September 2008
Heavy is the crown that comes with trying to be a good employee, wife and mother. I am failing miserably. There is not one day that goes by that I don’t see the looks of disgust as I leave on time to get my son. I have no help. I am a mother first.
I chose to be a mother. But, apparently I’m not afforded the same privileges as my co-workers that have children. I have to choose work over mothering. How the hell can I do that? Why would I do that?
I can’t help that I’ve been out on leave for the last 6 months and that as soon as I get back to work, my husband is now sick. I have a strict schedule. It’s the only thing that makes sense about the situation…
- I get up at 5 a.m.
- I shower
- I get dressed
- I pack Munch’s diaper bag
- I leave the house at 5:45 a.m.
- I arrive at day care at 5:58 a.m.
- At 6:01 a.m. I am handing him to the teacher in the infant room
- I leave at 6:05 a.m.
- I arrive at work at 7:30 a.m.
- I leave at 4:30 p.m.
- I arrive at day care at 5:58 p.m.
- I leave for the hospital to see my husband
- I arrive at 7:00 p.m.
- I stay until 10:00 p.m.
- I get home by 10:45 p.m.
- I get the baby bathed and in the bed.
- I crawl in the bed at 11:45 p.m.
- I sleep to start it all over again.
Heavy. My life is so heavy right now. But, I will choose my son over it all. I just need to work to make sure that the money continues to roll in. We have bills. We need two incomes. I am so very tired. No one understands that there is no choice but me. I watch other people afforded the opportunities that I don’t seem to have.
I sigh.
Adjust this heavy crown. Do it all again. Each and every day. Why? Because I’m a mother. I’m expected to figure it the hell out.
This post was part of the A2Z challenge and the letter “H” is for Heavy. My posts will be written as a journal style for the challenge and will be on the theme: Mothering While Black. I hope you enjoyed it.
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A Thomas Point of View 
So true and so sad that employers want you to choose.
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Exactly you should never have to choose between your family and your job
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Parenting is hard enough without others judging us. Continue to choose your over work. It might be heavy now, but the load will lighten soon enough. Thanks for sharing and showing that it isn’t always so glamorous. #AtoZChallenge
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*choose your kid over work 🙂 I forgot that word.
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Thank you so much
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Quite a heavy life, I must say, but great to go on!! That’s what it’s all about..
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Thank you so much.
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I agree. We as mothers are truly superwomen because the amount of things we deal with on a daily basis is sometimes overwhelming. I think employers should be more understanding when it comes to employees with kids and even more so when the person is a single parent. They need to understand that yes the job is important but my child also comes first.
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Exactly, but parents have to be strong enough to ask for things that they want.
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