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Is It A Date?

Is it a date if you go out with a man that you’re friends with and he pays? You’ve never been intimate and have no desire to be other than friends with each other. Would you consider it a date? What if you’ve been friends for more than 5 years?

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  1. It’s not a date, just an act of kindness. That’s what some good friends do for each other. You scratch my back i scratch yours kind of thing.

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  2. No. I think it’s a date only if you both agree and say it is. It’s weird but my boyfriend gets jealous of one of my guy friends. He always wants to hang out. Lately I just tell him no because my boyfriend doesn’t like it. He says he just wants to sleep with me but I don’t think so at all or else I’d really stop talking to him. My friend is really confused on whether or not he likes men or women more. I just tell my boyfriend he’s gay. I don’t go out with him anymore. I think my boyfriend got mad too because he tells me he loves me on Facebook messages. He doesn’t mean it like a boyfriend type way though. Idk it’s a weird situation. He has been my friend for about 13 years now! He dated this girl that used to be my friend years ago.

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    1. LOL, tell your boyfriend to calm down. If this man is bi-sexual and you don’t date bi-sexual men then you could be nothing but his friend. I have male friends that I love dearly and they would never date me because they know too much about me and vice versa. LOL. I think a date implies there is mutual interest beyond friendship.

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      1. Lol. I don’t think I’ve ever dated a bisexual man. Yea you’re right about dating. If they get jealous a little it means they care. If it’s out of control then yea that’s bad.

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  3. Nah, not a date. When I’m out with a friend, male or female, sometimes I pay, sometimes they pay. Just a friendly gesture between friends….so long as each are on the same page and neither reads more into it.

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    1. Thank you. I agree. I go out with female friends and male friends and I will cover sometimes and I know that they aren’t interested in nothing beyond friendship. My close male friend took me to a $225 dinner for my birthday and it was nothing more than dinner. Not a date.

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    1. Thank you for commenting. I agree, but men can be funny. I have male friends that I’ve never dated or been intimate with who are grown men and pay for dinners when we go out. It’s not a date because there is nothing happening afterwards and no expectation of anything other than friendship.

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    1. LOL. I love it. So true. If I spend endless hours thinking about my hair, make-up and wardrobe then that would be a date. If I just show up after work not caring or with mom hair then it is definitely not a date.

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  4. I don’t think this would count as a date. If it’s been a while or I jut want to do something nice for a friend, I will pay!

    I’m sure this would only be confused if on party of the group felt different then the other, or a new love interest outside of the friendship, they may become jealous if you dont explain the friendship

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  5. No I just think of it as friends having breakfast, lunch or dinner together. Now, with that said, most of the men I know see it totally differently. They swear by the old saying that every male friend secretly wants to bed you. Personally, I don’t think that’s true.

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  6. I go for the friendly gesture. I go out with my girlfriends and sometimes one of us pays the whole thing. I’ve gone out with my men friends to movies, dinners, museums, the theater and even just afternoon fun. I don’t go anywhere much anymore except with “HE”. However I don’t think it is a date with others unless both of you actually think it is. ~~dru~~

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    1. Yes! Totally agree with you. My girlfriends and I alternate paying so I completely understand that. I respect men who want to pay, but I’m not offended by going dutch with a friend.


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