2018 dating motivation

Motivational Monday Moment – 06.18.18

I found this awesome quote that states “For every minute that you’re angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness” and it spoke to me something powerful this weekend. Let me tell you why…I can keep attitude. Not that I try, but I can literally not speak or deal with you for years and not bat one eye. In many cases I’m over the issue, but in some I’m not. I just have a “I don’t f*ck with you attitude”. But, that’s not healthy and I’m learning this. I’m a work in progress.

But, even when my sis and I were catching up about my break-up with Mr. C she was feeling some kind of way. She was like “T, I don’t like this. What’s his issue?” LOL. I just laughed. I love my sister friends. They bring me life. I explained to her that all was good and as it should be and that I’m not angry. Do I have some reservations? Some concerns? Yes, but I’m not angry or carrying a grudge at this man. We’ve spoken numerous times since the break up and I count it all good that I can still think of him in a good manner. She listened and said “Okay, if you’re good sis.”

I am good. The thing is that I spend so much time being angry at folks for stuff they did or said and I really just need to let it go. Live my happy black a** life and move on. Stop sweating the BS and just move beyond the anger because ultimately I’m only hurting myself. I’m wasting my precious time because I’m giving unnecessary energy to people or things that don’t deserve them.

Do you know how many minutes I’ve wasted in anger instead of being happy? No more. I’ve changed in 2018 and I’ve sifted my mind and refocused on things that matter to me. People that matter to me and not wasting energy being angry at situations that don’t define me because they are stealing my joy…and I’m letting them.

So, my Motivational Monday Moment is about you not being angry and focusing on your own happiness. Spend more time in a good place rather than a bad and just do as Jay-Z said and “Go on and brush your shoulders off”. This too shall pass.

Happy Monday loves!

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  1. I’ve seen that quote before, and would say that for the most part it’s correct. I do think there are some instances, however, where I would rather hold on to the anger.

    My father was very abusive, so much so that he lost custody of me when I was 16 or 17. Despite being illegal the judge told me she preferred that I live on my own as she saw no other way around it, and I did.

    Well fast-forward to almost a decade later and I get an email saying he’s on his deathbed and I should call. At this point, we had not spoken in years. Maybe around that whole time. I had moved on, had a step-dad now, and had no room in my life for digging up drama.

    He wanted me to come see him, so he could say he was sorry in person. I thought about it and figured why should I dig all that up again just so he can unburden himself and die at peace. I told him no and hung up the phone.

    I’m glad I didn’t go, too, because he actually didn’t die and I would have just invited him back into my life to stir up crap again. The man is crazy. I’ll keep the anger. It inspires good writing. 😂

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    1. LOL I get that but staying angry and choosing not to deal with folks is separate. I am a firm believer in living your best life and keeping toxic people out of it no matter if they are your parents or not. Just don’t deal with them. Don’t hold on to the anger for your peace of mind. Not theirs.


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