I was given the incredible opportunity to review the book Lose the Cape: Never Will I Ever…and then I had kids! I was super excited because this was my first ever book review. I see so many bloggers and wondered could I actually do that? What if I didn’t like the book? Could I be truthful if I didn’t?
Yes, I could. However, I must tell you that I LOVED THIS BOOK. It was a collection of stories from parents who all said things that they wouldn’t do when they had kids and the realities of what happened when they did. How many of us parents said the same things before we had kids?
Let me raise my hand.
I did it. I remembered when my best friend gave birth to her son a year before I had mine. I hated that she didn’t return my phone calls, couldn’t make time for going out and when I came over she looked a hot dang mess and would doze off or do other things when I wanted to talk. I vowed to never be that type of parent.
But, payback was a b*tch right? Ha!
When I gave birth to munch the next year I totally got what she went through and more. I was exhausted. To tired to get dressed, shower or return phone calls. I couldn’t be more exhausted from being a mom. I cried when I had to supplement formula because my precious munch wasn’t getting enough breast milk. When I had post partum depression, my best friend was right there with me.
She never said “I told you so.” She just smiled and helped me out. Like friends are supposed to do.
I can’t tell you that I wasn’t awful. I was. I was becoming a text book parent. Reading everything. I thought I had it all figured out. That parenting would be easy. But, it wasn’t. From not making his baby food, to letting him watch TV and having him get dirty after I just put a new outfit on him, this entire parenting thing wasn’t as I thought it would be. It was hard.
Lose the Cape: Never Will I Ever…and then I had kids! prepares you for the worst and educates you that it is okay that your pre-conceived notions go out the window. Most of us had grandiose ideas of what we would be like as parents; what we would allow our children to do and all those things we would never allow our children to do. We may have sworn we would never let our child watch more than 30 minutes of television, or sleep in our bed, or eat chicken nuggets or God forbid, cheese from a can (gasp!). Yet, the moment those little bundles of joy entered our lives, reality took over. Soon enough, we realized that before children, we knew nothing about being parents.
From breastfeeding to co-sleeping, pledging to feed our children all natural, home cooked meals and so forth, there often comes a point in time where surviving parenthood supersedes your views and your “nevers” slip away. Right?
Never Will I Ever is a collection of essays by mothers (and one brave dad!) who share their stories of how they evolved as parents and learned that when it comes to raising children, we can never say never.
I highly recommend this book as a gift to any parent, expecting parent or someone who wants to be a parent someday. It will change your mindset and give you clarity about letting your children just be. Yes, you will have to adjust your life to this little monster, but you know what? It’s so worth it.
You can buy the book here on Amazon: Lose the Cape: Never Will I Ever (and then I had kids!)
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