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Motivational Monday Moment – 02.25.19

It’s the last Monday of February and I realized that I had not inspired my wonderful readers at all in 2019. For that, I’m truly sorry. You all are amazing and I want us to all be inspired because let’s get real…this life can sometimes get us down and be hard as hell.

My Motivational Monday Moment is something that I talked about throughout last year. Forgiveness. It’s time to talk about it in 2019. Why? Honestly, because God is working with me on this. When God starts putting His will in your life you adjust and bend because you know that he’s trying to tell you something. I don’t know what he may be telling you, but he’s telling me to forgive.

Colossians 3:13-14 The Message (MSG)

12-14 So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.

A couple of weeks ago I attended the state conference for my sorority and this wonderful sorority sister who exudes class and kindness gave me another stone from her inspiration  bag. She asked me to pull the stone and I had no idea what I would pull, but I knew that whatever it was I needed to focus on it for the year. That was the rule. True commitment to the word you pull.

I didn’t have any indication of what joy I could pull from the bag of stones because the last stone I had was gratitude and I remembered to be gratuitous in every situation. However, when I pulled the stone from my bag my heart sank. The word was: Forgive

It felt like a ton of bricks hitting my chest. I hated the word forgive. I don’t know why. Okay, I probably do. It has something to do with the fact that I have to forgive people that have truly wronged me. There are only two people in my life that have truly wronged me. I felt like God was telling me right now that I needed to be obedient to His word. To forgive those that have trespassed against me.

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But, how could I do that? How could I forgive those that hurt me to my core with their bulls*it antics or disregard? I’d rather just keep them at a distance. I want to deal with them on my time. I had time right? Time to get into a position to receive. Time to stop ducking and hiding from my responsibility. I thought I had time.

So, this year it is all about forgiveness. I am going to forgive. I am going to work on me and do as God is leading me to do. It is so hard ya’ll. I need your prayers on this. True forgiveness requires something that I’m just not willing to give yet. My time. I’m not willing to sacrifice anymore time on those two individuals.

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But, God.

I’m literally standing in the doorway of indecision knowing that God is telling me to get it together before he checks me. I need you to understand that this is so hard for me. I know I need to do it. I’m scared. I’m going to try. I want you to try with me. If there is someone that you need to forgive I want you to know that you can and should forgive. It’s a process, I’m sure. But, together we can free ourselves.

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Happy Monday loves!

 

 

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17 comments

    1. I know sis. It’s hard, but I’m learning. My therapist said that you can’t be in a constant state of forgiveness so if they are still trying to hurt or destroy you then you can’t forgive them. But, those that have stopped we need to learn to forgive them for us and not them.

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      1. I hear that over and over…forgiveness if for the injured, not the injurer. Loser wanted my forgiveness desperately but I could and will never offer it. Hell, he went to a psychiatrist to get permission to start screwing another woman while still playing husband to me…and the psychiatrist gave it. He also gave him forgiveness for cheating on me. UGH.
        Oh…I published my book. Yikes.

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  1. it just breaks my heart to know that some people believe that they cant forgive.
    I learned early about the power of forgiveness. I understand that what a person may have done to me most times had nothing to do with me even though it may have caused some damage in my life however its not beyond repair. I refuse to give someone space in my life in that way. The process takes a lot of work and Id rather commit to myself and healing than waddle in sorrow. The person who hurt you has probably gone on with their life so why shouldn’t you. I mean I was given day after day to make a choice and thats what I did. I made a choice to be better to be free. Just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you are back pals or that you are weak.

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    1. Thanks so much for commenting. The thing is that I don’t waddle in sorrow. I actually give ‘grace’ and not forgiveness. Grace allows me to let you in my space and be around you, but to not trust you if that makes sense. I just thought I had forgiving him. But, God is working with me on this.

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      1. I dunno if grace is the proper term.. because it takes nothing to be around someone you dont really trust. in my opinion its beating around the bush especially when someone has transgressed against you. In some ways that can be more harmful to self when its best to just address the issue openly with the person or yourself and move forward THEN if you decide to let that person in with boundaries and that is operating with grace because that person doesnt have to do anything to get it.

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      2. Grace is what I gave my dad. I thought it was forgiveness. I allowed him to be in my present even though he wanted to be forgiven. When you truly forgive someone it doesn’t affect you anymore. What they did to you is without emotion. If it still affects you then you truly hadn’t forgiven. I can cut people off and keep it moving. I’ve just walked this line with my dad where I don’t know how I feel about him. I don’t want him to exert effort and neither do. I haven’t forgiven him. I’m still unsure of how or if I want him to play a role in my life. It’s just ‘meh’. Does that make sense?

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      3. yes it totally does. And i dont think you have to rush to figure it out either. its all on your time. I believe you can forgive and it will still affect you in ways and that is normal. But when you are holding a grudge or vengeful that’s when you havent really forgiven. Have you sought out therapy at all?

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  2. Forgiveness is the hardest thing to do… Been there, but not done , yet.. The real problem with this is that the wound may have healed, but the scar is still there to remind us of that wound. Forgiven but never forgotten. That scar is the invisible wall .. invisible, hence it cannot be shattered.

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    1. You’re so welcome and yes I keep rubbing my rock of forgiveness and carry it in my purse. It’s hard in some cases, but I’m thankful that God is still speaking into me.

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