Day 23: Today – Thanksgiving

I’m thankful for today. I’m thankful that it is Thanksgiving and that I can be with my family today. Although Munch will be out of town with his dad, he will be there in spirit. I am thankful for being able to smell the home cooked meals and tasting all my mother’s cooking. In a weird twist of fate, she will be home this year and she’s cooking so I’m thankful for that.

I’m thankful that I survived 23 days of telling you what I’m thankful for. I’m thankful that I got to share a piece of me with each of you. I’m thankful for all my followers and I’m thankful for each and every reader of my blog. Truly.

I want you to know that this day is about sharing with our family and friends and being thankful for all that we have. Even if your half is less than someone else, be thankful. Gratitude is a must. Be grateful.

Happy Thanksgiving to you all!




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Day 21: Fresh Flowers

I love the smell of fresh flowers. I love the smell of lavender all year through. I’m so thankful for the sense of smell and that Mr. C gives me fresh flowers.

It is Day 21 and I’m thankful for fresh flowers in my #23daysofthankfulness. Whether you have a partner who buys you fresh flowers or you buy them yourself, enjoy them. Smell the season and nature in each petal.

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Day 20: Facebook Support Groups

In this last year, I’ve actually joined a few Facebook groups that have offered a different perspective on things that I’ve gone through and am going through. In addition to seeing my therapist and being a part of these groups, I’ve seen changes in me. Good changes. I’m able to let a lot more stuff roll off my back. Not hold on to the anger so tightly.

Now, I’m not a part of groups that are drama filled, but groups that uplift and support people and groups that you can ask questions in. I’m thankful for finding these groups and the members in them because they’ve become part of my tribe. I no longer feel alone. Like I’m the only one going through things.

During one of my group check-ins a couple of weeks ago, I realized that these people are in far worse situations than I. It was a wake up call to me. Maybe my issues aren’t as bad as I thought? These people are dealing with things that I couldn’t imagine. That realization made me thankful for them.

On this 20th day, I am thankful for my Facebook support groups. In my #23daysofthankfulness I realize that others are in far worse situations than I. They remind me to count my blessings and to offer a listening ear and sage advice. To pray for others and the loads they carry.


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Day 19: Seasons

Have you heard the phrase that you must date someone for a full year before you truly know them? The phrase supposedly means that you go through four seasons to really get to know someone. I’m not sure how true it is but I believe that people go through changes just like the seasons.

When I went through a season of change from being married to divorce and then dating and being in a relationship I swear it was seasons before I found peace. I learned how men change with the seasons and I learned about cuffing season which I had never heard of. Getting to know someone and going through season changes allows you to really see who they are throughout the year.

Mr. C and I have been dating for two years and in a relationship for the last year and I noticed how he changed with the seasons. Not in a bad way just his personality tends to flow with the change of the seasons. He’s happier and more vibrant and playful during the summer. During the spring and in the fall he’s cool, calm and more laid-back. In the winter months he tends to be more exhausted and want to stay indoors because he hates the cold so no ice skating, no outside dates, not even walking around outside for long periods. He changes like the seasons but I not in a bad way. It’s in a way that I get to know him and I’m sure if you asked him the same thing he did say that my personality sort of follows the seasons as well.

On this 19th day of my #23daysofthankfulness, I’m thankful for the seasons. The seasons changing, the way we respond to it and for finding love and experience in it all year through. Be thankful for the seasons.


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Day 18: The Right To Vote

You know that the women showed out in last week’s elections right? But, not just women. We saw men winning in town’s that saw first black men being elected, first Sikh or first immigrant. Diversity and inclusion was the theme in last week’s election.

It was awesome. I was so proud and thankful that people are exercising their right to vote. I’m still excited.

Here are some stats about notable firsts from last week’s election:

  • In Virginia, at least 11 Virginia House of Delegates’ seats will be held by women; five are women of color.  Some notable firsts: Kathy Tran (first Asian American woman), Elizabeth Guzmán and Hala Ayala (first Hispanic women) and  Danica Roem (first openly transgender person to serve in any state legislature).
  • Vi Lyles – first female African-American mayor in Charlotte, North Carolina
  • Ravi Bhalla – first Sikh mayor in Hoboken, NJ
  • Melvin Carter  – first African-American Mayor of St. Paul, Minnesota
  • Sheila Oliver – first African-American woman lieutenant governor in the state of NJ
  • Joyce Craig -first woman elected mayor of Manchester, New Hampshire
  • Jan Moore – first woman and first African American elected mayor of Statesboro, Georgia
  • Wilmot Collins – was a refugee from Liberia and was elected mayor of Helena, Montana
  • Yvonne Spicer – first mayor, first woman and first African American of the newly incorporated city of Framingham, Massachusetts
  • Melvin Carter – first African American mayor of St. Paul, Minnesota
  • Mary Parham Copelan – first African American mayor of Milledgeville, Georgia
  • Booker Gainor – first African American millennial mayor of Cairo, Georgia
  • Brendon Barber – first African American mayor of Georgetown, South Carolina
  • Jenny Durkan – elected to be Seattle’s first female mayor since the 1920s
  • Justin Fairfax – is the second ever African-American to hold a state-wide office in Virginia. He was elected Lt. Governor. The only other black to hold a state-wide office in Virginia was former Governor L. Douglas Wilder (first African American to be elected governor in the United States of America)
  • Mazahir Salih – first Sudanese-American immigrant elected to the Iowa City Council
  • Tyler James Titus – first transgender man to win a seat on the Erie School Board in Pennsylvania

It was exciting. Diversity. Inclusion. Voting. All these things matter. On this 18th day of my #23daysofthankfulness, I’m thankful for the right to vote.


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Day 16: Time

I’ve often spoken of the importance of time. Time is valuable. More valuable than money to me. Life isn’t about the money you make, but the memories. Those memories require you to spend time creating them. Do you see why time is more valuable?

Your time is more valuable than anything you could imagine. Don’t waste it. Don’t allow people or things to take more time and space in your mind and heart than necessary. If a relationship isn’t working, it’s okay to not invest any more time. Time is valuable. Your time matters.

Whatever it is. Time matters. I was reminded of this yesterday when I went to Urgent Care. I had sprained my ankle and I couldn’t remember how it happened until I was driving back to work from the urgent care. I remembered.

I had slipped and fallen down the stairs Friday night. I was rushing to start a load of laundry and missed a step. I fell. Munch asked “Mommy, are you okay?” “Yeah baby” I replied. I got up and continued doing what I was doing.

It hurt Saturday as I was limping around Chuck-e-Cheese as Munch played with his best friend. I couldn’t remember the fall. I was in pain. The next day it was worse. I woke up in pain and it was swollen. I limped down the stairs and drove to CVS for an ankle support thinking I could heal it. I put cold compresses to help with swelling and took Advil.

Monday I spent four hours after leaving work early to work with Munch on his STEM fair project. Oh joy. It was his first one. More of my time. My time was spent loving and assisting my son. More standing to assist this child with his experimental trials. Immense pain was my reward after spending time with my child. I had to deal. I’m a mom. Time matters.

Yesterday though it came crashing back with pain and the little support bandage wasn’t helping. I had sprained it and kept pushing forward. I made time to get to urgent care and I’m going to be back to normal soon. But, my time maters.

On day 16 of my #23daysofthankfulness I am thankful for time. Time washing clothes, time helping my son with his STEM fair project and time going to urgent care. Even though my sprain wasn’t planned. It provided a reminder to slow down and understand that my time matters. Now, it’s time to heal.


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Day 15: Blue Magic

Many of you may not know that I bought my car in 2013. It was my first real purchase after my marriage ended and I was excited to have something I did for me. My best friend helped me with locating a car and negotiating the rate and all the things I wanted. I literally just filled out the credit application on-line and signed my paperwork after work that night and drove off the lot with my new car. It was a 2012 Nissan Maxima.

I was in love. A midnight blue color (blue is my favorite color) with leather heated seats, a heated steering wheel and sunroof. It was exciting, beautiful and everything I wanted. It was magic and I was ecstatic. Munch instantly loved the new car. We felt like we were creating our new normal after his dad and I separated. We had just redecorated our home and now we had our own newer car.

I affectionately named her “Blue Magic”. Blue Magic was there for us when two months later my apartment suffered multiple pipe bursts through the cold. She held our belongings as we moved into a hotel through the flooding and repair of our pipes. The apartment situation was overwhelming. Me and my kindergarten son were living in a hotel down at the National Harbor. He loved it. I longed for my own bed.

In that hotel parking lot was the first accident that I got into with my car. It was January 2014, I scrapped the side of the yellow pole in the parking garage. Bright yellow paint was now on the driver’s side of my car. I called my insurance company and put the car in the shop. It was $2,200 worth of damage. I sighed. Blue Magic was repaired and we were on the road again.

In June 2014, I was rushing to bring snacks to Munch’s soccer game for all the players. I drove the wrong way in a roundabout. It was early morning and there was minimal traffic. I stopped and proceeded to back up. A van hit me head on. More damage to Blue Magic but she could still be driven. The van – not so much. It was my fault again. I wasn’t paying attention. Ugh!

Blue Magic was repaired. She was ready to go.

In November of that same year, my car renewal came in. I was depressed and flabbergasted. You can read about in my post Yep, I am officially depressed. Times got hard. Car insurance was astronomical. I was wondering if I was going to have turn tricks or work the pole in a strip club. I was comforted knowing that Blue Magic was still there.

In July of 2014, my best friend asked to borrow my car. He didn’t have a car at the moment as it had died and went to junk yard heaven.  He wanted to go to a party. I was in the house for that night, so I let him borrow it. I awoke the next morning realizing that he hadn’t called my house or cell. Where was my car? I called him. He told me that he fell asleep and was on his way. An hour later and he still hadn’t arrived. I called again. He said he’d be there in 15 minutes.

He arrived at 9:30 am telling me that he got into an accident with my car. He fell asleep behind the wheel and hit a police car. He was fine. The police officer was fine. Blue Magic had more damage. I cried. My car insurance had just been raised 116%. I couldn’t afford this.

I survived. So, did Blue Magic. Yeah and my friendship still survived. Blue Magic was a fighter. Regular oil changes and new tires she was a good and reliable car.

In December of 2015, Munch and I were in the house when there was a knock on the door. Not expecting anyone I asked “Who is it?”. It was the county police. I started freaking out. Did someone die? I opened the door. He asked me to come outside. He wanted to talk to me.

I got dressed and Munch and I went outside. Blue Magic had the entire front end on the ground. My new neighbor backed a U-Haul into my car. I fell to the ground crying out in agony “Blue Magic – Oh My God. Look at you girl.” I was a wreck. Crying and rubbing my car. Munch started crying. The officer and neighbor were looking at me like we were fools. They didn’t understand love of my car or the fact that I was a single parent having to get my son back and forth to school.

car accident

Back to the shop she went. Right before Christmas. Happy Holidays.

She was fixed. Strong car. She inspired me. She took lickings and kept on ticking. In June of 2016, Mr. C and I were meeting for breakfast. A driver side swiped me on the driver side of Blue Magic. I was heated. What the hell was going on? I cried. Mr. C came on the scene to comfort me. Back to the shop she went.

In November of 2016, a driver reversed his work truck into my front end in a parking lot. He wasn’t paying attention. Blue Magic was hit again. I couldn’t believe it. I cried out in anger and frustration. Back to the shop she went.

It’s been a year of no one running into or side swiping Blue Magic. I’m thankful for her. I’m thankful for her strength, her determination and her ability to keep looking beautiful in spite of the many accidents she’s had. Blue Magic reminds me that no matter what you go through, you have to keep going. People need you. People want to see you on the road living your life like it’s golden.

It’s day 15 and I’m thankful for my car, Blue Magic in my #23daysofthankfulness. I’m thankful for all that I’ve been through with this car. I’m thankful to God for allowing this car to protect all that have been inside. I’m thankful for the way she’s taken many lickings and keeps on ticking.


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Day 14: Lessons Learned

I am human. I will make mistakes. We all will. But, I’m thankful for the lessons learned. In all that I do, I try to see what the lesson is that I was supposed to learn. Many times I discover it and I’m thankful for it.

That’s what life is about. Learning lessons. Learning in spite of your trials and tribulations. Learning through your pain. It’s hard. I know. I’ve been there.

But, there is always a lesson and it will get better. No matter what you are going through there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You may not be able to see it but it is there. When you get to the end, make sure you share your story because someone else may benefit from your story of triumph.

Be a blessing to others and learn the lesson that you were supposed to learn. It’s day 14 and I’m thankful for lessons learned in my #23daysofthankfulness.



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Day 13: My Parents

I have to tell you that my family is dysfunctional. My parents were kids when I was born. They didn’t know what they hell they were doing. They made many mistakes. I hated them both at different points in my life.

But, I’m thankful for them. I’m thankful for their DNA and for their ability to raise happy and healthy children despite a whole host of issues. Even though I struggle with my feelings towards my dad, I know that I wouldn’t exist without him. I see parts of him in my attitude and behavior. I am thankful for him.

I have a lot of my mom in me. I am my mother’s child. I realized that the things that I was telling my son she had said to me. Words and phrases that were interspersed into teachable moments. She really has grown on me and her and Munch are super close now. I am thankful for her.

I am thankful for the struggles and strength of my parents. It is never easy raising children. You do the best you can and hope that you don’t mess them up. They did. Individually. I understand that now.

It’s not about being a perfect parent. That’s impossible. Just be there. That’s half the job of parenting. Love and be there for your children. No matter how messed up you think your life is, your children need you. The real you.  It is Day 13 and I’m thankful for my parents in my #23daysofthankfulness.



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Day 12: Clarity

One of the things that I’ve often mentioned is that I’m grateful for clarity. I’m grateful that when I turned 40 I gained clarity. I started really listening to my inner voice. Focusing on what I wanted and needed. Being honest about what situations really were and just accepted that I was going to be fine because my faith was bigger than my fear allowed me to see clearly.

I cut out things and people that weren’t good for me. I no longer feel the need to offer an excuse about what I will and won’t do. My sanity matters more to me than those that feel inconvenienced by my truth. I just wished that I had gotten to this point earlier in life. Wow! It would have saved me years. But, life is funny like that. You don’t get what you need until God decides you need it.

But, I leave you with this piece of advice. Listen to your inner voice. Your spirit. Let it guide you and you will never go wrong. Look at situations and people for who they are and be thankful that you can see things clearly.

Day 12 in my #23daysofthankfulness has me happy and thankful for clarity.



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