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Motivational Monday Moment – 8/29/2016

Happy Monday Folks!

It’s time for my Motivational Monday Moment. This one is for all those who’ve suffered heart break. I know that I have. Heartbreak is a part of life. We all have at one point been disappointed and disgusted by someone that we loved. But, you know what? It’s okay. You can get through it. You can get over it. You can love again if you want.


I know that your last break-up may have been horrific. You may have cried more tears than you may remember. You may have suffered emotional or physical abuse or anything in between.  You may be having some negative thoughts about…


But, you have to know that it is not meant for you to stay grounded in the past. You have to let go and move on from the negative. The negative memories and the negative people need to be a part of your past. Your life is beautiful and waiting for you. You just have to take the first step and remember that…


I know it may seem hard. It’s hard to let go of the anger and pain when someone you love has broken your heart, but they’ve moved on. They’ve decided to not stay in the past with you. They have decided to try again. Let’s not try to figure out their motive why they are doing it. But, the point is that you need to do the same.


Let me share something with you. Earlier this month when I was picking up Munch from his dad’s house he was waving and saying hi to someone. A woman who was entering his dad’s building. He went to his dad’s truck and grabbed his swim bag and headed to my car. He gets in the car and says “Mommy, why didn’t you say hi?” I asked “Say hi to who Munch?” He said “That was daddy’s friend, Ms. Y. You didn’t say hi.” I responded, “I don’t know daddy’s friend Munch” and he interjected “And you don’t speak to strangers.” I laughed and said “Exactly.”

But, I have to admit that I felt some kind of way. It was a pain in my chest seeing my ex-husband’s new friend in person. I thought there was something wrong with me. I wasn’t jealous. I didn’t want him back, but I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling this way. So, I talked to Mr. C about it. He said that he understood. It’s normal. I sighed.

This was about to be my new normal. broken-heart-quotes10

His dad has dated plenty of women since we separated and then divorced, but I never saw them in person. Yes, he’s introduced Munch to other friends, but I could care less what happened out of my sight. But, now. Ugh! I was now having to face one of my ex’s friends.


Now, don’t get me wrong. I want him to be happy. I want him to fall in love with a nice woman and get married again if he chooses. I just didn’t know I would be ready to see it. However, I’m comforted by the fact that it means that we didn’t damage each other to the point where we weren’t going to try again. Try to find love. Try to find happiness. Try to find peace.


I just didn’t know I would feel this way. I am happy. I want him to be happy. I just didn’t want to see his happiness if that makes any sense. But, I had let him go a long time ago. We are the past. Our lives will always be intertwined because we share an awesome blessing in the form of our Munch.


So, that will always keep us connected, but I am thankful nonetheless. I’m thankful for the love, the pain, the break-up and all those moments in between. Why? Because they’ve made me stronger than I ever thought possible.

Love Comes

My prayer for you is simple. Find the courage to love again. To laugh again. To live again. To see that the break-up was only your breakthrough at rediscovering who you are and what you want. How do you do that? By loving you first.


Happy Monday!


  1. Honestly my friend, you’re amazing. I love seeing your heart and reading about the way you’ve handled your difficulties. It’s an encouragement and I can guarantee you that you’re making a difference. 🙂

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    1. Aww, thanks Matthew. I just people to know that I’m human and we all go through things. It may not be exactly the same, but heartbreak is a part of life and we can all get over. How? Forgiveness and acceptance. We break God’s heart A LOT and he still loves and forgives us so we should be able to do the same.

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      1. Yeah, that’s incredibly true. Hearing that and knowing that certainly puts life into perspective. How can we, who have been forgiven of so much, forgive so little? It’s convicting for sure.

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  2. Hey Queen. I love your transparency. Allow me to say that perhaps you were not as over the past as you thought. Perhaps you have been asking the Universe for something in the realm of love or fulfillment or strength…And so that moment,very crucial to your healing process and progress,was very necessary for YOU. Your reaction as you realized is an awareness of yourself! Perhaps now, moving forward you will be able to “see his happiness” and not a hair stands up…I’m thinking this was your last test to cleanse,heal and prepare you for a greater love,moment,success in life!! Enjoy this beautiful Monday!

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    1. Thanks Pearl. Trust me, I’m over it. I thought it was weird and reached out to people who went through a divorce and saw their ex with someone new and asked them did they feel something. Not the “I want you back feeling” but this weird thing about the finality of the situation and that their ex had moved on. Everyone (male and female) said yes. They said then they paused and realized that they were the ones that ended it and now it’s the next person’s problem. I don’t think he’s a problem, we’re just not compatible. I want him to be happy and he even shows up at my house with her now. This was a new experience because I’d never been divorced or experienced seeing my ex-husband’s new girlfriend. She’s attractive and I’m sure she’s a smart woman so I’m happy that he’s happy. Happy people tend to not try to destroy you with their happy, so I’m praying that he stays happy.

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      1. You are welcome Goddess Tikeetha! Much respect and I’m glad you are happy and waa able to go through this necessary step in your journey to received what was meant for you to.

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