Motivational Monday Moment – 06.25.18

I saw this great quote and thought how appropriate it was to share on this beautiful Monday morning. My Motivational Monday quote says “Life is about balance. Be kind, but don’t let people abuse you. Trust, but don’t be deceived. Be content, but never stop improving yourself.” Isn’t that good?

I loved this quote because I think in our quest for peace and happiness we forget to balance things like kindness, trust and contentment. You see I am finding even at my age, people think that you should allow abusive people to still occupy space in your mind. You shouldn’t. If someone is mean and abusive to you why would you allow them to continue to be in your life? I know there may be times that you have to interact with people because you have shared commitments, but you have a right to protect yourself. No more toxicity. You are throwing off your life’s balance.

I had this very discussion the other day with someone. We were discussing how she felt the need to allow someone in her life that didn’t contribute to her life on any level: financially, emotionally or spiritually to continue to play a role in her life. I don’t care if it’s a supporting role; you should never allow that kind of person to abuse you and be there. We have to keep our boundaries strong. You don’t have to treat people like they treat you (however, I wouldn’t be mad if you did) but you should still be kind. Now, let me be clear, being kind doesn’t mean that you allow yourself to be a doormat. No. It means that you should be kind to everyone that you encounter. However, if people abuse your kindness then leave that toxicity where it stands and move on. Don’t engage.

Trust is a huge thing for a lot of people. Heck it was huge for me. Trusting someone after my divorce took years. Trusting that people won’t disappoint or take advantage of your trust are big barriers to many of us opening up. But, we must allow ourselves to trust again. Trust the right people. It’s okay if you make a mistake and trust the wrong person. It happens. But, if deception occurs, just remove yourself from that situation. Keep your eyes open and your heart free.

Contentment is not just about just staying where you’re at because you’re satisfied. That’s great that you’re happy with where your life is at the moment, but what about all those moments in between where you’re good, what are you doing to improve yourself? We can all use improvement in one way or the other. You may not be concerned about getting a promotion because you love your job, but what about getting that certification because you know that it adds value to your resume. Isn’t preparation the key to success? What’s that saying…if we fail to prepare then we prepare to fail? Don’t prepare to fail. Be content with who you are, but never stop learning.

So, that’s my Motivational Monday Moment loves. I had an amazing and busy weekend, but I wanted to inspire you to get through your week. It is going to be a great one.

Happy Monday!

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Motivational Monday Moment – 06.11.18

Today’s Motivational Monday Moment inspired me after reading this quote which says “Just for today, allow yourself to embrace all that you are every moment. Know that you are a vessel of light. Allow yourself to release all doubts about your ability, the mistakes of the past, the fear of the future.” It is by Iyanla Vanzant. Isn’t it wonderful? It truly inspired me this morning.

I wanted to tell you that no matter what you are going through you need to embrace life. Embrace the fact that you are where you are supposed to be at this moment in time. No matter what you are going through you need to understand that it is where you are supposed to be. Don’t doubt your journey. Don’t fear the future because your past. Your past was a lesson.

I didn’t lose myself in my relationship with Mr. C. I remembered who I was and where I’m supposed to be. It was a lesson. Sometimes we need to remember that. No matter the hurt, the pain or the anger you’re feeling – you need to embrace all that. You are are invaluable. You are so worthy of all the love and happiness and success you can stand. Trust yourself. Trust the process.

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Nothing in life is a mistake. It is a lesson and lessons are important. They remind us to keep learning. Just learn what you’re supposed to learn and know that it is preparation for your success. You matter.

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Motivational Monday Moment – 06.04.18

I saw this quote and wanted to share it for my Motivational Monday Moment. It says “If life can remove someone you never dreamed of losing, it can replace them with someone you never dreamt of having.” This quote really summarizes what I’ve been feeling these last few weeks about the ending of my relationship with Mr. C.

I never imagined that I would find and have a healthy love with a man that was kind, strong and passionate that it was hard imagining my life without him. But, that is not the case. Life happens. Sometimes you stand at that fork in the road and you know that you have no choice but to go left while they go right. It is life.

There are no winners in this situation. There are those that decided to make an adult decision about their future. It is a break-up. It hurts. I couldn’t imagine not being with someone that I loved deeply and admired. Someone who gave me strength. But, it is my reality now.

I am thankful for the experiences. I am thankful for the lessons. I am thankful for it all. Because in the end of this – I’ve learned who I am and who I’m meant to be. I’m optimistic. There will be love. There will be happiness. There will be joy. It is my faith that reminds me that I am not forgotten.

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So, for all of you that that think you’ve given your heart for the last time, I want you to stand strong and know that you don’t need to think that. You need to keep your eyes on the sky and know that love will find you. You will find the person you were meant to have.

 

 

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Motivational Monday Moment – 05.07.18

It’s Monday! I’m excited. Another week down and another chance to do it again. I was thinking of ways that I could inspire and motivate you this weekend. I came across this great quote:

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I loved that. It reminded me that no matter what storm you may find yourself in at the moment that no stressor can break you. You need to just remain flexible and keep moving forward. Isn’t that awesome?

How many times are we overcome by the situations we find ourselves in? The storm seems to be too much for us to handle but I’m telling you that you need to plant your feet firmly to the ground and adjust your umbrella and know that it will stop, It will die down and go away. But, you don’t have to just wait in the rain waiting for it to stop.

You keep living. You keep moving forward. You keep getting up and giving the best of yourself each and every day to the world. You trust the fact that this is not the first storm or the last storm. You just gotta keep moving.

In my storms I’ve learned that flexibility is the key and so is moving forward. I know that life won’t be easy and I trust that in the midst of my storms that God is working on me. I am thankful for the rain because it is cleansing. So, my Motivational Monday Moment is is to allow yourself to be cleaned mentally and spiritually during your stressing storm. Take a deep breath and keep pushing forward because truthfully…you got this!

 

 

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Motivational Monday Moment – 04.02.18

Today is the first Monday in April. There are five Mondays this month. Cool huh? Each is a chance to motivate you and get your week started off right. I didn’t want to stop trying to motivate you even though I’m participating in the A to Z Challenge so on Mondays you’ll see two posts. The first will be my Motivational Monday Moment and the second one will be posted hours apart which will be the letter for the day in the A to Z Challenge.

Now, the quote below spoke to my spirit something fierce. It states “Nobody can bring you peace but yourself” by Ralph Waldo Emerson. This quote is the truth. A lot of times we are angry and outraged over the drama that others may bring to our lives. We try to ignore, rationalize and disconnect ourselves from it, but that doesn’t always work. Sometimes we find our peace disturbed. I know I have.

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But, we can’t let others control our peace. We have to remove ourselves from toxic situations that seek to destroy our peace. Our peace is sacred and can we really be mad at people that disturb it or rather should we be mad at ourselves for allowing it to be destroyed? I think the latter would apply. We are masters of our own fate.

So, my Motivational Monday Moment is about protecting our peace. We are in charge of our own peace because it resides in each of us. No more letting your soul be in turmoil and unrest. You have to protect your peace. It’s yours. Practice protecting your peace today.

 

 

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Motivational Monday Moment – 03.19.18

I’m back! I’ve missed you so much. I’ve been sick this last week and now I’m trying to get back in the swing of things. I’m a work in progress as I’m trying to keep peace in my spirit because I can’t take the stress. I’m scheduled to have surgery in the next couple of months and I know that my doctor won’t do it with high blood pressure so I’m working on releasing my stress. That’s why I didn’t post last week.

I ran across this post that inspired me and I wanted to share it with you in my Motivational Monday Moment. It says “Peace is the result of restraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be”. This is so accurate. This is where I want to be. However, I am not.

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I think of things in terms of absolute. I’ve told you this before. Things are black and white. They are or they aren’t. There are no shades of gray with me. This causes major issues when I deal with people that don’t make sense. When I deal with irrational and non-reasonable thinking people I get overwhelmed.

I wonder… how can you think like that? The answer is simple. You are the cause of your own issue. Don’t you see that?  They don’t. But, I’m stressing myself out wanting them to somehow be different. Is it possible for them to be different? No, yes, maybe?

I’ve learned that I need to stop trying to overthink and over analyze it.  It is what it is and the unnecessary frustrations that disrupt my peace are a result of my own doing. I am responsible for me. That’s it. I can’t make a square peg fit into a round hole. I have to protect my peace and retrain my mind. Things are as they are and not how they should be.

It’s hard. It’s really hard. I know. I get it. My girlfriend said that her therapist had told her that she needed to realize that her ex was an orange and will always be an orange. My therapist refers to it as me having expectations of other people. She says that I should expect that they are who they show me. Do you know people like that?

Well, my Motivational Monday Moment is about encouraging us to find our peace. Our “Peace is the result of restraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be”. Can you do that? I’m willing to try.

 

 

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Motivational Monday Moment – 02.26.18

It’s the last Monday in February. Today’s Motivational Monday Moment is from the movie Kingdom Come which was horrible. I really couldn’t stand this movie. I think it had too much going on and it never seemed realistic. But, the music was good in the movie. The song that I chose was God’s Got It All In Control. This song reminds me that even when I can’t see God, he’s still working it out in my favor.

How awesome is that? He knows and sees all that is happening around us and He’s still got it under control. That’s reason to praise His name.

A sample of the lyrics to the song are:

If you can just hold on my brother
Just be strong my sister, God, oh God
God’s got your problem all in control
He’s working it out, it’s all in control

So just hold on, God will be there
In the midst of your storm
So dry your eyes
God’s got your problem all in control

He’s working it out, He’s working it out
He’s working it out, it’s all in control

I’ve been there. I’ve been wracked with pain thinking that no one can see me out this storm that I find myself in. I’m struggling to stay afloat and the winds keep bashing and trying to break me, but God. God is still in control. He’s got it all in control.

We need to remember that our faith is being tested and we need to dry our eyes and give it to God. He’s working it out on our behalf. He’s going to bring us through it, we just need to believe that we’ll get through it.

So, my Motivational Monday is about remembering that God’s got it all in control. You need to hand him the wheel of your life and trust that He will guide you to safety. Keep your eyes and heart turned to Him.

Be blessed loves!

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Motivational Monday Moment – 02.19.18

Today’s Motivational Monday Moment comes from the movie Black Nativity starring Forest Whitaker, Angela Bassett, Jacob Lattimore and Jennifer Hudson. The song that I chose from that movie was “Be Grateful”. This song was originally sung by Walter Hawkins and released in 1978. The original is magnificent, but this is a great rendition.

This is one of my favorite gospel songs. It reminds me to be grateful in all circumstances. Even when you are going through hell you should be grateful because God didn’t promise only sunshine. Every now and then we will get rain.

Some of the lyrics to the song are:

God desires to feel your longings
Every pain that you feel, he feels them
Just like you
But he can’t afford to let you feel only good (only good)
Then you can appreciate the good time

Be grateful(2x’s)
Cause there’s someone else who’s worse off than you
Be grateful
Cause that someone else who’d love to be in your shoes

Great huh? It reminds you that there is always someone off worse than you. Isn’t that what life is about? Being grateful.

If you only knew what I was going through, you would wonder how I have such a positive attitude. Let me tell you how and why? God. That’s it. Simply because I trust in the Master’s plan to see me out of each and every situation.

It’s Lenten season and while there are many people giving up things during this time, I’m asking you to not give up on God. See, we all get busy and we forget to thank and just pray to God every day. We forgot that His will never ends but we push him to the side.

We worry. We struggle to get through our trials and tribulations. We talk to our friends and family. We suffer in silence. Tears running down our face. We forget to give it to Him. Don’t give up on God, love. Be grateful that you have that relationship and count it all good.

So, my Motivational Monday Moment is about reminding you to be grateful no matter the circumstance. Know that trouble don’t last always. He’s working it out on your behalf. Remember that and be blessed.

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Motivational Monday Moment – 12.04.17

It’s December. The last month for 2017. This is the first Monday in December 2017 and I was struggling to find words to motivate and encourage. Pardon my delay. I struggled with finding something that would be so helpful that you would feel an instant spark of recognition and satisfaction over whatever you are going through.

It never came. LOL. But, I was inspired by this quote:

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Ya’ll know I loved Maya Angelou. She was one of my favorite authors and an inspiration to women everywhere. So, reading the words “If you get, give. If you learn, teach” spoke to me. I didn’t even know that is what she said, but how true is that?

It’s the truth. I’m telling you that we are called to give our best and to help our fellow man. It doesn’t have to be a big all out look at me helping you with your situation. It could be a pay it forward item, teaching someone how to do something they feel ill equipped to do, or sharing your story.

It is the season of giving. We should always try to give. Whatever you can. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Give because you want to. Your time, your money or your creativity. Be helpful to those around you. I give my time, talent and money. I’m not rich, not hardly. I just want to be a blessing to those because God has blessed me. Can you give?

It’s not just financial, but it is also important that you pass on knowledge. Have you ever worked in an organization and someone didn’t want to train you? They were threatened by you? They felt as though you were going to take their job so they didn’t engage or offer to teach you anything. They were being sloppy.

It’s true. But, no matter what you are supposed to teach what you learn. Knowledge is supposed to be shared. By sharing what you’ve learned you are helping others and isn’t that what life is about? Sharing knowledge.

So, my Monday Motivational Moment is to encourage you to be a blessing and give and share as freely as you breathe. To do as Maya says If you get, give. If you learn, teach”. Be the blessing that I know you can be.

 

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Motivational Monday Moment – 10.2.17

It’s the first Monday in a new month. The 10th month of the year. Are you excited yet? Are you enjoying and loving the cooler weather? It is just starting to feel like fall here in Maryland and I’m ecstatic. I told you that I love fall right?

I love the cooler days and nights. I love pumpkin patches, hay rides and hot apple cider. I love the leaves changing colors and comfy sweaters. I love boots and roaring fires. I love everything about fall.

Okay, now that I told you how I’m crushing on fall, let’s get to this Motivational Monday Moment. This topic came to me a few weeks ago and then faded into the background of my mind. However, I realized that I need to talk about it and share it with you after last week.

The topic is self-preservation. Self-preservation is the preservation of oneself from harm or danger. Simple huh? How many of you actually believe this? How many of you actually practice this?

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I know that I didn’t. I would believe that I had to practice societal norms at the expense of my own happiness. I talked about that in my post: You Have The Power

I would believe that someone else’s happiness mattered more than my own. I would in essence people please. To the point of my freaking sanity. I always tried to be the peacemaker. To be the bigger person. To try to make amends. To heal and conqueror our issues.

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However, not anymore. I am only human. I have one life. One heart, one mind and one body. I choose to focus on the good in people and things, but I choose me first. See, in order to not go crazy and lose my dang mind in this life, I have to put my needs (especially mental) above all else.

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I will no longer stress myself out or allow others to break me. Nope, not gonna do it. I choose me. I have to make sure that I’m okay because Munch needs me more than anyone else in this world. So, he is my first and in reality only priority.

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In choosing you first, you realize that you are better than the situation and circumstances that you were trying to fix. You decide that if it doesn’t affect my ability to eat, live, breathe, etc is it really worth it? Probably not.

In many cases I would say absolutely it isn’t worth it. If you know it’s not affecting you in the way you need to live or breathe then why invest time at your own expense? It doesn’t make sense.

Now, I’m not saying that you can’t try to make amends for wrongs that you’ve committed if you should choose too. Nope, I’m saying that you can’t exhaust your energy trying to fix something that probably should stay broken. Refocus your time and energy on analyzing the situation and decide for yourself where you want to be in the situation.

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You can’t allow toxic people or situations to destroy what you are trying to create. You have to be able to navigate the landscape and drama of a situation and sometimes just walk away. For you. For your sanity. For your health.

I know it is hard, but if a situation or person is destroying you mentally, why are you letting it? How is it benefiting you? Is the situation getting better? Probably not so deciding that you will not allow it to exhaust you mentally or physically is choosing you first.

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So, my Monday Motivational Moment is about choosing to live your best life. With you at the forefront of it. Not on the sidelines. Don’t allow negative people, things or situations destroy your peace of mind. You have to choose you. If it doesn’t benefit you then disregard it. This includes relationships love.

If a relationship isn’t symbiotic it is parasitic and parasites destroy. Don’t allow anyone or anything to destroy you. You are way more valuable than you think so you must practice self-preservation first.

 

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