I’m a Crybaby

Or maybe I’m just sensitive as hell. Why? Because folks get to me. I try to be hard. To not show my softer side. But, I just can’t help it. Damn allergies!

This has been an incredible week for me. I’m leaving my job today after almost 3 years. I have been blessed with an incredible opportunity to lead my own team and I’m ecstatic. I will totally miss the folks that I called my work family. I’ve learned a lot and now it’s time to show what I can do.

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I’ve always believed that you should always do for others not looking for praise but genuinely because you want them to do well. In any capacity. I love blogging. I’ve met some wonderful people along this journey. Some good. Some that I’m not sure about yet, but I’m thankful for the interactions. Those interactions have allowed me to learn and grow in ways that I can’t imagine.

I follow two wonderful bloggers Stephanie at Making Time for Me and Jessica at Not The Average Mama. Both women are wonderful bloggers and I really want you to check out their pages and subscribe. But, what I wanted to share is that Jess wrote this great post about co-parenting and I was so moved by it that I recommended that she submit it to the Huffington Post in their Blended Family series. I gave her the email address and she submitted the story and they’ve accepted it and will feature her. Here’s what she said to me:

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Because of that they also reached out to Stephanie to ask her to tell her story too. Isn’t that awesome? It’s a blessing that these wonderful women and mothers can come together and share some common sense with us. They experienced trials and bumps along the way, but they are an inspiration to everyone on effective co-parenting. See what Stephanie had to say about the situation while commenting on my blog.

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You know I cried right? I’m a softy. But, it didn’t stop there. This wonderful blogger Stephanie at Stephellaneous said this to me yesterday:

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I literally sat at my desk with tears streaming down my face. Why? Because I’m a marshmallow. I know. I love blogging. I love writing. I love men. I love children. I love so many things about this world. I also don’t like some things. I try to bring you into my thoughts and life each day with a post. Never to change you but to share my story. My truth. My lessons learned. I was married. I am divorced. I am a mother. I was barren. I was poor. I date. I have lots of girlfriends. I am happy. But, to hear that someone who has been through so much writing that I’m a wonderful mother just had me thanking God for allowing me to turn my tragedy into triumph and not ruin the best gift I’ve ever received.

Stephanie’s story is one that you should definitely check out. Including this post that broke my heart: Goodbye Mother

But, God! God is in everything that we do and everything that I try to initiate when I read, write, follow, comment or share in this blogging world. I have no malice in my heart and I have suffered so many failures, but too many successes to mention. I call those blessings.

I genuinely love each and every one of you. I’m thankful for you. Your stories are personal, tragic and triumphant. They make me laugh and they make me cry and I will always try to share. Whether I comment, tweet or post to my Facebook page please know that you are an invaluable piece of this blogging world and you truly inspire me. So stop making me cry!

Hugs and Kisses!

-T

 

Guest Blogger Post: Happy Every Day

I am a HUGE Sex in the City fan.  In fact I probably learned most of what I thought about sex and relationships from watching this show (good and bad).  I mean, it was on when I was in college and I watched it religiously.  Over 10 years after that series finale, I still will stop and watch it when it is on TV.  I also own all 6 seasons and both movies.

Anyway, one of my favorite quotes is from the first movie by Charlotte.  When asked how often she is happy in her relationship and she says every day.  The other girls look at her like she is lying, then she says “not all day, every day, but every day.”

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I think we should find this quote to be true in all relationships we are in.  Whether romantic or not.  Of course it’s ok to fight, ok to not understand or relate to someone, but if you can’t find happiness with them….then perhaps you should reevaluate what you are doing there.

In no way would I say that I am happy all the time.  Though, there are more happy moments than not, nearly every single day.  Happiness in my marriage, with my children and family, in my friendships and at work.  Most importantly, happiness within myself.

Choose happiness every day.  Life will naturally throw little wrenches in your day, so choose happiness in the things you can control.  It’s OK to not be happy all day, every day.  Life happens and we all feel that way.  Just think to yourself, if someone were to ask how often you are happy?  Would you honestly be able to answer that question with every day?

I hope so!

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My name is Stephanie Christie.  I am 35 years old and married to the love of my life, Paul.  We have a blended family.  Combined with have 6 children, a real “Yours, Mine and Ours”.  My blog focuses on my journey getting here, as well as how I take care of me so that I can be the best Mom and Wife that I am capable of.

Follow Me @ www.cmugrad817.wordpress.com

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Guest Blogger Post: …and some are TOADS!

For my entire life, I have heard that “All Men are Dogs”, to some extent that is true, but, some are “TOADS”.

Like so many of us women, when we were young girls growing up, we wanted that Prince Charming. We wanted the fairy tale life that we read about.  We wanted the white picket fence, a great job, and 2.5 children (I never understood the 2.5 children).

Unfortunately, many of you have not found your “KING” because you do not want to kiss the “TOADS”!

TOADS, yes!  Many of you are overlooking the toads.  You are overlooking them because they do not look good to you on paper.  They are not the ones that you have vision/dreamt that you would be with.  Many of them do not have the six figure income, they have children, they have baby momma/mommas drama (I think 2 baby mommas is the limit), drive a hooptie, live in an apartment, and so on.  Yet, they have dreams.  They dream of having their QUEENS, they are not looking for a helping hand, they are looking for support, but, yet they get overlooked.

These men are teachers, nurses, factory workers, coaches, policemen, mechanics, truck drivers, managers, small business owners, correctional officers, and I could go on and on.

They are overlooked because they do not meet your standards; so they are passed over.

These TOADS are not on your list. Why? Because you never gave them a chance. You judged them by their appearance, what they drove, what they wore, and where they worked. You never acknowledged him. You never got to know their heart, their desires, and their dreams. You didn’t get to know the man. You blew off the TOAD!

He could be the GREATEST PROVIDER. He may not have the six-figure income, but, you can enhance and encourage him to go back to school and help him to further his education and his goals. He will not let you do it alone. He will contribute and will be very proud to do so. His credit score may be a 650-700 or lower, help him to change it. You may be the bread winner, but you do not have to throw it in his face…Trust me he knows.

He is a GREAT PROTECTOR. He will fight for your honor. If someone hurts you, he is ready to go to WAR!

He is a GREAT COMMUNICATOR. He is willing to share his dreams with you. He talks about “US”. He is knowledgeable, he is intelligent. He can/will surprise you with some of his conversations. He doesn’t just know about sports, there are other things that he could teach you.

He is EMOTIONAL. He will let you see his hurts, his tears, and his pain. He will listen to your needs and desires, your hurt, your pain, and offer comfort instead of blowing you off.

He is a GREAT COOK! He must be able to cook more than Ramen Noodles. If he is a great cook, ladies you got it made.

He is GREAT IN BED! He is willing to let you take the wheel in bed. He is willing to allow you to be you with him. He is ready to be handcuffed, tied up, or whatever when it comes to satisfying your “bedroom desires”.

Ladies, get to know the MAN before you brush him off.

You can turn that TOAD into a KING! He is looking for his QUEEN, too!

If I had been focusing on appearance, I would not have found my KING. Sure, I was young, just starting life, but I knew he was the one for me. We have been together for 17 years; married for 12 years. He is all of the above.

I didn’t find the “Perfect Man”, but I found the “Perfect Man for ME!” We have grown together. It hasn’t been easy but we have made it.

I hope you enjoyed.

Life may not go as you planned, but it is worth LIVING!

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This post was written by my fellow blogger at A Flawed Ruby. Check her out at www.aflawedruby2015.com