Recently, I had a conversation about interracial dating with a group of women (and some men). This group was predominantly black (or of African descent), mixed with women and men from other races as well.
I asked them,
“Are you open to other races? Have you always been? What made you open up your options?”
Some of the responses were startling
“I prefer chocolate men but with the shortage of black men, I may have to explore other options.”
Really, I hadn’t realized that black men had gone the way of the Siberian Tiger. Needless to say, there are a lot of black women who have bought into the hype that good black men are becoming extinct. This is very disheartening.
Even worse is this response from another black woman.
“Before I wasn’t. Now I am. I only changed my mind because there are very limited good options in the black community…..I used to say I want to be with somebody who understands us and our struggle; however, I now realize that also comes with lots of trauma and negative energy too sometimes. I’ll pass.”
So you’ll pass on black men, and date interracial because of your choices in men? I find that some women and men, “switch-up-the-program,” because of their negative experience with a handful of people. As a result, this lack of accountability mutates into misguided anger and resentment for black men, or women overall.