Stop what you may ask? Please stop sending me messages in comments asking me to follow your blog. I don’t know about you, but I hate when I get comments on a post with bloggers indicating that they’ve followed me and I would like me to follow them. I need you to stop it.
Why?
I follow over 1,000 bloggers. If you follow me, please note that I may look at your blog immediately and see if something resonates within me and follow you as well. However, I’ve learned that many people follow to follow. That’s not what I do. If I follow you, I will have your posts sent to my email which means that I read about 100 or more posts a day. I don’t just follow everyone.
I currently follow many people that don’t follow me. Does it bother me? No. I follow those who I enjoy. What bothers me is if I comment on a blogger’s post and they never respond. However, that’s not the case with those that I follow.
They are responsive and that is why I keep coming back to read their posts. Follow those bloggers that you like to read. Not the ones that you are trying to get to follow you just because. Cultivate an authentic blogging relationship.
If you want to gain new followers, please find a new way other than posting a comment asking me to follow you because you followed me. Spend time getting to know me. Comment on some of the things that I write. Show me you’re actually reading what I post and I promise you that kind of engagement will always make me follow you so that I can return the favor.
What are your thoughts on this?
Well said
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Thank you
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Ohhhhh, I am so glad someone said it. It’s been on my mind for days. What really sets me off, and I’ve been getting a lot recently now, is when a person comments on my post with- “Nice, check out my blog too.” Or “good, check out my posts too” and then leave their links.
I mean obviously, I saw the like/ comment and would probably check out the blog to see if I like it.
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Amen. My trash bin is full of those comments…
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I just want them to stop. Stop begging for followers. Grow at your own pace.
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I so totallly agree! And if I do read and comment it is nice to get a follow up and build support systems through blogging. I look at everyones blog who comments or likes…honestly these days Id rather get a comment that shows the person actually read it and didnt just go trough and hit a bunch of likes. Although I understand when you are following many, you cant comment on all so a like is just an acknowledgement of it being read. For me, /id rather have true conversations and input and friendships through commonalities in blogging. I like it to be real and not just another facebook world. To be asked to be followed is poor etiquette and that comes from someone who doesnt put a napkin in her lap!
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Yep, it does. I don’t always comment on every post because of the sheer magnitude of the blogs I follow, but trust me I don’t like what I haven’t read and I share posts through Twitter or my Facebook page. I usually comment on those posts that really resonate with me at that moment.
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That makes a lot of sense. I am impressed with how many blogs you do follow.
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Thank you. It takes time and interaction. I don’t read on the weekends and I play catch up Monday through Wednesday. I just want genuine relationships.
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Absolutely!
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I agree as well! I check out every new follow on my blog just to see what they are writing about. But I’ve found that I’ve become more selective in who I follow these days. Mostly for the same reasons you’ve stated: the posts get sent to my email and I want to enjoy what I am reading, and I want to be able to have a relationship with the blogs that I follow.
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Yep and unless it’s amazing. I’ll pass.
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It drives me NUTS when someone says – nice blog, please go check out mine and give me your thoughts.
Mostly my thoughts are to say fuck off and then block them forever.
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Lmao. I don’t block them. I just ignore them.
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agreed! also feeling honored that i’ve made your cut of 100 blogs to follow 😉
follow for follow is my least favorite thing in all realms of social media -_-
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Lol. I follow over 1000 and yes I read many posts. Average is closer to 200 a day except weekends. Then I’m playing catch-up. I follow those who have a point of view that resonates within me.
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I completely agree! I honestly read all the blogs I follow and won’t follow someone back if I don’t think I’ll be reading their posts. At the same time I follow bloggers who don’t follow my blog and it doesn’t bother me at all! 🙂
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It’s really a call to bloggers who don’t understand the rule. Why are you blogging? Do you do it for followers?
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Exactly. What’s the point of followers if they’re just people following you to get a follow back? They’re just a number, not someone you’re actually learning about or going to speak to.
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Newbie bloggers don’t get that. Don’t waste your time following people that you really don’t like to read their work. The whole point is to be both an engaged blogger and a real follower, not just a number.
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Yes, yes, yes – I totally agree. Many of these types of comments have to be approved by me – and I just do not approve them and never respond to them. I totally understand and agree with you Tikeetha. Thanks for writing this post. 🙂
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You’re welcome. It’s so exhausting. Follow me because you want to. Not because you want to build up your followers. Be authentic.
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Well said. I can’t keep up with it all. I’m not a professional blogger. I have a day job, a small farm, 3 kids, etc. Sorry, but if someone asks me to follow them, I’m not going to. Period.
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Lol. I know. I can’t follow those that ask instead of trying to engage. I’ve been out of town with poor cell reception soI know that I have about 1500 emails to go through. I’ll read them all.
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Ugh. I wouldn’t have the patience. 😊
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So annoying. Follow me or don’t, but don’t leave that dumb comment please.
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I hate them. I never follow someone hoping they follow me right back. If they do great. If not, oh well.
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I understand this! I’ve had the follow me I followed you comments before. I can only follow what I feel a connection with otherwise I’ll clog my reader up with stuff that doesn’t resonate.
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Preach. They don’t get that. Grow your blog at your own pace.
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Agree with you. I am relatively new to this malarky. I have needed to do this very thing you are talking about. It does take a while to get the hang of it all though. So I am gradually weeding out through my inbox!! And it really does not bother me if I leave a message for someone whose site I like but who does not follow me in return. I simply enjoy exploring others’ words. So, who knows, in time we might well follow each other. In the meantime, I wish you happy blogging!!
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That’s how you have to take it. I follow many people first and through genuine engagement they end up following me
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You were brave enough to mention this last year. I havent yet been. I touched on it the other day with a post I left up briefly about the fact that I think I creep people out when I comment on their stuff. Even that I didn’t leave up long. I know not everyone is writing for likes and followers but at the same time, you think it would be nice if you know someone is reading you and wants to talk to you, maybe understands where youre at. I’ve put thousands of comments out that never got answered and that pisses me off. Especially when it’s someone with only a handful of followers. I’m kind of wondering “why are you even here?” And then there are the sites with 20k followers that literally go down the Reader and like like like. Apparently not enough people are wise to this or they wouldn’t have that many followers. And you know theyre reading NONE of it. I’d honestly rather have a STRONG handful of 20 that I communicate with regularly than to have 500 people following me who don’t know who the fuck I am and never want to talk to me. I love comments on my page because then I get to talk to people and i know they actually read. And I feel like there’s no better way to bond with some with them through writing. Unfortunately the great majority here do not feel the same. It’s just self-serving posts for followers with a faceless author who doesnt want to engage. -sam
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Yep. I’ve seen those too. I comment and they say nothing. I think…how hard is it to respond? I just stop reading and move own. I don’t need someone to comment on everything, but occasional interaction is good. I tweet and share a lot of my great reads to my Facebook page.
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I had no idea that you were supposed to respond to every comment. I am guilty of this. Really bad. Single mom, two kids, and I only write when I need to vent. Recently started following a few other people. I will be sure to be more “blogger polite” in the future.
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Oh i dont mean respond with words per se….just ZERO acknowledgement! I think thats rude. If i had a thought about someones words i like to at least know they saw it. Or gave a damn lol!
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And i agree! Not enough time in the day!
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Just respond when you get a chance. I try to respond to every comment when I get a chance because I don’t want them to think that if they wrote that I don’t acknowledge them. It’s a learning process.
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There is no point in following someone when you don’t even understand/appreciate or feel a connection with what they are writing. I don’t want a follow for a follow, how disingenuous. If I like what you got, trust me…I will follow you!
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Totally agree. You want people that like reading your blog. Not people who you bully into following you.
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I didn’t realize this was a thing until I started looking up people who have similar interests to mine the other day… I can see how it would get annoying, but since my blog is my vent station/journal, I suppose it really doesn’t matter.
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Probably not.
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The same thing has been frustrating me lately, too. “Hey, your kid is cute! Can you follow my blog?” And sometimes just “Follow me please, I’m new!” It’s highly unlikely that I’ll even look at, let alone follow, someone who does that.
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I know right? Follow me because you like what I have to say and then start commenting and 9 out of 10 times I will start to read your blog and something will resonate within and I will follow you. But, there are many bloggers that don’t follow me and I don’t fret. I blog because I want too. Not because I’m looking for a huge following.
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My thoughts are that like most of the time I totally agree with you. I don’t even need a response to a comment of mine unless I ask a question. I’m following enough bloggers…including you my T., that I really understand the over 100 a day emails and this can really cut into my other daily life. Not that I have enough of one to actually matter but I don’t like anyone begging me to do anything. If I’m interested, I will follow…if not perhaps I peruse every once in a while. ~~dru~~
ps. No need for comment on this, I just assume you and others will read it.
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I’m sure you have a life dru. You are hilarious. I always read what you write and love to comment.
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Agree.
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You should totes follow my blog. I’m the bestest. 😉 Just kidding! I totally agree. I’m of the mind that people who blog only to receive followers will not get very far. Even if they do, what quality do they have in it? Probably not much.
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LOL. Of course Matthew. You have a great blog. Nope. It’s like a child raising their hand only for attention and not because they heard the question.
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Exactly. It would be understandable if they were a child. Most are not.
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I don’t really get this through my blog but definitely on social media and I just ignore them. It usually turns me off from whatever they are trying to promote tbh so yup, I feel you sis on this one. And wow you read 100 blogs a day? Now that’s a great topic for a blog post. I would love to read how you do that out of curiosity. lol
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It’s probably closer to 200 to 250 when I’m playing catch-up. It’s a lot. I follow a lot of great bloggers. I get them sent to my email and read them and like and/or comment on them. I can’t keep up with my bloggers on the reader. I’m not always on it and I don’t want to miss posts.
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I’ve only had one person come straight out and say this (which, when I think about it, is pretty amazing) — it seriously annoyed me, but he was young and brand new and I wrote it off to youthful tactlessness. This is an aggravating tactic, though, and has no place in thoughtful blogging.
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Nope. You learn that you have to build your blog at your pace and not just follow someone who you don’t enjoy reading just to get a follow. It may be inexperience, but hopefully they will see this post and realize that it is not proper blogging etiquette.
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Good point – well made! Love your feistiness… 🙂
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LOL. I just hate those comments. I’ve been blogging a long time and I have truly cultivated blogging relationships with people so get to know me. Not just look for me to follow you. It’s exhausting.
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Loved this Tikeetha, words hat should be in everyone’s blogging toolbox of etiquette 💕
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Thank you. I just get tired of those comments. I would rather you follow because you want too and not because you want follow to follow.
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I get a lot of those, or followers who hadn’t liked a single thing, it’s like why bother? Ha, the need for quantity over quality I would think. Peace and love and a hug for Munch💕💜
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Thank you!
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I have gotten this more on social media than I have on my blog and it is incredibly frustrating! Genuine engagement is really how we all can grow in this community:)
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Hahahaha! Love this Tikeetha! And that is exactly why I LOVE your reading posts. Because they’re raw. Raw and real!!! 💜❤️💜❤️
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Thanks sis! Long time no hear. I’ve been missing your posts. If you posted from Saturday through today I’m playing catch-up. I was in the country. How are you?
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I’ve had a few ask me to “check out their blog.” I agree that a lot of “followers” only follow you so that you will follow them. I try to follow bloggers who follow me but after a while, if they never “like” or comment, I just don’t read them anymore…and like you sis, if they never respond to a comment….sayonara!
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Excellent and needed to be said, loud and clear! 👍👊That is a pet peeve of mine in addition to bloggers that have no original content and only reblog other people’s work. I also follow lots of blogs that don’t follow me back and that’s cool because it’s about community and exchanging with likeminded bloggers and aspiring authors.
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Completely agree! I will follow if something resonates with me!
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Yep. What they ^^^ all said lol My next pet peeve…serial likers. Maybe I’ll write about them.
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Yep, please do.
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Well said! How do you have the time to read 100 a day? You are super woman! I am an extremely slow reader and can barely accomplish 5 a day! Thank you for following me and your well written posts!
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No problem. I read a lot in between working and managing people. If I don’t I would never get through people’s posts. However, it doesn’t leave me much time to read outside of blogger posts. I’m working on that.
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Yes, It’s hard to take on new bloggers to read. I do check for ones that have been dormant for many months and remove them from my feed.
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I agree. Social media should have a social component–and bloggers should have manners.
Hopefully they’ll learn, in time. Perhaps this post will help. 🙂
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Aww, thank you. I hope so. We have to be better citizens with social media.
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I’ve never actually seen/been asked to follow so that I may follow. I just think that sometimes it is hard to not lose authenticity and being genuine when one is fixated about quantity but that just means that individual’s needs to re-evaluate and refocus. I don’t know about you but it really makes me disappointed when I see someone follow what I am doing, then only to see them doing the same thing to dozens of people. I would hope if someone follows, they like something that I am doing or said or something. Not just CLICK, click..click.
~ Bre
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Absolutely. I want an authentic appreciation for what I write, not just follow because I followed you and then you never read anything I write. That sucks.
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Exactly; successful blogging ( or at least a positive blogging experience) necessities being selfless in ways.
~ Bre
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I hope the newbies get the message.
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