Ladies – Do You Groom?

I’m not talking in general, but specifically when you go to the gynecologist. Do you groom your body before a pap smear or gynecologist exam? I mean I can’t be the only woman who thinks it is important when heading to the gynecologist to make sure that my pedicure is fresh and everything else from the top to body is as well.

I only book early morning appointments if I can help it. I also make sure that my legs are shaved, my feet finely shaped and no hammer toes or cracked skin. Yep, I still lotion my body from head to toe. I don’t use spray in between my legs because I don’t want it to mess up any cultures or exam. However, I refuse to let myself look like I just woke up and came out when someone is between my legs.

Especially a medical professional.

I had my exam yesterday with one of the male doctors in the practice and I swear he gets cuter every year. He’s not even 40 yet. This man diagnosed me 9 years ago with preeclampsia and he was only 31. He circumcised my son and has been a vital part of my medical history for the last 9 years since I arrived at the practice.

There is never awkwardness between my gynecologist and I. Great conversation and sincere concern about my health. He’s given me great advice on my weight loss and overall health. He’s also pretty hot.

He told me when he finished looking in between my legs that he liked my red toe nail polish. He noticed. Aww, it was the little things.

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Needed Me

I have to tell you that I’m jamming to Rihanna’s latest song. It is actually a ring tone for someone in my phone. It is a great beat and kind of addictive. LOL. If you haven’t heard it. Please check it out here:

So, my friend Matthew over at Confessions nominated me to do the Four Facts Survey. I hadn’t posted in a couple of days so I thought it would be an awesome way for you to learn more about me. Let’s go…

Four names people call me other than my real name?

Kee, Keetha, T and Baby. My family and close friends call me Kee or Keetha. However, some people call me T or TT. My name is kind of formal so I’m okay with an appropriate abreviation. I don’t like Kee – Kee. Which is weird because Mr. C asked me could he call me that when we first started talking and I said, “Sure”. LOL. When we met and spent more time together he just called me by my full name. His response was “Kee Kee doesn’t fit you.”.

Four jobs that I have had?

I picked tomatoes at 10. I’m sure that there were some child labor laws that were being broken at that time, but it was the south and I wanted some pocket money. All day from sun up to sun down and I think that the most I ever earned was $40. I also did phone surveys, worked at McDonald’s and I’m a healthcare analyst now.

Four movies that I have watched more than once?

Purple Rain, Creed, The Wiz and all the Star Wars.

Four books or authors I’d recommend?

Wow, I love reading and I’m a history buff but a true sci-fi lover. But, I also love books that elevate or encourage my thinking or well-being. So, the latest books that I would recommend that I’ve read multiple times: The Hunger Games, Divergent Series, The Wait and No More Sheets.

Four places I have lived?

Tennessee, Maryland, Spain and England.

Four places I have visited?

Jamaica, Mexico, Hawaii and Nappa Valley.

Four things I’d rather be doing right now?

Sitting in a coffee shop, drinking coffee, curled up with my Kindle and a scone.

Four foods I do not like?

Clams, carrots, Haggis and turnips.

Four of my favorite foods?

Pizza, steak, burgers and any kind of pasta.

Four shows I watch?

Love and Hip-Hop series, Wayward Pines, Sleepy Hollow and Being Mary Jane.

Four things I am looking forward to this year?

Going to Miami in July, going home to Tennessee in September, redesigning my website and taking my son to Disney in the winter.

Four things I am always saying?

  1. There is no difference between me and the next person. I just wanted it bad enough.
  2. God speaks to me in a KISS (Keep it Simple Stupid) approach.
  3. Never align yourself with someone who lacks purpose or vision.
  4. I’m truly blessed that God allows people to come into my life that I learn from and can grow with.

Now that you learned some stuff about me. I’m recommending the following 4 blogs to do the same thing with the 4 facts survey. I can’t wait to see what you come up with…

Ginger Funk’s Blog

Hot Mess Memoir

Nicky’s Day with Autism

Grow with Me

 

 

 

On the 6th Day of Christmas

What I received this year…

A forgiving spirit – Let me tell you how many times I’ve held on to the wrongs that people have done to me. I will cut people from my life with a quickness but I never forget the hurt. It takes years. I still feel pain if it is was someone who I was truly close to. But, I realized that there is a time for everything and I have to accept that some people will play major roles during minor times and others will play minor roles during major times and that is okay. It’s seasonal. I need to forgive those that I feel should have stepped up and had my back or just been there for me.

But, I didn’t. I would hold on to that pain. I received a forgiving spirit. I needed to forgive people who had wronged me but more importantly I needed to forgive myself for thinking that I could have done more for them to still be in my life. I learned that it is okay to just let go and be satisfied that it is for the best. A forgiving spirit is a beautiful thing.

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200 + is Awesome!

I am now at over 200 followers! I have 218 followers to the blog, 318 on Twitter and 259 on my Facebook page. I’m super excited and I want to thank all of you for walking with me on this journey. I know it seems like a little thing to post a thank you for reaching over 200, but this is a big deal for me. I am super excited!

imageFor my new followers I want to scream “Welcome to my blog! I hope you see this blog as something you can relate to whether in faith, parenting, friendship, family, social injustices and/or relationships, I have something for everyone. I want to let you in to who I am and what I’m about. “

For my “old” followers, thank you for sticking with me on this journey. Your encouragement, likes and/or my comments on my posts have helped me continue when the road seems dim. You are truly appreciated.

I know that sometimes my posts seem like a hodgepodge of things from religion, to social issues to parenting or relationships but trust that this is my life. My wacky 40-year-old life that I love. I write about what matters to me or what is on my mind. I try to keep the posts to 5 a week, but sometimes the week is rough and I have more to say. Just stick with me though.

Thank you again for following and you are truly appreciated.

Maybe It’s You

Here’s a letter that I wrote to a friend…

Men and women love different. People love different. I don’t lump people in the same category because realistically speaking some people don’t know how to love. Not everyone’s plan is to make more and do more. But, on that note what is wrong with women who want a man to have a plan for their future. Not a bigger house, but a bigger retirement account so that they don’t have to retire at 70. Is that wrong? Everything is a business. Marriage yes. Love no. So, I disagree that both are a business. Marriage is a business because is in the truest form it is a partnership whereby two people are supposed to respect each other and work together for the betterment of the family. Shared goals, shared vision and shared purpose. I mean if you look at the most successful businesses it is because everyone knows what their purpose is in the company. Whether or not they want to work at their full potential is something else, but you know what position you are supposed to play. The problem is that people don’t discuss these things prior to engaging in a relationship. You fall for someone cause she has a nice ass and a decent personality and then you try to make a relationship work. You never focus or take time out to find out what that person values. If you do and you can’t live with it you walk away. Believing that you can change them is ridiculous. You can’t but you can’t fault the entire (or 51%) gender because you keep picking the same kind of women. Maybe it’s you. I’m not saying that to be mean or disrespectful either. I had to accept that about me. I seem to engage and like spending time with men that have never really been in love or I question do they like women. I know it is something wrong with me. Why do I keep attracting the same kind of men? What kind of energy am I putting out?

Plan as a noun: a specific project or definite purpose:  plans   for   the   future.

That’s what I mean by saying a plan. If your plan when you we are dating is to retire in 10 years and you get a retirement check but then you want to work somewhere else because you’re too young to stop working, then you have a plan. If your plan is I want to retire at 60 and travel the world and I’ve devised a strict budget to allow that to happen, you have a plan. Your plan doesn’t have to be tied to a bigger house or a bigger car, it’s your plan.

Grand dreams are subjective and you should weed those out early. Don’t waste your time with people that aren’t on your level, but be clear and steadfast on those things that matter most to you. No one person is responsible for the relationship and if you are only meeting selfish women then dang, change your surroundings. Those women can impede your progress and have you stay stagnant in the belief that that the majority of the women are like that.

When you find someone you want to marry then your plan should be to provide for your family and that should be hers as well. Your combined family. Her money counts too. Not just yours. It’s about making sure she is your partner and not another dependent that you can’t write off on your taxes. So, you’ve been in love but one and a half times? Really? How old are you again. You should want a woman with a plan. If her plan is to stay at her job making $40,000 a year and never trying to grow her bank account or skills and you make twice as much as that then it will be hard as hell to date her non having plan ass and take her seriously. How can she really determine when you two can retire comfortably or recommend the best retirement locations because she has no plans for her own immediate life? She is just existing.

If a man has a plan that is not in line with mine that doesn’t make him a good or bad man, just not the man for me. For example if he wants to be a rapper after being a wall street broker, okay that’s cool. That’s not what I want and I wish you luck. If I stay I wouldn’t be helping anyone. Much less myself. But, I am an eternal optimist. I believe in love and I still believe that there is good in humanity. All the violence and disrespect and I still find the mind of a black man just as important as his heart and I would do my damnedest to protect them both.

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Follow Friday

Hi Everyone,

Happy Friday!

This is my first #followfriday post.  I have met so many wonderful people and I would like us to connect through the various social channels.  Currently I’m on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Google +. Would you like to connect?

Facebook
I am definitely trying to increase my likes as well as readership. So, please click this link: A Thomas Point of View and go to my page. Don’t forget to hit the like button.

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Twitter

I’m also on Twitter. If you are on Twitter too, check me out and follow me. I will follow back. You can follow me on Twitter by clicking this link:  MsKeeinMD and clicking the follow button.

Twitter for mskeeinmd

Instagram

I’m also on Instagram and would love to connect with you as well. You would just need to type in my name in the search button and my page will come up and just follow me or you can just click here:  MsKeeinMD

Instagram

Google +

For those of you that use Google, I’m also on Google +. You can add me to your circles here: Tikeetha

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Well, that’s all my social pages, I would love to connect and thank you for following me on this #followfriday post. Have a wonderful weekend!