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Something for Nothing

You are always expecting something for nothing. – NB


My best friend says this all the time to describe situations where people expect you to do things for them when they don’t reciprocate. It’s hilarious to hear her say it but so profound in it’s simplicity.

We all know folks that expect you to do things for them, but bad mouth you or disrespect you. They expect something for nothing. But, that’s not acceptable behavior for adults. We need to lose sight of our expectations and understand that in life you get nothing when you give nothing.

If you’re being a douche to people in your life and you expect people to show or give you respect and you can’t do that for them, then I need you to stop it. You are a being a something for nothing kind of person. Kinda like being a fuc* boy. Need help?

Here’s how you are expecting something for nothing:

  • By not being respectful – It’s like that old adage “You catch more bees with honey than with vinegar.” If you are mean to people and you’re not being respectful, why would you think that someone should respect you? If you’ve insulted me then I should what?…continue to let you do so? Think about Trump and how he wants to be respected? How many people have you disrespected? Respect is earned.
  • By not reciprocating – When someone does something nice for you, you need to reciprocate. Pay it forward. Let them know that you appreciate what was done for you and you want to show it back to them. For example…if someone buys your lunch one day, buy theirs the next day. Reciprocity shows that you have respect for what was done for you.
  • By not remembering – How many times have you forgotten to do things or respond to people? If you are like me it’s probably a lot. I forget all the time. It’s nothing personal. I just have a million and one things going through my head and I forget to respond to people. But, I always try to remember when people do things for me. Why? Because they didn’t have too. I don’t expect something for nothing. I never forget what’s done for me. You need to remember that.

Don’t be a Something for Nothing Kind of Person. Please remember to be respectful, reciprocate and remember what others do for you. It’s genuine acts of kindness that we need not forget. It shows how grateful we are. Gratefulness is the foundation of who you should be.



  1. It’s society’s fault. I have this talk with my daughter when she’s on pintrest or any other sight. People can be mean from their confronts if their home. This anonymity factor is destroying human decency. Commercials, clothing, internet, sports, all tell you the same thing: that it’s all about you. Selfies: self
    Independent: by myself
    Going for mine: (or any other type of slogan) It’s all about me
    No one says sir, madam, ma’am, thank you, please, anymore.

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  2. It’s amazing how many people expect you to do things for them without offering any acknowledgement of thanks.
    Here are some simple examples:
    You hold the door for someone and they just walk though and don’t even smile or say thanks. Or when you drive and let someone go ahead and they don’t acknowledge by waving or anything.
    I know that those are minor examples, but it matters when you acknowledge nice things that people do.
    Great reminder Sis!


  3. I don’t know why kindness and manners are going out of style but I hope this trend ends quickly because it’s annoying. Le sigh.. So done with these something for nothing peeps lol


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