Sometimes a little heartbreak is a lesson, and the best thing to do is just learn the lesson. – Jon Voight
We have entered a new year and a new month where you will be bombarded with images of love and happy people, but what if you’re not happy? Should you fake being happy and in love for social media, your family and friends? Should you pretend that you are in a healthy functioning relationship when you’re not until Valentine’s Day is over? Do you just run to the hills screaming until February 15th comes?
Nope. You love you. You focus on what is in your best interest. You read. You relate to others in whatever way you feel. You give of yourself to do something positive. February 14th is around the corner and you need to honor yourself in whatever positive way you choose.
Don’t let society tell you that you are lonely and you should just die because you dont’ have a valentine. There are lessons you need to learn in 2k15. The first lesson is simply to love yourself. Why? Because until you can learn to love yourself, you won’t be able to appreciate the love someone else wants to give you. I learned this lesson in my therapy and it was at that point that I truly learned what the Serenity Prayer meant:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
I can’t change the past. I get no do overs in my relationships. I just have to figure out the best way to live my new normal life. This means, creating new traditions. Whatever they may be.
I think last year, I hid until Valentine’s Day passed me by. This year, I’m not hiding. I’m going to wake up and fix my son breakfast. Give him his gifts (candy, card and balloons) and go to church school and teach my Senior High Class. I will bring cookies, donuts and juice. I will design a lesson plan about the greatest gift of love we’ve ever received from God.
I will not be victim of the “Oh, I have no one for Valentine’s Day”. Why? Because I have me. Because I had to learn that life is not fair, but you will get through it. Because I had to learn that no one can love me more than I love me. Because I learned to love me and I wish you the same.