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I Am Not That Woman

A letter to all men that I’ve dated:

I am no longer interested in dating you. I have a man. It may seem like it’s a no brainer, but I need to remind you. You can’t direct message me. You can’t flirt with me. You can’t date me. You can’t!

See, there is a reason we never worked out. I understand that everything happens for a reason. You weren’t the man for me. I wasn’t the woman for you. It’s the truth. We don’t need to keep trying to fit that square peg in a round hole and call it love. It isn’t. It wasn’t. It was lust.

It took me many years to get to the place where I’ve learned to love and accept the woman that I am. It took me many months of dating to find the man that I was supposed to be with. It takes me hours of therapy a month to learn and understand that I deserve a healthy relationship. Not a one night stand.

Or months of sleeping together, hanging out, going to parties and still saying “we’re just friends”. I’ve grown up. I’ve decided that what I want and need doesn’t matter to you. You are incapable of giving it to me. Or maybe you were just incapable at that time. Either way, our time has passed.

You need to know that I’m not the same woman I was when I met you. I’m different. I’m happy. I’m healthy. I’m in a much better space now. In this space that I’ve created, there isn’t room for you. There’s just room for me and the man that has my heart.

It’s okay though.

You should just leave me alone and allow me the opportunity to continue to grow in this beautiful relationship that I have. I can’t date you. I can’t sext you. I can’t anything with you. Thank you for telling me that you miss me. I’m flattered.

Actually, I’m not.

I don’t go backwards. Our time has passed. I no longer desire to hear words of appreciation or fake sincerity. What I want, you can’t give. But, I am asking that you respect my space or get blocked. The choice is yours.


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  1. Phew! I am not the only one!I was recently contacted by someone from highschool, at 2am, declaring his still undying love for me. Ummmm I’ve been married for 21 years. Have a 20 year old daughter. How is this appropriate! It isn’t. Which I told him so. But how bizarre that someone has no boundaries and thinks this ok

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      1. LOL. We are talking at least 30 years past expiration date too!!! What makes them wake up after 30 years and declare undying love. Sheer insanity I tell you.

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  2. Love this. I could sense the passion behind the words. People want what they can’t have the most. Especially someone that is already spoken-for. In today’s age of accepted cheating and disloyalty… your words speak volumes. This definitely needs to be shared.

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    1. Aww, thank you so much. I believe that everything happens for a reason and I’m happy we’re not together. I am in love. He’s a great man so I need the men to back off and know that nothing is going to make me look back.

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