I was speaking with a guy the other day and I told him that everyone has an angle. He said “Really?” I said “Yep, I’ve always believed that everyone has an agenda and the key is to discover who is for you and who is against you.” He said that he didn’t believe that and it means that you are looking for the negative in people. He said he doesn’t have the time to sit back and think about that. I said I get it, but nothing happens by chance and everyone has an agenda.
He said “I don’t like to think that you’re looking at me wondering what my motive is.” Interesting. But, everyone has a motive. Some people come into your life to build and others may seek to destroy. I can accept his opinion, but I tried to explain that a person has a reason for coming into your life and you decide what value they will add to it. I don’t sit around looking at people with suspicion thinking what are they going to do to me, but I’m guarded. I believe like Mahatma Gandhi said “The moment there is suspicion about a person’s motives, everything he does becomes tainted.” I take a watch and see approach with people.
Everyone is not for you. I’m sure that you know that. Some people are against you. The key for you is to figure out what their motive is. Not in a mean way, but through observation. You can tell a lot about a person by watching and listening to them. We as women have to be careful because we always seem to fall in the trap of taking a man’s word and running with it as though it is final when his actions don’t match his words. This can be problematic for us.
We have to keep our senses about us. Trust in the process. Collect the data of what they say and do and analyze the results. Guard your heart. The Bible tells us this in Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” This is a lesson that I learned the hard way. When I fell for those that didn’t have the purest intentions. That’s when I accepted the fact that everyone has an agenda. It was up to me to find out what it is.
Now, let me be honest about the fact that their agenda could be as simple as they want to get close to you. To know you. To sit inside your spirit and sing sweet sonnets (like that huh?) but it is up to you view them with discernment. Be slow to speak and move. Observe and take it day by day. You have to protect your spirit and your heart. It’s okay to check their bags before allowing them to board your plane.
We have to spend more time being protectors of our hearts. His words may seem beautiful and well written. His swag may be on point, but you have to understand that he has an agenda. Your goal is to find out is it for you or against you. There is no rush on this journey and just enjoy the ride.
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