February Was Good

Today is the last day of the month. It is the shortest month. It was a good month in many ways. I met my goal of posting or sharing at least 30 times this month. I went home to Tennessee to see my dad. I had an awesome Valentine’s Day with my son and Mr. C and I had a wonderful belated Valentine’s Day. My son made honor roll again.

You know what else? I had more views to my little ole’ blog than ever before. I am truly humbled and thankful that people are viewing, commenting and following me. It really means a lot to me. I also learned some hard lessons that I will share with you in the coming weeks. Please bear with me.

However, despite disappointments, adversities and setbacks I’ve realized that February was good. It was a good month and I’m looking forward to March being just as good. I have a couple of projects that I need to finish including a couple of book reviews that I will be getting out in the next couple of weeks. I thank you for your encouragement, your patience and your wonderful posts that let me know that I am not alone.

You all are wonderful. February was good, but let’s make March better. Let’s get ready to step into Spring and clean up our houses: mentally, physically, financially and emotionally.

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What Is Love? ❤

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My New Valentine

As today is the 14th of February and many of you are probably knee deep in your Valentine’s Day crushes, scavenger hunts, dinners and/or dessert I wanted to wish a Happy Valentine’s Day to my new valentine…Mr.C. I wrote these words for him…

How could you ever fall in love with a neurotic woman like me? My rules? My requirements? My unwillingness to see things beyond black and white?

I am me.

I am structured.

I am learning.

Learning how to let go. Learning how to see that things don’t always have to make sense. There is beauty in the unknown. Thank you for letting me see that.

Thank for for letting me grow in this space where you provide love and respect. Thank you for seeing my habits as cute and not weird and if you do see them as weird, thank you for loving them and me just the same.

Thank you for moments.

Moments that have taken my breath away. Moments spent with me and my son. Moments spent just cuddled up and watching a movie. They matter to me.

I think the best part of loving you is knowing that you see my scars from all the trauma and love me. You see them as beautiful. You see me as beautiful. You truly see me and for that I am thankful.

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This post is part of Ritu’s #loveuary challenge. Check it out and link to it.

 

Greatest Expectation

She had the greatest expectation for today. It was her first Valentine’s Day with her new boyfriend. They had been dating for 8 months. She was happy. He was a great guy. It had been years since she felt this happy.

It was love.

She knew that it was only one day. But, one day that was about love. She didn’t expect flowers, diamonds or exotic trips. She just expected that he would show her his love. He hadn’t said he loved her. She’d been expecting to hear those words for the last four months.

That was when she told him that she loved him. It slipped out. She didn’t know how he’d react. He smiled. He kissed her. She was reassured of their connection.

But, she expected today to be the day. The day that he would utter the words she longed to hear. I mean who couldn’t resist saying I love you on Valentine’s Day? She smiled. She knew that he would tell her.

He sent her a beautiful text this morning that read:

Wake up sleeping beauty.

Happy Love Day my darling.

Can’t wait to see you tonight.

She sighed. Tonight would be the night. It would be special. She would hear him tell her. After their romantic date, she would make love to him and he would tell her that he loved her.

Words matter right? She needed to know that he loved her. She needed confirmation of all the time spent that it was real and that they were on the same page. She  was expecting that tonight would be the night of many firsts.

She rolled out of bed to call him. The phone just rang. No answer. “Oh well” she thought. He must be busy. He’ll call later. She got up and got dressed. She still had to go to work.

She took extra care to dress beautifully since she wouldn’t have time after work to change for their date. She slipped on a beautiful red dress and her black pumps. Grabbed her black blazer and smiled. He would think she looked amazing.

She wanted to look amazing for him. She made sure to put her hair up into a loose bun and add minimal make-up. He liked her natural.

She got to the office and was swamped. All her team had called out and she was on overload with paperwork and phone calls. She looked up from the computer and realized it was noon and he hadn’t called her back. She called again.

No answer.

She sent a quick text:

Happy Valentine’s Day baby!

I called twice. Are you okay?

Give me a call at work when you get a chance.

Can’t wait to see you tonight.

The phone rang.

Back to reality.

The day was unbelievably busy. It was a Tuesday. She expected it to be light, but oh was she wrong.

She looked at the clock on her computer. It was 5:00 pm and quitting time. She hadn’t heard back from him at all today. She began to worry. It wasn’t like him to not call. Something must be wrong.

She left work and headed to his house. She called his phone two more times and left messages that she was on her way. She was worried.

Panic set in. He could be dead. Lying on the floor. Trying to have called for help.

She needed to calm down. She didn’t know anything and her heart began to race. She parked across the street from his building and got out of the car.

She started walking swiftly to his building. She saw him get off the elevator and then turn. His back was to her. She walked into the building. She smiled. He wasn’t dead. He was alive.

He turned around and grabbed the hand of the other woman. He didn’t see her. She stopped.

He was looking at this woman as though she were the most beautiful woman in the world to him. They were in love. He kissed her finger. Her ring finger.

She saw that beautiful diamond. Shining and bright. This was his love. This is why he couldn’t tell her that he loved her. He loved another.

She didn’t expect this.

 

 

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Munch Love

Being a mother is how I truly learned to love. Today’s post is about my son whom I affectionately call Munch. I wanted to tell you why I love this little kid so much.

There are many reasons that I love this little 8 year old boy. But, I wanted to share 3 of them with you now. I hope I can explain in words all that this little boy means to me.

  1. First, this little boy can always make me feel better. No matter how bad my day is or how I feel like giving up, I know I can’t. Just by looking at me with his big brown eyes and smiling. I instantly feel the warmth and love and know that nothing matters more than being in this moment with him. Last month, I got some difficult news and I was really distraught. I was so angry and hurt and I felt lost. I allowed myself the normal 72 hours to bemoan my situation and then remember that my help comes from Jesus. It was difficult though. But, Munch is my reason for never wanting to give up. No matter how hard the situation or life appears, I have to keep going. His concern for me and others make me love him even more each day.
  2. Second, Munch is a child that doesn’t like change. That’s been one of the hardest things for me. When his dad and I divorced, he would always say “But, you are my family. If you’re divorcing does this mean that I have no more family?” Wow! He was only 5.  We would reassure him that we are still family. We just won’t be married or living together. I think he understood. But, over the years he’s been able to adapt better than I can imagine. His ability to adapt despite adversity is another reason that I love this boy.
  3. Third, Munch’s need for affirmation of his success is endearing. One of the things that I never heard from my mother while growing up was how proud she was of me. I never heard it. I guess you could say you should’ve assumed it, but is that realistic for a child? Nope. It wasn’t until I was a sophomore in college and I was walking across campus and a maintenance woman stopped me to say hi. She told me that your mom is so proud of you. She’s always reading the student paper to see what you’re doing as part of this organization or what you’re talking about. She brags about you a lot. I was floored. I never heard that. I was almost 20 and and I didn’t know she was proud of me. However, I knew that when I had children that I would acknowledge their successes often. Praise them for their accomplishments no matter how small so that if I should ever have to discipline them, they know that I don’t think the worst of them. I’ve done that since becoming a mom. I celebrate every milestone and give words of encouragement and accolades for everything and anything. He loves it and his need for affirmation of his accomplishments may seem troublesome, but I love it. I love celebrating him.

I love being a mom and my son makes me love it even more. Motherhood changed me. He changed me. I’m proud to say that my first #loveuary is for my son.

Who do you love? Tell me about it. Better, yet if you would like to blog about it, Ritu is hosting a #loveuary challenge. Please head over to her page and check it out.

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A Valentine’s Day First

I told ya’ll last week that I boycott dinner at fancy restaurants for Valentine’s Day and the reasons why. I wanted to follow-up and tell you that even though I’m not spending Valentine’s Day with my love it doesn’t mean that he’s forgotten. He’s so supportive and loving of my quirks that I wanted to do something different for Valentine’s Day.

Last year, we spent Valentine’s Day in NYC at a concert and had a ball. Remember this cute shot? Yeah, it was pretty great.

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We still didn’t go out for Valentine’s Day to dinner. We had a couple of slices of NY pizza and just enjoyed the day sightseeing. We went back to the hotel and I fell asleep before the concert and then we went and had a great time.

This year since we are in an official relationship, I told him that I wanted us to do something different. I told him that it was our first real Valentine’s Day as a couple, but more importantly I wanted to suggest something that I’ve never done for Valentine’s Day. He said, “Okay.”

I told him that our gift giving limit is $20.00 maximum. No more. I told him that I would allow $21.20 to cover any tax but I didn’t want any expensive gifts. I told him that I want him to show me how he feels about me for $20.00. Let’s keep it real. He laughed and said cool.

Now, I know ya’ll are probably thinking that I’m crazy, but I’m not. Trust me. I’ve received diamond tennis bracelets, handbags, shoes, perfume, expensive chocolates, etc for Valentine’s Day. But, I never had someone think about the gifts that they had to give to express their love to someone with a $20.00 cap limit.

This means that you need to really think about the person you’re dating. What is it that you want them to know/think about how you feel about them? What can you do to show your feelings to someone in $20.00?

I’m glad you asked. Here are some quick ideas.

For the woman that you love – why not remind her to love herself each and every day by giving her this cute key chain?

Love You More Tassel Key Chain – $8.00

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What about for the wonderful love that loves to write? Why not give them this personal journal and on the first page write a love letter to them?

Love Me Journal – $10.00

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If you really want to give her jewelry, what about these?

10kt Yellow Gold Diamond Stud Earrings – $19.99

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If you want to do something together – why not think about a book about the two of you that you can complete together and have for years to come?

Me, You, Us Book – $18.50

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Here’s another great book if you two want to see how your relationship grows. It’s a 3 year journal.

Our Q&A a Day: 3 Year Journal for 2 People

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See, there’s a lot of cute things you can do for your mate for under $20.00. I just hope that my gift includes a love letter. Hint, Hint!