Get a Plan

My visit to the ER was the scare that I needed that had my worst fears going at 100 miles per hour. Death. Heart attack. I had to make a change.

I am still restricted from working out due to surgery, but I needed to come up with a plan. It hit me the following week when I had Munch with me.  I noticed that Munch struggled to get out of the pool. He was literally throwing his body on the pool floor and trying to lift his weight up out the pool. It was rough to watch.

Two things happened when I saw that. First I realized that he was not utilizing the ledge in the inside of the pool to step on (which was weird as heck) but second I realized that we both needed to get healthy and increase our upper body strength. This was my opportunity to do it with Munch.

So, I reached out to my fellow blogger, David, over at Chape’s Fitness and asked for some suggestions. You know what? He gave them to me. He gave me some work out plans to help strengthen my ten year old son’s upper body. We had a plan. So, the next thing was to figure out how to tell Munch.

I casually mentioned it to him last week that we needed to work on his upper body strength, but I don’t think he got it. So, when he comes home tonight we will talk about our fitness goals. We will do this together. Not just Munch.

My plan is for us to do the following:

• Step on the scale and write down our weight

• Follow the plan that David sent over together

• Walk the track at the high school down the street when the temperature goes down

• Go to the pool together

• Eat more fresh veggies with our meals and less carbs (he loves rice and I love bread)

• Hydrate by drinking our water

• Track our steps – I just bought a Fitbit and I’m looking to get Munch one.

I don’t expect it to be easy, but I’m hoping that he will enjoy just doing these things with me. That it will allow us the opportunity to get meaningful workouts in and just enjoy getting healthy together. I need to strengthen my core, keep my heart strong and be here for Munch.

I want us to both be healthier. I’m not trying to kill him, but I want our health to be a priority. I want to model the behavior that I’m trying to get him to adopt. Healthier choices. More exercise. Keeping our heart healthy and living longer.

Want to keep in touch? You can find me on social media at the following links: Twitter @mskeeinmd, Facebook page A Thomas Point of View and my Instagram page


Christmas Eve Service

This year has been amazing. More than I could have imagined. It’s Christmas Eve and I’m at Christ House again serving meals with some of my girlfriends. It is amazing that as we prepare to feast on the festivities this weekend that we are mindful of those that have no food or have no home.

There will be no tree to put gifts under. No turkey sitting on the table. No friends and family to bring egg nog and wish them good will. But, I will do my best.

I will serve gladly and make sure that they are wished the Merriest of Christmas. I will smile and listen to their stories. I will encourage their spirits. I will feed them a hot meal. It’s almost a new year – 2017 is around the corner and things can and will change for the better.


Day 7: Seven Days of Thankfulness

Today is Thanksgiving and my last day of thankfulness. What am I thankful for today? Each and everyone of you.

Thank you for reading my blog. Thank you for following me. Thank you for commenting. Thank you for engaging me.

Thank you for friendships that have developed and questions answered. I wish each and everyone of you a very Happy Thanksgiving! May your stomachs be full of food, your hearts full of love and your mouth full of laughter. 

Celebrate and love each other.


Motivational Monday Moment – 9/26/16

It’s the last Monday in September in the ninth month. Can you believe that the year is almost over? Whew! It went by too fast. There’s still time though.


What is there still time to do? Serve. Be of service to someone. My Monday Motivational Moment is to encourage you to serve. Serving others is one of the greatest gifts we can give. Why? Because you are giving of your time.


Time is valuable.

We all value our time. But, we know that we should be generous in the giving of our time to those that need us.

Mark 10:45 (NRSV)

45 For the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life a ransom for many.”

I know you’re probably saying, “I’m too busy. I got a million things going on right now.” Right? Well, how many of those million things that you’re doing are for others. Serving others in a situation that is more beneficial?

We have to be of service. Serving others makes us not only feel better, but those we serve are greatly rewarded. Time can no longer be a variable. We must find a way to make our moments in life count.

Give of ourselves selflessly. Just like the Bible commands us to do. What if God was selfish with his time? How many of us would benefit? Not many.

But, there are many reasons to volunteer…


Still not convinced. Guess what I got to do this weekend? I got the amazing opportunity to be of service to others when my church had it’s annual Mission Blitz. It’s our annual day of service. We go out in the community and serve others through various organizations.

Where did I go? Martha’s Table. It was an amazing opportunity to serve others. Me and some of my fellow church members went to DC to help with their food distribution and you know what? We weren’t the only ones.

There were a number of other volunteers there. It was amazing. It was a great reminder of how bless we are to have access to food and quality food at that. I like some of the great programs they put on including a Pop-Up Market at local elementary schools and a couple of community centers. The Pop-Up Markets allow families to select from fresh, seasonal produce and healthy pantry staples at no cost every month.

Isn’t that amazing? There are so many people in this country who have food security issues and no access to fresh food that this organization is changing that. Can you imagine what it’s like to not be able to purchase fresh fruit and vegetables for your family? If you can imagine, can you imagine having an organization provide you access to the fresh fruit and produce at no cost to you?

Many organizations, like Martha’s Table need help all year round and I decided that I wanted to get some of my girlfriends involved. We always gripe about things that are stressing us out and wouldn’t it be amazing to do service for others? That’s one of my goals for the remaining 2016 and going into 2017.


Serving others.


Date Night with my Girls

So, last night my besties and I went to Korean BBQ. We had a blast. This was my second time at Yechon with my Ivory and I had a blast again. The food was so delicious and afterwards we had dessert at a great café called Breeze. I was in heaven.

I love the cafe but more importantly the conversation with the ladies. My friends are so awesome that it was just a great way to have girl time without our kids. Mommy time was well deserved.

Enjoy the photos:

Multiple Awards and Thank You’s

Hey Everyone!

I’m so behind on all the awards that I’ve been nominated for that I am going to do a massive thank you, tell you the rules, answer the questions and leave it open to everyone to join in. It is so many so feel free to participate and link back to this post so that I can read your responses.

First up…I was nominated by Rosie from the Hookup Culture for the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award.


The Rules:

•Thank the blogger who gave you the award and link back to their blog
•Answer the 10 questions given to you
•Nominate 10 bloggers for the award
•Write 10 questions for your nominees to answer
•Display the award on your blog or post

Here were the 10 questions she asked me:

  1. What is the story behind your blog name?  My last name is Thomas and when I sat down and tried to come up with a name I realized that I was just blogging my point of view so I just called it A Thomas Point of View.
  2. What is your favorite holiday? Christmas.
  3. When is your birthday? January. 9 days after Christmas.
  4. When did you start writing? At the age of 12 I would write. By 14 my writing was more telling, authentic and intense based off my experiences.
  5. What would your dream vacation be? Vacationing in the Canary Islands
  6. Favorite color? Blue
  7. The Voice or American Idol? The Voice. However, I’m watching the final season of American Idol.
  8. Name something that made you smile today! Hearing from my son this morning.
  9. Name something that made you frown today. Realizing that some people will suck the energy out of a room and I don’t know why.
  10. What is your favorite tv show currently? Being Mary Jane

Next…I was nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award by both Laura of Riddle from the Middle and Stephanie of Making Time for Me.


The Rules:

  • Thank the person who nominated you (because, you know…manners).
  • Include a link to that person’s blog.  That’s also good manners.
  • Then select 15 blogs/bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or follow regularly who you consider versatile and excellent in their writing.  Nominate them for the Versatile Blogger Award and notify them on their About page.
  • Finally, share 7 things about yourself.  Interesting is good…truthful is important…bonus points for brutal honesty.

Here are 7 things about me:

  1. I’m an extrovert. I love talking to and engaging people.
  2. I’m a mother of one and motherhood permanently changed my life. I love being a mommy.
  3. I’m super busy but try to remember to slow down and enjoy life.
  4. I love blogging. It is free therapy.
  5. I love the beach. It relaxes me to stand out and look at the water and feel the sand between my toes.
  6. I wanted to be governor of Tennessee when I was younger.
  7. I didn’t go to Disney until I was 28 and married. I am taking my son to Disney this November.

Also…I was also nominated for the Blogger Recognition Award by Tribe 53 where you recognize bloggers that you read and are happy that they are part of the blogging community.  There are so many wonderful bloggers that I read and subscribe too that I can’t possible list you all. But, I want you to know that I read approximately 150-200 posts a day. I don’t always comment on your posts, but know that they are being read.



Another one…I was also nominated for the Blogger Award by my fellow blogger at Embracing My Inner Ginger 

The Rules:
-Tag the blogger that nominated you
-Answer the questions you were given
-Nominate 10 bloggers
-Name questions for your nominees to answer
-Inform the bloggers you chose that you nominated them!

Here are the questions:

  1. What music/musician do you find most influential in your life and why?   Prince. I’ve always loved his music. He’s a musical genius.
  2. Do you have a favorite song and why? Adore.
  3. If you could meet one artist (dead or alive) who would it be and why? Maya Angelou. Because I loved her writing, her poems her story.
  4. What current song would describe your life today? He Saw The Best in Me by Marvin Sapp.
  5. What is a song you would consider timeless? I will always love you.
  6. Do you have a favorite workout song?  Or a song that motivates you in some way? I listen to Pandora to work out and just need club music to work up a sweat. LOL. I don’t necessarily have a song that motivates me in any way.

Finally…I was nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by 1617 Sunshine Avenue.


The rules:

•Thank the person who nominated you.
•Answer the questions from your nominators.
•Nominate eleven other bloggers and give them eleven questions.

Here are the questions:

  1. What do you do to stay fit? Work out and make healthier food choices.
  2. What´s your favorite food? LOL. Pizza. I’ve opted for thin crust and whole wheat to reduce calories.
  3. What do you do to recharge after a stressful day/week? Take a hot shower and read a good book.
  4. What´s the goal of your blog? To just tell my point of view.
  5. Tell us your one bad habit? Candy
  6. What is your favorite season? Fall
  7. Name your three favorite movies. Purple Rain, Selma and A Time to Kill
  8. Early bird or late owl? Late Owl
  9. What´s your favorite quote? I don’t have one.
  10. How do you stay organized when there is a lot to do? Write it down. Try to make the lists manageable.
  11. Do you have a favorite piece of clothing? Nope.


I didn’t think of questions for any of the awards, I’m leaving it up to you to tell me what you want me to know about you. I thank all the bloggers that nominated me and trust me when I tell you that I am overjoyed by the blogging community. I hope that you continue to grow your followers, write great pieces and keep up the good work.

I Just Want to Say

Thank you.

Thank you for reading my blog. Thank you for subscribing. Thank you for following. Thank you for engaging. Thank you for being you.

I am sometimes slow to read and respond to the many blogs that come through my email but I promise you that I do read each and every post.  So, I say this to say that if it seems that I am “liking” your posts back to back that’s what it is. I get about 60 or more posts a day in my email.

I love my blogger family and sometimes ya’ll inspire me with new ideas or things to try. Like I learned about that dang Windows 10 upgrade and how to stop that foolishness, how to make the perfect baked chicken, how to appropriately tag in your posts and how to appreciate the many things that I have accomplished by writing them out.

Yes, there were many more things that I’ve learned, comments I’ve made and posts that I’ve liked that I’m thinking about highlighting some of my favorite posts each week and sharing them with my readers. Ya’ll are awesome and I just want to say thank you, thank you and thank you!


The Fat Tales: Just Move Already

Okay, so as you know from my The Fat Tales: A Dose of Reality post last week that I’ve accepted the fact that I’m fat and need to move. Be active. Get back on track and make healthier choices because I don’t want to live a life hooked on medications or machines.

I’ve decided to update you with things that I’m learning on this journey in a segment that I’m calling “The Fat Tales” as a reminder that I have not been treating my body right. I am in no way, shape or form advocating against my curvy sisters. Nope. Not going to do it. I’m a curvy girl. BUT, being curvy doesn’t mean being unhealthy. I had to realize that.

It’s time that I’m held accountable for what I’m doing and not doing. I’m putting it out here because I need you to know that I’m holding myself accountable and just not wallowing in depression over my waist size. I’m going to move and make healthier choices.  Disclaimer: I’m still sexy. Got it!

This last week has proven to be both good and challenging for me. I went back to the gym, which was hard. It killed me. I hated it. I wanted to stop eating so I wouldn’t have to work out. I drank a lot more water. I’m running to the bathroom like every 5 minutes. I got a crook in my neck and experienced shooting pain down my sciatic nerve that kept me up.

But, I didn’t give up. Even though I wanted to and told myself that dialysis may not be so bad. Heck, what’s wrong with medications I can still eat what I want. (I’m just kidding). I slapped myself with a dose of reality when I looked into my munch’s big brown eyes.

Moving on…

I also signed up for this program called “Rally” with my medical provider, UnitedHealthcare Inc (UHC). My wellness specialist at my job was really inspired by my attitude to own my weight gain and more importantly to do something about it. I told her that I refuse to be hooked up to machines at 40 when I’m just getting my sexy back. She smiled and gave me all kinds of healthy stuff to read, plan meals and suggested that I sign up for Rally because I have UHC.  I did and I have to tell you that it is pretty cool.

Rally is an interactive experience that makes managing your health easy and fun. It gives you a dashboard with a health survey, missions, rewards and connections to cool things to get you moving and to motivate you to eat healthier. Nope, they are not paying me, but I wish right? But, I really enjoyed the survey and I almost died when it told me my “Rally Age”. See the screenshots below.

I’m 9 years over my actual age in Rally Age terms.


They recommend missions to help motivate you to move.
They recommend missions to help motivate you to move. I don’t smoke cigarettes, but I love an occasional cigar. But, maybe I shouldn’t?


They have challenges that you can join to earn points to enter a sweepstakes for a reward. I did this one last week.
They have challenges that you can join to earn points to enter a sweepstakes for a reward. I did the DC Dash last week.


They have communities where they share information to help you make better choices. I love it. Joined some too.
They have communities where they share information to help you make better choices. I love it. Joined some too.


So, I’ve gone back to the gym, became an advocate for my own health, signed up for Rally, changed some of my dietary needs (small steps. I LOVE BREAD) and started to keep a food journal and monitor my portion control. I am owning my choices and decisions to lead a healthier life. I will never be a size 6, but I will be the healthiest person that I can be at any size.



Imani Cezanne “Flowers”

Wow is all I can say!

I am so moved by this poet’s words that I had to share this. It touched my soul. As someone who is plus sized, grew up without her father, dealt with sexual abuse and all the manifestations of that trauma and life…food became my solace. It comforted me. It didn’t hurt me.

Some people may never understand the true pain of an emotional eater. We judge. We laugh. We act like they don’t exist. We was me when I used to hide behind big clothes to not be noticed. I tried to stop eating. To do fad diets. No results. I had to change me. I had to get to the root of the problem.

I did. I was camouflaging the pain. It is only then that I was able to understand what I was running from and how I could change. I have lost weight (45 pounds to be exact). It is a journey. It is something that I will never stop living. Each day is a gift and I understand it. I don’t use food as a crutch anymore. But, I will never forget.