200 + is Awesome!

I am now at over 200 followers! I have 218 followers to the blog, 318 on Twitter and 259 on my Facebook page. I’m super excited and I want to thank all of you for walking with me on this journey. I know it seems like a little thing to post a thank you for reaching over 200, but this is a big deal for me. I am super excited!

imageFor my new followers I want to scream “Welcome to my blog! I hope you see this blog as something you can relate to whether in faith, parenting, friendship, family, social injustices and/or relationships, I have something for everyone. I want to let you in to who I am and what I’m about. “

For my “old” followers, thank you for sticking with me on this journey. Your encouragement, likes and/or my comments on my posts have helped me continue when the road seems dim. You are truly appreciated.

I know that sometimes my posts seem like a hodgepodge of things from religion, to social issues to parenting or relationships but trust that this is my life. My wacky 40-year-old life that I love. I write about what matters to me or what is on my mind. I try to keep the posts to 5 a week, but sometimes the week is rough and I have more to say. Just stick with me though.

Thank you again for following and you are truly appreciated.


Very Inspiring Blogger Award

Yay! My first award..The Very Inspiring Blogger Award.img_2255

I got nominated by the wonderful couple: Emily and Chris who host A Couple Talks blog. They have this great blog that is written from both a male and female perspective that gives you insight into dating, relationships and everything in between. Go check it out and I thank you both!

This is my first blogger award and the fact that total strangers think that I’m inspirational has me stoked. Woo hoo! Go me! Go me!


So, here are my thank you’s:

I would like to thank Sweet baby Jesus for being the motivating force in my life. Many of you know that I love me some Jesus and I know where my help comes from. I am a broken Christian marching in His army. Amen!

I would like to thank my son for providing hours of amusement to me that allows me to write about his antics. I would like to thank my friends for telling me to write-through the pain of my marriage crumbling and journal my experiences. Apparently that makes for great reading. I would like to thank POF, Tinder, Match and Black People Meet for allowing me to be a part of your dating site and realize that…men are crazy no matter what site you’re on.


Are you inspired yet? Seriously, I’m honored and I can’t believe that my little blog has such awesome readers. I hope that I can continue to write material that people find inspiring and just plain good.

So, one thing about winning this award, I have to do some official things.

Here are the rules: 

  • Thank the person who nominated you and add their link.
  • List the award rules so your nominees will know what to do.
  • Tell 7 hidden facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 5-10-15 other bloggers.
  • Contact your nominees and provide a link to your post.
  • Display the award logo (button) on your blog, whether on your sidebar or about page, or special award page.

My nominees are:

  • I nominate Heather and her hubby, Chris for the wonderful work on Meet the Hopefuls – They blog about their infertility struggles and their intent to become parents. The IVF process is gruesome and they take you on their journey. Very inspiring.
  • I nominate Jason’s Journal for his inspiring blog that captures everything from photographs, to essays and just writing from his perspective about life – he is the real deal. Very inspiring. I promise that you will enjoy reading Jason’s Journal.
  • I nominate Brad Johns from The Positive Project. Great blogger who talks about his life and motivates and inspires us each time. He’s expecting a new baby with his wife and I promise you will enjoy his writing.
  • I nominate Our Party of 6. A great blog about being a pastor’s wife and raising children. Her blog inspires you to see the message and gift in everyday things. You will enjoy it.
  • I nominate Susan of Our Everyday which is very inspiring blog about her life and family. She uses beautiful prose, poetry and pictures to bring you into her everyday life. She’s my high school classmate and I know you will love her blog.

Seven Hidden Facts About Me:

  1. I recently reconnected with my dad after a 30 year hiatus. I found out that I may have 9 other siblings. Yep, my papa was a rolling stone.
  2. I have an accent. You will never hear it unless you’re around me when I’m home in Tennessee. I work hard to perfect my diction so you’ll never catch me slipping. LOL!
  3. I love selfies. Since my marriage ended, I learned to love my curves and find my happier and healthier self. Due to that I’ve become obsessed with taking photos of myself. Nope, I don’t have a selfie stick…yet.
  4. I hate when people talk about bugs, lice, fleas, etc. I start itching and scratching thinking I have something.
  5. I once planned to go to Vanderbilt law school and enter politics so I could become governor of my home state in Tennessee.
  6. My favorite book of the bible is Romans. It is the book that speaks to me the most in terms of my walk and faith and God’s ever-present love for me.
  7. Spanish was my first language. We lived in Spain when I was learning to talk and my babysitter spoke only Spanish. Therefore, I spoke Spanish at home.


I Wish

I love the scent of you

The scent of your skin invokes memories of


When we were happy

When we loved without thought

When we laughed without regard

When we realized that in this bitter world

It was only us

That existed


But our existence has ended

We live in two separate worlds

Worlds of reality and fantasy

I want reality

You want fantasy

You tell me that your fantasy is my reality

And I realize that you may be right

And I wish I could turn back time

Rewind all the memories

Erase from my mind the scent of you

Then maybe I could stop

Just stop

Hating you

Day 21

It’s been 21 days since this valley of pain was created.

I spend each day being thankful.

Thankful that no more tears are falling.

They’ve stopped.

No more mini breakdowns when I look at your pictures.

It’s getting easier.

It hurts like hell, but don’t all breakups hurt?

My heart is mending.

My mind is clearing.

I will reminisce about better days.

I will think why did I allow this conscious uncoupling?

And then I will remember and say

Because I wanted more.

Guess Who Got Published on MBB?

Happy Friday Folks!

If you haven’t heard, I was honored to get an article published on one of my favorite blogs…MyBrownBaby (yep, one word). MyBrownBaby is an incredible blog started by Denene Millner who states that “MyBrownBaby isn’t about pointing fingers at or putting down white moms. It’s about helping black moms. It’s also about providing a service for those who need the information but can’t find it or who just want someone to commiserate with them—help them sort through the beautiful struggle that comes with being black parents in America.” You love it right?

It’s a great blog with a wealth of information, articles, tips and stories from both men and women about children. I have been following along for the last couple of years. So, in light of #domesticviolenceawareness I decided to share my story in hopes of getting it published and bringing home what I’ve been sharing all month with you.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Domestic Violence is a topic that is close to my heart. I’ve shared more with you than I’ve shared with my own family. (I guess you guys/gals are my family). This writing has been therapeutic for me and I’ve grown through it. Which is incredibly helpful. Well, I decided to submit an article for publication earlier this month and I got notified on Wednesday that it was accepted and went live. I am overjoyed and I hope you have a chance to check out my latest piece and to subscribe to this incredible blog!

Click here for my post –  Suffer the Little Children: The Effects of Domestic Violence on Kids

Be blessed loves!


Day Six

Okay, so I admit it. Sometimes I falter. I am after all only human. However, I have tried to be encouraging of Lee. I am pregnant and sometimes I speak without thinking. These dang hormones have manipulated my body. I appear to be losing my tact. So, I sat in church yesterday praying for tact and that they Lord will allow me to speak with a bridled tongue. Not sure if it worked, but it is Day Six in my 30 day challenge and I am supposed to recognize his creativity. Lee is very creative. He is a musical genius. I say this with sincerity. He knows a lot more than the average person about music. He has a huge cd collection that he loves more than his wife. He spends every waking moment when he is not at work, on-line downloading music and movies. I’m not sure why, but it may have something to do with his creative process. So, here’s to you baby….I support and believe in your creativity.