMATTER?

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This is ridiculous! I’m outraged that a man is using excessive force on a CHILD. We are trying to teach our children that bullying is wrong and this dang officer is the bully. He’s using a badge to use brute force on our children.

Haven’t seen the video? Check it out here:

Do you see why our black children are afraid of law enforcement? Do you see why our black children are taught that if you encounter a white cop that you just be compliant and not resist? The child didn’t resist. She just shut down. This law official just threw her like she was a rag doll. As a human being you can’t tell me that he was justified in any way. He is a MONSTER!

Apparently, she was being disruptive. Disruptive! She was disruptive because she had her phone out. Are you serious? Disruptive means that you get to be dragged out with brute force and thrown around the room like a rag doll because you had pulled your cell phone out? No, it doesn’t.

This child was a victim of police brutality and this officer should lose his badge at the very least. I am too angry to think what I would have done if this man had manhandled my niece. I can’t find words to describe the pain I feel watching this video.

When you watch the video notice how the children don’t move or seem shocked that this is happening. What the heck is going on in this school? What about the teacher? Where the heck is the educator to not speak up or try to intervene on this child’s behalf? Aren’t you partly to blame? You like to watch children being manhandled with excessive force by a man who looks like he’s on steroids?

I send my son to school to get an education. To become a productive educated young man who will make a difference. To not be a victim of police brutality. I can’t help when he walks out the door and gets accosted walking because he’s black, but dang my tax payer dollars don’t support police brutality in the school.

I am praying for that young girl. I’m praying for the children in that class who didn’t seem shocked to see this kind of behavior and I’m praying that every human rights organization from the ACLU to the NAACP find out what kind of education and force are being used on our children at that school and fire every last person.

Is there any place our children are safe?

 

For Better or Worse and Addiction

Okay, yes I’m a celebrity (in my head) and I follow news of some of my favorite celebs like we’re best friends (sssh, don’t tell anyone) so it was a shock for me to read that my BFF (I told you I’m pressed) Khloe Kardashian Odom had called off her divorce to Lamar Odom. Why, I screamed? He’s an addict girl! You can’t fix him. Hell, Iylana Vanzant can’t fix him! You deserve better!

And then I paused.

Marriage is supposed to be forever right? I mean don’t vows say in sickness and in health? I mean does sickness include addictions where the person doesn’t believe that they have a problem. What if they never want to get help? Many addicts don’t see it as a problem. They can handle it.

But, when you addiction destroys your family then how the heck are you handling it? I mean I know love is supposed to transcend all, but is it reality that you stay with the person that is destroying you and your relationship? I don’t know. I wouldn’t stay if the person doesn’t want to get help. I mean Khloe covered up the lies for so long until the women started coming out talking about his affairs and his drug use publicly. She took the criticism.

She fought for her marriage. She left. She dated other people. She delayed and prayed that he would get help and hoped for a reconciliation. It didn’t happen. So, she filed for divorce. She still loved him. That love was reconfirmed when he overdosed at a brothel earlier this month. She flew to be by his side because she loved him and was still legally his wife.

She decided to fight for her marriage again and call off the divorce. Fight for the man that she loved. Fight for him as he geared up to fight his demons. The same demons that keep him trapped in a perpetual cycle of addiction. Lamar has a long road ahead of him and Khloe is fighting for her man, but she’s not naive. She’s in love. She wants her marriage. She wants that man. I just pray that this addiction doesn’t destroy her.

I will openly admit that I’m not as strong as Khloe. I grew up in a home with an addict and addiction is no place for a child. My dad is still an addict. I am an adult now and will fight for my dad, but a child should never have to endure that so I get where Khloe is coming from. I pray that she can stay the course and I pray that Lamar gets the help he needs.

Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian
Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian

Dang, I’m Slow

That’s what I thought as I read this great piece entitled “The Slow Fade: 8 Ways Guys Break Up Without Actually Breaking Up”. I realized that “I’m Slow and I was Slow Faded” by Mr. K. The guy actually went through all eight steps and I couldn’t even realize that I was being slow faded. How lame is that?

The author made a point of telling women that you’re not slow you’re just dating a pathetic loser. It didn’t really help me feel better. How could I miss the signs? How could I believe what this guy said? How could I not be more observant of his behavior?

“Here are eight behaviors to watch out for so you can hold that slow fader accountable, demanding he give you the respect and dignity you deserve.

1. He doesn’t call as much. Okay, this behavior is one of the easiest to write off because lots of guys claim they don’t like to talk on the phone (even though they do all day long). If yours is one of those guys, he will likely let you know early on, leaving himself the excuse he needs should he ever need to use it. Chances are he will. But because you have been duly warned, when the frequency of calls does return to what it once was before you told him how much you “love” to hear his voice, you overlook the slight, inadvertently forcing him to step up his game. In response…

2. He texts and emails less. Makes perfect sense, right? You are no longer in the “honeymoon” phase of your relationship, those first few dates when you are going gaga over one another (or at least one of you is) and are thinking about this new person more than you can stand. That’s what you tell yourself at least. You convince yourself you shouldn’t expect as much from him as you once did. Wrong. You should. But you take what you can get anyway until you notice…

3. His texts and emails become short and not so sweet. Remember those cute smiley faces? The XOs? The sweet sentiments? They are but a distant memory now. Instead, “thanks” is his new emoticon, leaving you to scratch your head wondering if you have done something wrong. Nah, you rationalize. It’s just that…

4. He is suddenly very “busy.” Yeah, that’s what it is! Work is CRAAAZY for him now. That explains why he hasn’t called, texted and emailed as much as he used to and didn’t make weekend plans with you until the last minute. But you’re happy he’s busy because…

5. He has so many family problems. A nasty divorce. A crazy soon-to-be ex-wife. A witch for an ex-girlfriend. Screwed up kids. And you, the hopelessly devoted girlfriend fool you are, don’t want him to suffer any more than he must. So you become even more understanding when…

6. He gets sick. Things have gotten SO bad for this guy he can barely function (or so you think). He has been so “busy” with work and family problems that now he’s not feeling well as a result. Poor thing. Which explains why…

7. He looks less appealing. All of a sudden he’s disheveled. Verklempt. But right away you feel guilty for even thinking such a thing about the guy who once treated you so well and say to yourself instead, “Maybe I’m not being supportive enough.” Whereupon he says to himself, “Maybe I’m dating Hellen Keller.” So what does he do?

8. He acts like a dick. He has finally reached DEFCON 1. His last resort. The part where he does something reprehensible in addition to all of the above which he is already doing in unison. It is his “plus one” (if you’re that fortunate). Maybe he cavorts with another woman. Perhaps he makes you the butt of a private joke you are not yet clued in on. Even worse is if he helps himself to one last kiss goodbye (or more) which you are unaware really is goodbye.”

See, Mr. K went through all 8 steps and I didn’t have a clue that I was being slow faded. I just believed his BS. I actually thought he was a nice guy and just going through a particularly difficult time. Nope, he slow faded me. I just wasn’t smart enough to catch on.

I even sent him the article and you know what he said, “You think I’m pathetic.” Really dude? Deflection. A tactic used by the manipulator. He then sent me a text saying that I reached out to you last week and asked you out? Umm, for what? So, I can sit across from you rolling my eyes thinking how stupid I was for trusting that you were a good person? I’ll pass.

So, ladies if you’re being slow faded now make sure you recognize the signs and confront the man. Spread the word and encourage men to just be men. Be up front and tell a woman if you’re not interested. Don’t make up excuses and then try to weasel your pathetic self back into a woman’s graces because you’re busted. Have some dignity!

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I Just Want to Say

Thank you.

Thank you for reading my blog. Thank you for subscribing. Thank you for following. Thank you for engaging. Thank you for being you.

I am sometimes slow to read and respond to the many blogs that come through my email but I promise you that I do read each and every post.  So, I say this to say that if it seems that I am “liking” your posts back to back that’s what it is. I get about 60 or more posts a day in my email.

I love my blogger family and sometimes ya’ll inspire me with new ideas or things to try. Like I learned about that dang Windows 10 upgrade and how to stop that foolishness, how to make the perfect baked chicken, how to appropriately tag in your posts and how to appreciate the many things that I have accomplished by writing them out.

Yes, there were many more things that I’ve learned, comments I’ve made and posts that I’ve liked that I’m thinking about highlighting some of my favorite posts each week and sharing them with my readers. Ya’ll are awesome and I just want to say thank you, thank you and thank you!

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Him

I told him that I pray every day and every night for God to strike him dead if he’s not who he says he truly is. If he’s not as wonderful and interesting and humorous as I find him. He laughed.

I know it’s a sinner’s prayer, but I am tired. Tired of meeting “possibilities”. I want a reality. A reality of something genuine. A reality where I am genuinely happy to see your picture flash across my screen. So, this is why I pray for God to strike down those that aren’t who they say they are.

He says, “There are nice guys out there”. I say, “Where?” He laughs. It is in the innocence of his laugh that I tell him that I am not amused by the choices. The choices of those that seem to have no morals, ethics or even religion. Those that try to run game. Those that think that I should be lucky to have met them. Ugh!

He says that he is a man of his word and values honesty. He wants women to have the same. I smile. I overshare. I tell him of good things, bad things and those in between things. I want him to know that I was a former spoiled brat that grew up. That life is about learning lessons. I’ve learned a lot, but there is always room to grow. I am growing.

I tell him that in Tuesday’s episode of “Being Mary Jane” that I learned that I am a lot like Mary Jane. In the episode her younger brother says

“you are a complicated and challenging woman and that is beautiful but you got to be able to recognize that not every man is cut out to deal with that. When everything comes easy for a man the last thing he is cut out to do is  fight for a difficult woman.”

I asked him does he agree. He said, “Yes, I agree. It’s true. I won’t fight for a difficult woman.” I sighed.

He said, “But, you’re not difficult.” I said, “but some people would say that I am.” He says, “Well, I don’t find you difficult. But, I guess it would depend on what is difficult. Whether or not you were pushing me away then I would not fight for that.” I said, “Okay, I understand.”

So, I smile and inwardly pray…

“Dear God, please let him be who he says he is, does what he says he’ll do and if not, just strike him dead!”

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