Okay, yes I’m a celebrity (in my head) and I follow news of some of my favorite celebs like we’re best friends (sssh, don’t tell anyone) so it was a shock for me to read that my BFF (I told you I’m pressed) Khloe Kardashian Odom had called off her divorce to Lamar Odom. Why, I screamed? He’s an addict girl! You can’t fix him. Hell, Iylana Vanzant can’t fix him! You deserve better!
And then I paused.
Marriage is supposed to be forever right? I mean don’t vows say in sickness and in health? I mean does sickness include addictions where the person doesn’t believe that they have a problem. What if they never want to get help? Many addicts don’t see it as a problem. They can handle it.
But, when you addiction destroys your family then how the heck are you handling it? I mean I know love is supposed to transcend all, but is it reality that you stay with the person that is destroying you and your relationship? I don’t know. I wouldn’t stay if the person doesn’t want to get help. I mean Khloe covered up the lies for so long until the women started coming out talking about his affairs and his drug use publicly. She took the criticism.
She fought for her marriage. She left. She dated other people. She delayed and prayed that he would get help and hoped for a reconciliation. It didn’t happen. So, she filed for divorce. She still loved him. That love was reconfirmed when he overdosed at a brothel earlier this month. She flew to be by his side because she loved him and was still legally his wife.
She decided to fight for her marriage again and call off the divorce. Fight for the man that she loved. Fight for him as he geared up to fight his demons. The same demons that keep him trapped in a perpetual cycle of addiction. Lamar has a long road ahead of him and Khloe is fighting for her man, but she’s not naive. She’s in love. She wants her marriage. She wants that man. I just pray that this addiction doesn’t destroy her.
I will openly admit that I’m not as strong as Khloe. I grew up in a home with an addict and addiction is no place for a child. My dad is still an addict. I am an adult now and will fight for my dad, but a child should never have to endure that so I get where Khloe is coming from. I pray that she can stay the course and I pray that Lamar gets the help he needs.
A Thomas Point of View 
Well said. I don’t agree with staying in a marriage riddled with turmoil. However, you can help who you love and if you’re willing to fight til the end to protect that love and the marriage, who’s business is it to advise otherwise. Only you know when you’ve had enough. Until then, may God’s strength, grace and mercy be with you.
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*correction…you can’t help who you love
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I agree, I believe in for better or worse but when it comes to addiction it doesn’t apply. I addiction is something that someone doesn’t bring their family into (and most addicts do). Both of my parents struggle with their own addictions and I swore I would never do that to my kids. Because of their addictions they are no longer here. My point being, I would leave an addict.
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Great post, and all very true. I hope it ends up for the best but I can’t help but have some doubt. I do applaud Khloe for standing by him when he needed her most. If anyone doubted her commitment before, they certainly cannot now.
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I know right? I couldn’t be that strong, but my reality is different from hers and I hope that they work out and if they don’t I hope there is minimal damage to both.
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