Happy Monday Folks!
It’s time for my Motivational Monday Moment. This one is for all those who’ve suffered heart break. I know that I have. Heartbreak is a part of life. We all have at one point been disappointed and disgusted by someone that we loved. But, you know what? It’s okay. You can get through it. You can get over it. You can love again if you want.
I know that your last break-up may have been horrific. You may have cried more tears than you may remember. You may have suffered emotional or physical abuse or anything in between. You may be having some negative thoughts about…
But, you have to know that it is not meant for you to stay grounded in the past. You have to let go and move on from the negative. The negative memories and the negative people need to be a part of your past. Your life is beautiful and waiting for you. You just have to take the first step and remember that…
I know it may seem hard. It’s hard to let go of the anger and pain when someone you love has broken your heart, but they’ve moved on. They’ve decided to not stay in the past with you. They have decided to try again. Let’s not try to figure out their motive why they are doing it. But, the point is that you need to do the same.
Let me share something with you. Earlier this month when I was picking up Munch from his dad’s house he was waving and saying hi to someone. A woman who was entering his dad’s building. He went to his dad’s truck and grabbed his swim bag and headed to my car. He gets in the car and says “Mommy, why didn’t you say hi?” I asked “Say hi to who Munch?” He said “That was daddy’s friend, Ms. Y. You didn’t say hi.” I responded, “I don’t know daddy’s friend Munch” and he interjected “And you don’t speak to strangers.” I laughed and said “Exactly.”
But, I have to admit that I felt some kind of way. It was a pain in my chest seeing my ex-husband’s new friend in person. I thought there was something wrong with me. I wasn’t jealous. I didn’t want him back, but I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling this way. So, I talked to Mr. C about it. He said that he understood. It’s normal. I sighed.
This was about to be my new normal.
His dad has dated plenty of women since we separated and then divorced, but I never saw them in person. Yes, he’s introduced Munch to other friends, but I could care less what happened out of my sight. But, now. Ugh! I was now having to face one of my ex’s friends.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I want him to be happy. I want him to fall in love with a nice woman and get married again if he chooses. I just didn’t know I would be ready to see it. However, I’m comforted by the fact that it means that we didn’t damage each other to the point where we weren’t going to try again. Try to find love. Try to find happiness. Try to find peace.
I just didn’t know I would feel this way. I am happy. I want him to be happy. I just didn’t want to see his happiness if that makes any sense. But, I had let him go a long time ago. We are the past. Our lives will always be intertwined because we share an awesome blessing in the form of our Munch.
So, that will always keep us connected, but I am thankful nonetheless. I’m thankful for the love, the pain, the break-up and all those moments in between. Why? Because they’ve made me stronger than I ever thought possible.
My prayer for you is simple. Find the courage to love again. To laugh again. To live again. To see that the break-up was only your breakthrough at rediscovering who you are and what you want. How do you do that? By loving you first.