TBT – Bowling Birthday

Hey Everyone,

In my Throwback Thursday moment, I wanted to share that munch’s 4th birthday party was at a bowling alley. We had so much fun. We had lanes for both the adults and children who wanted to bowl. I got smarter that year and hired a photographer because I really didn’t have photos. I was so busy tending to munch and my guests that I didn’t take photos. Best money ever spent.

Here are some photos:



Happy Halloween!

Eat, drink and be scary. ~Author Unknown


Happy Halloween folks! I’m on mommy duty so all my time is spent being with my favorite boy in the world…my munch.  We’re actually going to get his best friend and god brother and head out trick or treating later on tonight. Munch decided that he wanted to be Sonic the Hedgehog again. LOL!


Enjoy your day loves!

Trick or Treat

Candy candy in the bag
It’s that time of year
Funny clown witchy hag
Another house is near

Popcorn balls and tootsie rolls
A handful is the best
Taken from the biggest bowls
At homes that pass the test

Ding dong ring the bell
Trick or treat is said
And if it does not go so well
Then mark the first word said

Trees draped in toilet paper
Fecal bags on fire
Dressed like an undertaker
The trick was their desire

Midnight comes all bags are full
Time to count the bounty
The night is done we’ve played our role
All throughout the county

Enjoy this yearly fun filled night
Feast upon it’s riches
From the first and final bite
Of Hugs and Hershey Kisses

© Jim Ellis More By Jim Ellis Visit Jim Ellis’s Site

Published on October 2011

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/trick-or-treat#ixzz3pE9z5nCL

The Fat Tales: Role Model

Sometimes I feel like supermom. I can do anything…

Credit Illustration by Nishant Choksi
Credit Illustration by Nishant Choksi

Other times I feel like I’m burning the candle at both ends.


But, I keep trying. I keep striving. I keep pushing forward. In my desire to eat and live a healthier lifestyle I realized that there are some things that I just have to do. I have to commit to it. I have to read labels. I have to reduce sugars.

Well, as a parent it gets hard. But there are those little rewards that you get when your son reminds you that he is watching. That I am a living example of trying to just make healthier choices.

Munch showed me that he watches me. Let me tell you what happened… I fixed him breakfast yesterday and he didn’t eat much. I fix him the same thing every day: one waffle, three pieces of bacon, a bowl of fresh fruit (ex. watermelon, grapes or apple slices) and a glass with 1/3 orange juice.

Munch said that he was finished eating. I went and looked at his still full plate where he ate one piece of bacon and ate only 3 pieces of watermelon. I said, “Munch, you didn’t eat anything.” He responded “I’m full.” I was irate. I said “You’re wasting food. What do you want me to fix you for breakfast?” He responded, “I’m watching my sugars. I want one waffle with no syrup and one piece of bacon and 3 pieces of watermelon.”

I smiled. My determination to focus on mindful eating and healthier living is impacting munch. He is watching. He is listening. He wants to watch his sugar intake. It was a proud mommy moment.

Guest Blogger: 6 Things I Want My Kids to Know

I always imagine that if something were to happen to me today; what would I want my kids to know about life?  I thought about it, and I came up with 6 lessons that I think they should know.

6 Things I Want My Kids to Know

  1. Know yourself.  It’s harder than it sounds, but once you figure it out handling the world will be a lot easier. Knowing yourself is as simple as listening to the little voice that guides you.  The problem is there are times when you will want to ignore it. However, my advise is don’t ignore the little voice.  It’s always right!
  2. Love yourself.  This kind of goes with knowing yourself.  Love yourself when nobody else does. When no one else is around you always have the love of yourself. Loving yourself is the most powerful thing you can do.
  3. Cherish Your Loved One. Cherish the people who have enriched your life, they won’t be here forever.  Take time, soak up the moments, take in the lessons.  Those moments will stay with you a life time.
  4. Eat Healthy. Good food helps you perform better in life.  Give your body the best, so you are prepared to be the best everyday.
  5. Don’t Get Discouraged. There will be somethings in your life that won’t workout the way you want.  However, in the end you will see that the situation worked out the way it was supposed to or even better.
  6. Something so simple can change the course of your day.  A smile can also help another person’s day.  It’s free, easy, and can make a world of difference.

Happy Boy And Girl Playing Together And Relaxing

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The First Week of School

So, I survived the first week of school with minimal disruption other than the first day follies that I talked about last week. Thankfully! I did learn some lessons including co-parent tips that I wanted to share.

  1.  Make sure that your Before and After Care situation is resolved before the school year ends. That way you won’t run into the problems that I had when I assumed that my application was accepted. Ugh!
  2. Make sure that your child has a new outfit for the first day of school. We didn’t have money growing up but my mom did have enough for one outfit for each of us. Munch’s dad had new pants only. His shirt was too small and I wasn’t happy because I called the night before to bring over his book bag, new shoes and asked did he have a new outfit for the first day. Yes is what he told me. He couldn’t find the new shirt and my son looked crazy. I went home and came back with a new shirt. I was disappointed because munch had a growth spurt towards the end of the school year and we both knew it. I wanted him to look like a shiny new penny on the first day which is what we experienced growing up. His dad’s mother would have never let him go outside looking less than shiny on the first day.
  3. Get back in the swing of things by preparing your meals in advance so that when you pick your child up you can heat up dinner instead of going out to eat every night. I just couldn’t get it together. However, my wallet knows. I’ll be prepared next week.
  4. Just buy the school supplies yourself if the other parent doesn’t mention anything. His dad didn’t offer to split the cost, get school supplies or reimburse me so I just didn’t worry about it. I wanted him to be prepared so I did it for munch.
  5. Either take the day off or mark a half day on your calendar so that you can meet everyone without having to rush off to a meeting. I did get to meet his teacher and principal on the second day so that was a blessing.
  6. Be sure to explain any changes to your little one in their normal schedule often. Munch couldn’t understand item #1 above and it disrupted his normal schedule. We talked about it 10 times until he felt he understood it.

Those were my lessons learned after the first week of school. I survived. What about you? Do you have any lessons you learned?

No One Like Mama

So, let me pause and say that I love men and all that you do. Now, that I’ve said that, can I just be honest and say that there’s nothing like a mother to comfort her child when he’s sick? I mean I get that men can take care of their children and they do it well, but there’s nothing like a mother’s touch or kiss when you’re sick. You instantly feel better. Or so I’m presuming.

My munch is sick. He’s been sick since Sunday. I’m dying because he’s sick and he’s not with me. Yes, I know his dad is taking good care of him, but I’m his mama. He’s my only child and my womb aches when he’s not around (Okay, not really, but you get the drift?). I miss my munch and his sickness makes me sad especially because I’m not there to kiss and comfort his feverish body. Yeah, I know it’s overkill, but it is the truth.

Sunday night his dad called me to say that he was taking munch to the Urgent Care and wondered if I wanted to meet them. “Hell yes” was my reply. I rushed to be with my son and we arrived at the same time. The saddest brown eyes looked at me. I reached over and hugged him to me and he was burning up. “He has a fever” I stated. His dad said, “That’s why I brought him”.

The pediatrician at the Urgent Care stated it was a virus and it would have to pass. Keep him hydrated. “That’s it?” I questioned. “Yes, there is nothing we can do other than waiting for it to work its way through his system” he said. “Dang doctors” I muttered. I held on to my baby tightly.

It’s now been 4 days and he was seen by his pediatrician twice as well. They repeated what the Urgent Care doctor said and said to keep with the BRATS diet but add protein. “My poor baby” I muttered.

I call his dad five times a day in between meetings because my boss went on vacation and I’m apparently in charge. I don’t want to be in charge. I want to be a momma. I want to hold my baby and nurse him back to health. On one of those calls I asked munch, “Baby, how are you feeling?” He responded, “Mommy, I don’t feel good. I got diarrhea.” I laughed uncontrollably. I needed to laugh.

These are moments when I hate co-parenting. When I have to let his dad parent without me. I know his dad is taking care of him just fine. I know that his dad will always do what’s best for his son, but I just know that there’s nothing like a mama. Especially munch’s momma.

Ah, the joys of parenting.

Boy (9-11) holding stomach, grimacing

Weekend Recap

Okay, so my weekend was laid back, fun, awesome and troubling. Yep, I went through all those emotions in one weekend. It was kinda overwhelming. Let’s see. My weekend looked like this:

Friday night

Girl time. I love girl time and my girlfriend hosted a get together at her house. We kept the list small to 8 invited women and then had 5 showed up. We enjoyed it. Of course we talked about men, relationships and parenting. It was awesome to be able to think and get different perspectives from women at different points in life. What did I learn?

  • Women should get a prenuptial agreement to protect themselves and ensure that if their partner wants to exit that they won’t be left penniless. (One of the women was a lawyer).
  • Custody agreements are complicated and are not really finite until the child is 18. You can always go back to court to argue BS.
  • Some women are really not open to sharing all the financial information with a man. (I recommended that maybe that isn’t the person for you).
  • Lessons learned from a first failed marriage tend to be the things you want to prevent in your next relationship. We said that we finally understood when the older women would say, “First time marry for love and the second time for money.” Not that it is telling you to marry rich, but to make sure that you are marrying someone who is your financial equal or doing better than you.
  • Spanish wine is really good. I had a Groupon for 12 bottles of Spanish wine and we went to pick it up before the event and it was awesome.
  • Mexican dip, wings and meatballs are really good when shared with girlfriends.
  • When smoking hookah, make sure you don’t buy cheap coals. LOL! As was the case when my girlfriend bought some coals that totally changed the flavor of the hookah.


Was spent recovering most of the day from Friday night because I didn’t arrive home until 3 am. Munch had a therapy appointment to discuss his feelings with a new therapist that morning at 10 am. I was exhausted but arrived in time to complete the paperwork and have my son cuddle up under me. She was really a nice therapist and I’m hoping that he will open up to her.

Rescheduled my appointments because I was too tired to continue to play being awake. Headed home and slept until about 7 pm. I woke up hungry and called my girlfriend to go to dinner. We ended up going to a lounge and had a good time. However, the music was way too loud and I’m sure I damaged my hearing. I am just starting to hear now. Ugh! I hate getting old.


I didn’t arrive home until 3:30 on Sunday morning with no ability to hear that I laid in bed all day. Thinking, hoping and praying that my hearing would return. I ended up getting a migraine and took some medicine and went back to bed. My son’s father kept texting me to update me on my son. He wasn’t feeling well. He ended up deciding that we should take him to urgent care last night. Me with my limited hearing got in the car to rush and be with my baby boy. We found a new pediatric urgent care that is open 7 days a week until midnight. They had just opened. He was seen immediately and the diagnosis was a virus that has to go through his system. They told us to keep with the Gatorade and do the BRAT diet (Bananas, Rice, Applesauce and Toast). My poor munch looked miserable. I thought I was going to die. He was in so much pain. One price you pay with co-parenting is that you have to let go even when you don’t want too. My spirit was troubled because my baby was sick and in pain. I wanted him to come home with me so bad because I wanted to care for him, but this was his dad’s time with him and I had to let go. I kissed and hugged him so much I knew he thought something was wrong. I just prayed.

That’s all you can do with anything…Give it to God and he will do the rest. I am regaining my hearing, my son’s fever has broken and my son’s father is taking care of munch just fine. Everything is as it should be.