Have you ever met a man or a woman that you were so sexually attracted to? Where the chemistry was so out of control and you knew it was just a matter of time before you two would be knocking boots? No? Well, you’re lucky because I have.
It sucks. I mean it was good in the beginning. It was so much chemistry and we couldn’t control ourselves. We were in lust. We were just enjoying the ride. But, in some cases that’s all we had. Physical chemistry.
We weren’t compatible in any other way. I didn’t share my deepest thoughts, my dreams or my fears. They didn’t share their childhood stories or their favorite memories. We were just biding time. Filling the gaps of loneliness and our needs for physical intimacy that we just stayed in place.
I’ve learned that it is good to have physical chemistry with someone, but beyond that I want more. I want someone that challenges me to be better. Who supports and encourages my dreams. Someone who sees through all the different masks and likes what he sees.
His vibe has to be good, but so does he. What dangles between his legs shouldn’t be the sum of his character. There should be more to him. His value is not defined in terms of his sexual prowess, but in terms of his character. Love is more than just about physical. It requires a deep understanding and commitment to the entire person that you see standing before you.
I want to have physical chemistry with the next man I love, but prayerfully it will be more than that. Hopefully, he will challenge me in ways that I have never known. I pray that he will love not just my body but my soul. The real me.
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