What I learned through my dating and relationship trials and tribulations is that communication is PARAMOUNT. To me the top 3 important components of great communication are, know they self, listening with the intent of gaining understanding, and patience. Yes, there are more components but these are my top 3.
How can you clearly communicate your thoughts and feelings to another individual without clearly understanding them yourself? Too many times we jump into situations unprepared because we failed to prepare. We don’t even know what we want from ourselves, yet we have the nerve to tell someone else what we want from them. It’s okay to take time to yourself and learn and love yourself. You can’t give love of you don’t have a surplus of love for yourself.
Are you listening or are you just waiting to talk? Sometimes we get caught up in the back and forth we forget what we’re arguing about. Are we trying to gain understanding of each other or are we just trying to prove the other person wrong? Is there any compassion?
At the end of the day, all of this takes patience. Too many times we expect things to happen on our time. Yet, we know people don’t work that way. We rush into situations without taking the time to really get to know our partner. We move too much off of feelings instead of actual truths. Learning someone doesn’t just happen overnight, over a few months or even a year. Add to the fact we grow and change as time goes on. So be patient with your partner, know thyself, and listen to gain understanding.
Submitted by Clinton H. Wilson Jr., Co-Host of G.F.T. Radio www.akingstruth.com
A Thomas Point of View 
I love this. I was talking to my boyfriend about how significant communication is and that misunderstandings happen but we can’t let them linger and grow. We have to effectively communicate and make sure we are on the same page.
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Whenever I see those “what’s most important in a relationship” posts, communication is usually not listed. You’ll see sex, love, money, trust, appearance, etc. No matter what relationship type you have, communication is #1. Without it, everything else falls apart.
The art of communication takes practice and ones ability to humble themselves enough to listen empathetically, not until it’s their turn to talk. Taking the information they were given and finding a middle ground with their partner.
Communication is so much deeper than texting, and talking to each on a regular basis. The exchange of information should be (most of time) learning how to love each other more effectively.
Great post Tikeetha.
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Thanks Jay, but this post was from Clint. I love when a man values communication over everything first. You need to know how to talk to each other. Everything else is superficial.
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Thank you.
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I completely agree. It’s crazy how some people will ask so much of someone else, things that they are not willing to give themselves.
Great post.
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This is a post I submitted to “athomaspointofview.com”. I want to think her for the opportunity to share my thoughts.
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Excellent post, communication is a two way street and the key is to listen and understand before responding. I think you’ve gotten down all the right elements!
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March on, brave one…
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