I struggled with the title of this post. I was unsure whether or not to call it “Haters Gonna Hate” or “Losers Never Win” but opted for the above post. Why? Because I want to talk to you about something that has been on my mind lately.
I’ve always been honest here right? This is the space where I can truly let you know how I feel about things. To write without reason or thought. To show my true emotions. To let you know that I am human and that I hurt too. That what I experience is similar to what you go through.
I’ve found my tribe here on line in most of my interactions. In others, I’ve found unexpected outbursts coupled with anger. But, I pray for them. No two people are alike and people are entitled to their opinion. If I feel the need to unfollow them, I will.
I try to live my life in a positive way. My attitude determines my altitude so I try to not to fly too low as to damage my wings of hope. Why? Because God has been amazing to me. I love my life. I am so blessed right now that I can’t even begin to tell you how much he’s done for me.
But, I promise that I will try before the end of 2016.
I am conflicted. I have emotions that are causing me angst when it comes to things in my life. For the most part, 95% of the the things that I’m experiencing are wonderful. This is a change from last year because it was probably only about 15%. But, I was faithful. I woke up every morning and said “Lord, give me the strength to endure.”
Endurance was the thing that I looked for. I craved it. I needed it. I just fell on the altar.
All this while trying to date a wonderful man who loved God too. A man who encouraged my spirit and shared the word with me through a devotional. A man who saw past my circumstances and prayed for my strength.
He didn’t run.
We continued to grow and nurture our friendship.
I found that God had not abandoned me.
He had sent me another leg in the stool of my life to support me. He was letting me know that he hadn’t forgotten me. But, I didn’t know it yet. I just thanked God for more prayers and encouragement.
I am in a much better place than a year ago. I am growing. I am learning new things. I am…
learning to mind my own business.
What I mean is that no one knows what two people go through. No one knows the truth of any situation or relationship. You know the old adage that there are 3 sides to every story: his, hers and the truth? It’s an accurate statement. People spend so much time trying to read what I write on this blog and discern my mindset.
Let me help you…
If not, then mind your own business. You see, it is not my place to interfere in other’s people’s business. Not even in a well meaning effort do I put my mouth or nose into something that doesn’t have anything to do with me.
Because I have enough things to worry about. Now, let me preface this with saying that unless someone is in danger, you need to do as I do and mind your own business. It will help you in the long run.
I am a lover of people. A survivor of abuse. A supporter of women. A mother. A daughter. A sister. A friend. An activist. An educator. A business woman. A girlfriend and many other titles. I don’t hate on anyone.
Unless you threaten to harm me or my son I could care less who you are or what you do. You want to know why? Because I’m too focused on my blessings and living my life. I don’t try to start stuff with folks.
I don’t care if people like me or hate me. I mind my own business. I don’t try to engage with people that don’t wish me well. You know why? Because God has increased my territory substantially. He’s put people in my life that have been a blessing to me. He’s also removed those things and people from my life that weren’t on the level he’s placed me.
One day, I will share my truth. In my own words. In my book. No need to read between the lines. Just mind your own business and let me mind mine.