2018 advice motivation self-esteem

Motivational Monday Moment – 03.19.18

I’m back! I’ve missed you so much. I’ve been sick this last week and now I’m trying to get back in the swing of things. I’m a work in progress as I’m trying to keep peace in my spirit because I can’t take the stress. I’m scheduled to have surgery in the next couple of months and I know that my doctor won’t do it with high blood pressure so I’m working on releasing my stress. That’s why I didn’t post last week.

I ran across this post that inspired me and I wanted to share it with you in my Motivational Monday Moment. It says “Peace is the result of restraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be”. This is so accurate. This is where I want to be. However, I am not.


I think of things in terms of absolute. I’ve told you this before. Things are black and white. They are or they aren’t. There are no shades of gray with me. This causes major issues when I deal with people that don’t make sense. When I deal with irrational and non-reasonable thinking people I get overwhelmed.

I wonder… how can you think like that? The answer is simple. You are the cause of your own issue. Don’t you see that?  They don’t. But, I’m stressing myself out wanting them to somehow be different. Is it possible for them to be different? No, yes, maybe?

I’ve learned that I need to stop trying to overthink and over analyze it.  It is what it is and the unnecessary frustrations that disrupt my peace are a result of my own doing. I am responsible for me. That’s it. I can’t make a square peg fit into a round hole. I have to protect my peace and retrain my mind. Things are as they are and not how they should be.

It’s hard. It’s really hard. I know. I get it. My girlfriend said that her therapist had told her that she needed to realize that her ex was an orange and will always be an orange. My therapist refers to it as me having expectations of other people. She says that I should expect that they are who they show me. Do you know people like that?

Well, my Motivational Monday Moment is about encouraging us to find our peace. Our “Peace is the result of restraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be”. Can you do that? I’m willing to try.



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  1. You’re so right that we can only be responsible for ourselves. We can’t change others and to try only builds resistance (them) and frustration (us). We can influence others—generally through modeling rather than instruction. I think I am one of those “shades of gray” people (no, not the cheesy book, but the way we look at the world). For me, usually things aren’t black or white, but it’s a matter of managing the polarities between black and white. Just like the yin/yang symbol, white always has a bit of black in it and black always has some essence of the white. Interesting thoughts for a Monday morning, Tikeetha! Thanks. Hope you’re feeling better.

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    1. Thanks Donna! See, you’re such a deep thinker and I’m like “It doesn’t make sense.” LOL. But, I’m working on my expectations and learning that peace comes from what is and not what I think it should be. It’s a work in progress.

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  2. I definitely needed this, Tikeetha. Thank you! You and I are very much alike in this sense. You want so badly for people to hear you or get it while they’re just living how they feel is best.

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  3. Just told a friend of mine that I’m no longer having these long drawn out conversations with “friends” to show them the way or explain something that pisses me off. My plan is to just readjust how I interact with them, because, yes, I can only control me.

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