Motivational Monday Moment – 10.16.17

Sorry for the late delay in getting this message out. It’s been a long weekend and I was trying to figure out what to say to motivate you today. I was lost. I couldn’t think of what I wanted to say that would encourage your spirit. You know to keep you holding on when you feel overwhelmed.

It’s hard trying to be positive sometimes. It really is. I get stumped. So, I sat there thinking and praying for inspiration, but nothing came. Then just like that God interceded and let me hear one of my favorite gospel songs on Pandora.  The gospel song by Dewayne Woods “Let Go” came on and the words started to flow.

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This song was the inspiration for today’s message. My Motivational Monday Moment is about letting go. Letting go of all the things that are hurting you today. The pain of the last few weeks, the things that are causing you sleepless nights. God knows all. He sees all. Let go.

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I mentioned last week that I had been going through something and I’ll share it with you, but I wanted to encourage you like God and my friends have been trying to encourage me. The words in this song are about letting go of whatever is bothering you and realizing that the battle is not your battle to fight, that if you put it in God’s hands everything will be alright.

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And you know what? It will. When we stop worrying about things that are beyond our control and just turn them over to God it will work out. It’s simple. However, if you are like me, you can’t seem to just let go and let God. You keep holding on to the drama and the pain. Let God have his way.

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Let him have his way all up and through your situation. Let him intercede on your behalf with your enemies. Let him handle it. Just stop worrying about it. There is nothing more that you can do. Cast your worries aside and give it to God.

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I needed to be reminded of this. I wanted to encourage you to give it to God. Don’t let the things that are causing you to lose sleep at night to continue to keep a hold of you. You are worth so much more than sleepless nights, bags under your eyes or weight loss caused by stress. By giving it to God you are allowing Him to fight your battles for you.

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Trust that. Trust Him. Trust that you need to let go.

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Motivational Monday Moment – 10.2.17

It’s the first Monday in a new month. The 10th month of the year. Are you excited yet? Are you enjoying and loving the cooler weather? It is just starting to feel like fall here in Maryland and I’m ecstatic. I told you that I love fall right?

I love the cooler days and nights. I love pumpkin patches, hay rides and hot apple cider. I love the leaves changing colors and comfy sweaters. I love boots and roaring fires. I love everything about fall.

Okay, now that I told you how I’m crushing on fall, let’s get to this Motivational Monday Moment. This topic came to me a few weeks ago and then faded into the background of my mind. However, I realized that I need to talk about it and share it with you after last week.

The topic is self-preservation. Self-preservation is the preservation of oneself from harm or danger. Simple huh? How many of you actually believe this? How many of you actually practice this?

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I know that I didn’t. I would believe that I had to practice societal norms at the expense of my own happiness. I talked about that in my post: You Have The Power

I would believe that someone else’s happiness mattered more than my own. I would in essence people please. To the point of my freaking sanity. I always tried to be the peacemaker. To be the bigger person. To try to make amends. To heal and conqueror our issues.

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However, not anymore. I am only human. I have one life. One heart, one mind and one body. I choose to focus on the good in people and things, but I choose me first. See, in order to not go crazy and lose my dang mind in this life, I have to put my needs (especially mental) above all else.

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I will no longer stress myself out or allow others to break me. Nope, not gonna do it. I choose me. I have to make sure that I’m okay because Munch needs me more than anyone else in this world. So, he is my first and in reality only priority.

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In choosing you first, you realize that you are better than the situation and circumstances that you were trying to fix. You decide that if it doesn’t affect my ability to eat, live, breathe, etc is it really worth it? Probably not.

In many cases I would say absolutely it isn’t worth it. If you know it’s not affecting you in the way you need to live or breathe then why invest time at your own expense? It doesn’t make sense.

Now, I’m not saying that you can’t try to make amends for wrongs that you’ve committed if you should choose too. Nope, I’m saying that you can’t exhaust your energy trying to fix something that probably should stay broken. Refocus your time and energy on analyzing the situation and decide for yourself where you want to be in the situation.

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You can’t allow toxic people or situations to destroy what you are trying to create. You have to be able to navigate the landscape and drama of a situation and sometimes just walk away. For you. For your sanity. For your health.

I know it is hard, but if a situation or person is destroying you mentally, why are you letting it? How is it benefiting you? Is the situation getting better? Probably not so deciding that you will not allow it to exhaust you mentally or physically is choosing you first.

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So, my Monday Motivational Moment is about choosing to live your best life. With you at the forefront of it. Not on the sidelines. Don’t allow negative people, things or situations destroy your peace of mind. You have to choose you. If it doesn’t benefit you then disregard it. This includes relationships love.

If a relationship isn’t symbiotic it is parasitic and parasites destroy. Don’t allow anyone or anything to destroy you. You are way more valuable than you think so you must practice self-preservation first.

 

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You Have The Power

I wanted to share a #WednesdayWisdom message with you. My message is simply:

You Have The Power

You have the power to determine the path that your life will take. You have the power to engage in foolishness and you have the power to disengage from it as well. A lot of times we feel helpless in the sense that we feel we must do what society believes we should do and what we truly want to do. Do you boo.

You have the power to decide what the path is that you want to take. No one else can or should decide it for you. Don’t let people tell you that you have to do something you just don’t want to do. Let me give you some examples.

Example 1: I’m a firm believer in not wasting my time. Time is something I can never get back. I don’t like wasting my time. Time is more valuable to me than money. You can always earn back money, but you can’t get time once it is wasted. One of the things that I do to make sure that I don’t waste time is to create a mental check list of what things are working for me and what things aren’t. I then decide whether or not I will continue to engage in those things that aren’t yielding results or move on. The result: I’ve moved on a lot in the last few years.

Example 2: Not responding. I used to believe that everything required a response. If you said something out of your mouth to me sideways, I had to respond. If you wrote me an email with some BS, I had to respond. If you said something about me behind my back, I had to respond. You see the issue right? I was always responding. Feeling the need to defend myself, character or actions. Nope, not anymore. With age comes wisdom.  The result: I don’t respond. My ignore game is strong.

Example 3: You should be nice to people that have wronged you. Nope! Not at all. Wait one minute. Why would you be nice to someone who mistreats you? Who told you that you should keep killing them with kindness? Probably your nice relatives right? Grandma, mom or Aunt Susie Mae? I don’t subscribe to this philosophy anymore. It has negative consequences for you. Your health matters. You matter. If someone is treating you like crap, why would you keep being nice to them, being the bigger person, extending an olive branch or even speaking to them? I’m not suggesting be mean. On the contrary. I’m speaking about protecting you and putting your needs first. The result: Like Cardi B sings in her new song Bodak Yellow: “If I see you and I don’t speak – That means I don’t f*ck with you” The result: I no longer feel obligated to be nice to those that have hurt me. I don’t speak. I don’t engage. I speak when I need and/or want too.

I’m all about encouraging you to live the best possible life. You can’t live that life if you are falling victim to societal norms and expectations about how you should behave when people mistreat you. You have to choose you. You have to take back the power. Turn the other cheek and keep it moving. Don’t waste your time, your response or your voice. Choose you.

Stay strong loves!

 

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Motivational Monday Moment – 9.18.17

I am exhausted. Mentally and physically. It is sometimes overwhelming just trying to get it all done. Last week was one of those weeks that required so much and gave so little in return. Have you ever had that? 

Whew! I was tired. I was running on empty by Sunday and I allowed myself and my body the opportunity to rest and gather my thoughts. I didn’t know what I wanted to talk about. I felt overwhelmed and I felt like I was just existing. 

What words could I use to encourage you this Monday? How could I make you see that you must keep going on when I felt so tired to even lace up my shoes? How could I tell you that it is not whether you lose or win, but you must keep moving. Moving forward no matter how tired you are.

Then I saw this quote by Maya Angelou: 

We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.

I realized that was my message. In those 11 words above I knew what I needed to tell you. I needed to encourage you and tell you that no matter how tired you are or how many times you’ve been knocked down that you have to get back up. You must get back up. We must not be defeated.

I know that life sometimes gets hard and it feels that you are being pulled in a million directions. You feel overwhelmed and you don’t know how you can keep going on. You haven’t found a job, you are in a horrible court battle or you lost a close friend or family member and you just want to lay there. 

But, this situation love that you find yourself in is temporary. You will encounter the defeats, but you must not be defeated. You need to get up and get out into the world and fight back. Fight for your piece of the pie. 

Will it be easy? Nope. Will it be worth it in the end? Yes. 

It was Theodore Roosevelt who said:

Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty… I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.

Don’t envy those that seem to have it easy. You will go through pain and difficulty, but it it will strengthen and encourage you. You will get through this week and any situations that you may be going through. The race is still going on. Just join in.

 

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Reblog: Faith Doubters

Recently I heard a friend say to me that “God must truly hate him.”  I was taken aback by his statement and wondered why he would say something like that. Why did he believe that God had singled him out and decided that he hated him because he had to go through trials and tribulations?

Sometimes when we are in the midst of our storm, we can’t see the goodness of God’s grace because we keep trying to get out of the valley.  I explained to him that God doesn’t hate you and that if He did, I wouldn’t be here. Because as a child of God, I believe that he sometimes uses ordinary people like me to minister to those who may be down on their faith sometimes.  I told him he was being a faith doubter. Someone who has doubts that their faith in God is genuine.  I explained to him that what he needed was to develop an authentic relationship (as spoken by my wonderful Pastor) with God and understand that having faith doesn’t mean that you are immune to trials and tribulations.  Your faith will always be attacked and tested, but you can’t let that stop your praise.  Praise must continually be in your mouth when your faith is being tested.  I told him that our God is a God of second and third chances and that if he truly knew my story, he would know why I continually say thank you.  So, I surrounded him in love and prayer and lifted up his name in prayer.  I reminded him how awesome our God is.  Our God is great!

Sometimes when you doubt your faith, it helps to have a friend or friends that are praying for you to get through your storm so you will learn the lesson and know that God never gives you more than you can bear.  I’m thankful that I have had many folks do that for me and blessed that God allowed me to do that for someone else.  I found these great Do’s & Dont’s about getting through difficult times that I shared with him and I want to share with you when you are doubting your faith.  These are from one of my favorite websites, www.blackandmarriedwithkids.com.

Dos

Be Vigilant – don’t hide under a rock when life gets tough. This is the time to Courage UP; face it, and learn whatever you must to DO what’s necessary.

Be Wise -never stop learning and applying what you know. There’s a huge difference between awareness and application. The difference in how your circumstances turn out is hugely based on what you do, not what you know to do.

Be Set Apart – When you’re thinking like the herd it’s a good sign that you’re in deep doodoo. The herd takes the path of least resistance. You have to be willing to stand alone – to separate yourself from the chaos – from the company you keep to the noise in your head. You can’t think average or behave according to what’s expected by the herd.

Don’ts

Be not distracted – whatever has happened is to coexist with as much normalcy as you can muster. Whatever predominates your mind, reigns. Practice peace; it’s king.

Be not dismayed – after the initial hurt, even shock which you have to sit with in order to become present with your new reality, you must not lose faith in rebounding; resilience is built here. Courage UP: verbally reassure yourself that “this too shall pass” and “I can handle this” because it will and you can.

Be not discouraged – when it’s over don’t argue with the results. Accept them. That includes whatever your new reality is. The life ahead of you with your new conditions will draw you like a magnet if you’ll embrace it. There’s always a beautiful “life after”, regardless of the storm you’re currently facing.

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MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY MOMENT – 08.28.17

Happy Monday Loves!

It’s the last Monday in August and I was looking for words to inspire you today. To motivate you. To put you in a good mood. Sigh.

I didn’t have any. My life and my words are all jumbled together. I am working like crazy and preparing Munch for school. He’ll be in the 4th grade. I’m excited. He’s not. He doesn’t like change.

Then it hit me.

The inspiration…

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Change.

I love the above quote. Change is inevitable. Progression is a choice. Change is a process. It means to transform or convert. Munch is transforming from a third grader to a fourth grader. He’s scared. His mind isn’t ready.

But, haven’t we all been there at one time or another in our lives? Afraid of change? Scared of the outcome of some things?

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Change is hard. We like the comfort of the normal way things are progressing. We like to take comfort in the things that we know. But, we have to move forward. Change happens whether or not we’re ready for it.

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I never expected to get married, have a son and then be divorced. I never imagined that would be my life when I said that I never wanted to be a single parent. But, here I am. Change happened. I am good. I survived. And so will you.

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We have to accept that things change. We grow older, we lose jobs, families and the things that we took comfort in will sometimes look foreign. That’s where the opportunity to build again lies. In the newness.

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A transformation occurs. In our attitude. In our ability to see beyond the horrific or tragic situations we may find ourselves in. We begin to let the dust clear and find comfort in knowing that we are still here. No matter what.

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That old saying “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” begins to make sense. You survived. The situation you found yourself facing didn’t kill you. You survived the change. You are a survivor.

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So, my Motivational Monday Moment is about accepting the change. Anticipate and then accept the change. We’re never ready for it, but look at each day and situation as a new opportunity to grow. To learn something new.

Just like Munch is not ready for changing grades, I will help prepare his mind. I will remind him of the new adventures that await him. I will comfort and console and lead and guide him in this new transition. It’s part of life. He’s growing. I’m growing and change is the the only part of life that is inevitable.

Be blessed my loves!

 

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Reblog: Ghost

I had a dream last night with my ghost.

We were running in a field of wildflowers.

Big

Open

Majestic

We were laughing and playing.

Like old times.

We paused.

Laid down in the wild flowers.

He held my hand while I cried.

I told him about my dreams that were unfilled

My hopes that had died

My bones that had been broken

My tears yet to fall

He smiled

He whispered five words

in my ear.

I was comforted by his presence.

Renewed by his encouragement.

I awoke knowing that I would get through

this life.

No matter what may come I know he meant it

when he whispered

“Never Stop Believing In You”

 

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