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Things I Let Go

In 2017,  I realized that I wasn’t going to carry other people’s baggage anymore. I’m living proof that you have to go through things in order to get to your happiness. I’m in a happy place. But, I don’t take it for granted.

What I used to do was carry the baggage of others. I would allow them to dump their problems/issues on me and then try to make them feel better. Umm, not going to happen in 2017.

What I realized is that I can’t carry someone else’s baggage. As my girlfriend said “You don’t work for the airlines boo. Tell them to carry their own bags.” No truer words.

I’ve spent much of my life trying to people please. I tend to excuse the negative behaviors of those I love because they may be going through something. Not anymore.

I don’t have the time nor the energy to be anyone’s clean-up woman. I have a wonderful life with a beautiful son and a great man. I have many activities and projects that I’m working on. I don’t have time for the unresolved drama of others.

I know it may seem harsh. But, I can’t. I won’t. And neither should you.

I understand that the world has many people with issues, but I’m in therapy and working on mine. I can’t be around people who are not doing the same. I’m trying  to be better for myself, for my son and for my man. I can’t deal with those that are practicing avoidance.

Life is too short. Let go and get help.



  1. Well said. I mean it’s OK to help but it is not OK when the person is just looking for someone to dumb his or her problem on not even making any effort to resolve the issue.

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  2. Amen sis, I stopped doing God’s work for him too. Sometimes only God can help people with their baggages, while you focus on carrying your own that is in front of you. Great post!

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  3. Good for you!! A friend of mine used to say all the time “don’t mistake my kindness for weakness.” I had to put this theory to work by cutting off someone who initially seemed like a nice person, and they probably are, but when they are constantly asking for favors and taking advantage, we then we have a problem. As you say life is too short.

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    1. Yeah. I tend to want to try and save people. I’ve learned that I can’t do that. It is a hard lesson to learn, but it frees you when you realize that people are adults and as you said have to find their own way.

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