You Have The Power

I wanted to share a #WednesdayWisdom message with you. My message is simply:

You Have The Power

You have the power to determine the path that your life will take. You have the power to engage in foolishness and you have the power to disengage from it as well. A lot of times we feel helpless in the sense that we feel we must do what society believes we should do and what we truly want to do. Do you boo.

You have the power to decide what the path is that you want to take. No one else can or should decide it for you. Don’t let people tell you that you have to do something you just don’t want to do. Let me give you some examples.

Example 1: I’m a firm believer in not wasting my time. Time is something I can never get back. I don’t like wasting my time. Time is more valuable to me than money. You can always earn back money, but you can’t get time once it is wasted. One of the things that I do to make sure that I don’t waste time is to create a mental check list of what things are working for me and what things aren’t. I then decide whether or not I will continue to engage in those things that aren’t yielding results or move on. The result: I’ve moved on a lot in the last few years.

Example 2: Not responding. I used to believe that everything required a response. If you said something out of your mouth to me sideways, I had to respond. If you wrote me an email with some BS, I had to respond. If you said something about me behind my back, I had to respond. You see the issue right? I was always responding. Feeling the need to defend myself, character or actions. Nope, not anymore. With age comes wisdom.  The result: I don’t respond. My ignore game is strong.

Example 3: You should be nice to people that have wronged you. Nope! Not at all. Wait one minute. Why would you be nice to someone who mistreats you? Who told you that you should keep killing them with kindness? Probably your nice relatives right? Grandma, mom or Aunt Susie Mae? I don’t subscribe to this philosophy anymore. It has negative consequences for you. Your health matters. You matter. If someone is treating you like crap, why would you keep being nice to them, being the bigger person, extending an olive branch or even speaking to them? I’m not suggesting be mean. On the contrary. I’m speaking about protecting you and putting your needs first. The result: Like Cardi B sings in her new song Bodak Yellow: “If I see you and I don’t speak – That means I don’t f*ck with you” The result: I no longer feel obligated to be nice to those that have hurt me. I don’t speak. I don’t engage. I speak when I need and/or want too.

I’m all about encouraging you to live the best possible life. You can’t live that life if you are falling victim to societal norms and expectations about how you should behave when people mistreat you. You have to choose you. You have to take back the power. Turn the other cheek and keep it moving. Don’t waste your time, your response or your voice. Choose you.

Stay strong loves!

 

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18 thoughts on “You Have The Power

    1. Thank you. Yes, it takes a lot of time to master it. I’ve just learned and I’m 42. Mr. C tells me that all the time. I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. I know who I am and whose I am so I could care less about the rest of it.

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  1. Good reminder that choosing kindness doesn’t make us weak or a pushover. Kindness always starts with self, and allowing abuse or rudeness isn’t kind to anyone. Re your point about not responding, I so agree! I’m finding as I get older (and maybe even a bit wiser), I am speaking less. Not out of shyness or hesitancy—I just don’t see the need to argue, justify, or defend myself. Thanks!

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    1. Yes, so true Donna. When we’re young we feel the need to respond to everything, but God knows who you are. You know who you are. You don’t need to validate it for anyone. I think that when we forget to be kind we forget like you said that it starts with us. Be kind to ourselves first by not allowing abuse or rudeness.

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  2. Hi T… I think you wrote this post for me 🙂
    Its everything that I was. Thank you for validating my feelings.
    Thank you for putting this out there for other women TO NOT WASTE THEIR PRECIOUS TIME.
    Bless you and your indomitable spirit.

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  3. Yes indeed! I love this entire post! If I feel the need to clapback, I’ll write the perpetrator an email or letter and never send it. And I especially love #3. Why waste your dope, genuine energy on some undeserving fool? Nevahhhhhhhhh

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