By now many of you have seen the comments by Houston rapper, Slim Thugg, last week about Ciara and her husband Russell Wilson’s relationship. Slim commented that “He’s just a corny dude, ain’t nothing wrong with it,” Thug says “I ain’t gonna say corny cause that’s hatin’ but he’s just like a square…I don’t believe a girl coming from a street dude could even adapt to that.” Don’t you love when people comment on your relationship like they are in it? Ugh!
I couldn’t believe that rappers are still going off of Ciara for living her happy black ass life. That’s what it is all about right? Living your life to the fullest. She’s happy. She’s married and he loves her. What’s the problem? I think what pissed me off about the comments is that many people, not just Slim Thugg, make these comments about women when their relationships end or they find happiness with someone who was nothing like the last man. That’s a good thing right? That should mean growth and lessons learned.
In many cases it does. We grow up. We evolve. We may not love the things we loved at one point. We love the ones that make us feel safe. A male friend of mine asked me after Mr. C and I broke up, “T, why did you think that you and Mr. C were going to make it?” It was an honest question as he has known me for many years and felt safe in saying he knows my type, but I was honestly hurt.
But I told him the truth. I said “Because I really felt like I deserved the good guy. The guy that makes me laugh. The guy that supports my dreams. The guy that loves me something awesome and misses me when I am away. The guy who provides. The guy who gives money so I can buy food platters at Munch’s birthday party. The guy who encourages me when I feel like I can’t go on.” That was the guy that I felt that I deserved.
He listened and said “Well, I never thought you would end up with him.” I just sighed and replied “Neither did he because we’re not together anymore”. But, it’s the insensitivity that some people don’t get when you fall in love with the person that makes you want to curse them out and scream “Mind your own damn business.”
I know Ciara was probably thinking this because hell I was thinking this when my friend said this, but I guess when you live your life in an open fashion people feel the need to comment or question. However, Slim Thugg doesn’t know what it is like to love the cornball, the good guy, the square dude. Let me tell you…
It’s absolutely freaking amazing!
You love the person that makes you want to wake up each day and be a better version of yourself than the day before. You love the person that believes in honesty and faithfulness. You love the person that is both compassionate and concerning. He wants only the best for you. There is no competition. There is only love and mutual respect.
I dated the bad guys. I’m looking to love and build with the good guys. So, if he’s out there and corny as hell by other’s standards…cool. I’m still going to be doing me and living my happy black ass life learning all about the corny man.
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IMHO, messaging and media have pushed the message that BW don’t deserve the “good life”, and that they must endure struggle love. Those who take issue with Ciara “leveling up” are jealous and afraid that other BW will follow suit and leave them behind, like that growing #notyourmule trend…
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YESSS!!! to this!!!
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I love corny as well! I am mad corny myself. And you’re absolutely right about Ciara; any woman who is mature and confident enough to believe she needs and deserves better… deserves better!
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Why can’t men get that? Mind your own business. We all learn lessons of what not to do.
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Right! Grow up. I can’t think of one negative thing to say about their union.
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they want to see her settle and other women follow suit. Some ppl do not want to DO better even if they know better.
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Exactly. We’re all screwed up.
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We’re all corny to someone.
I know I am beyond corny at times, and that’s me. A goofy, corny, wise-cracking kinda guy. I know that some men view other men as corny because they don’t have “swag.” They’re not the cool-one. This is so high-schoolish. The “in-crowd” were the athletes, people who wore the nicest clothes, looked the best…spoke “improperly” etc etc etc. We are adults now and need to stop thinking like children. Russell is normal. He has his own style. Some people are cool in their own skin and don’t have to do what is the status quo. They’re only saying this because he’s with [her]… and she was this street-style woman who came from the hoods of Atlanta, and he’s far from that. They look at him like he’s Carlton from Fresh Prince of Bel-Air.
Like I said in another post, leave Russell and Ciara alone. They are a complimentary relationship (remember I talked about knowing your relationship style). Meaning they will do a lot of things differently. Those actions, styles and mannerisms will compliment vs combat.
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OMG!! This touches home in many ways.
I agree, I have had to learn time and time again; I had to let go of my “type” and embrace a new one. I realize the guys that were truly into my heart and capable of emotionally healthy/safe love were often what others would prob consider corny.
I’ve had my share of bad/emotionally un-available guys so bring on the cornballs!!!!
Plus swag is not what fosters a healthy marriage. Character is. I LOVE Russ and Ci Ci. I feel bad that Future can not keep her name out his mouth and the other rappers keep commenting on her life. I think when a woman finally LEVELS UP and comes out on top a lot of men can’t stand it. And just feel bad bc they don’t have what it takes to sustain that type of relationship.
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Absolutely true.
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