I need advice.
Mr. C got another opportunity within his organization to move into a field he’s interested in. It’s exciting. He interviewed a couple of weeks ago and I knew that he would get it. I prayed that God’s will be done. And it was. He’s happy and so am I.
the new work hours suck! He has to work Monday through Friday from 2pm to 10pm. Ugh! He also has a part-time job that he works overnight from Saturday 11pm to Sunday 11am. I work 8:30am to 5pm.
See the frustration?
Sigh…that’s my life. Nothing is simple.
I’m happy for this new opportunity, but I can’t help to wonder where will this leave us? My love language is quality time. I told ya’ll that last month. He’s been good. We’ve been spending more time with each other. But, how can we do that if his new work hours will be until 10pm?
How can we work this out living on two opposite ends of the county and trying to date? When will we have time to spend together? Now, before you say “T, what adjustments are you making?” I am making adjustments. When he changed his schedule to work form 10am to 7pm I moved my hair and nail appointments to accommodate Friday evening date nights or Saturday morning breakfast.
I told him that. He suggested that I move them again. Move my hair appointments to Friday nights after I get off work. This will allow me to be finished by the time he gets off work and then we can spend a couple of hours hanging out. I agreed. I’m trying to be flexible.
I’ve put date times on his calendar for Friday of this week 3 days next week and 2 days the week of the 20th and 2 the week of the 27th. Since I don’t know when he’ll start, I’m just trying to grab all the time I can get. I know it sounds irrational, but I like spending time with him.
I’m trying to be understanding. He has responsibilities outside of having me as a girlfriend. I get that. He asked me did I want him to turn the job down? I told him no. I mean it too. I would never stand in the way of his career.
Just wondering how you make it work when you work different hours, live on different sides of the county and one person works 6 days a week. I’m not walking away from him. I would just like suggestions on how we can work through this setback when my love language is quality time?
Quality Time is defined as…In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.