Motivational Monday Moment – 12/19/16

My Motivational Monday Moment is inspired by my girlfriend Tya. She and I had dinner a couple of weeks ago and she said something so profound to me. I was telling her what was going on and how some people hate me for the things that I receive. That God has been moving people in and out of my life over the last few years and I’m struggling with the loss.


People assume they know what’s going on in my life when they have no idea. She smiled and said you have favor. I said “I know sis and I’m thankful of it, but how can you hate on someone who has favor.” She laughed and said, “Favor is not Fair”.


There it was.

Favor is not fair.

Psalm 5:12 (NKJV)

For You, O Lord, will bless the righteous; With favor You will surround him as with a shield.

I felt as though man was persecuting me because God has favor on me and my life. Was it fair? Nope. But, as Tya said, “Man thinks in terms of fairness and equitable treatment, but God is divine.”. Woohoo!

My girl was dropping knowledge. She was sharing what I needed to hear. Many times I question God about his favor. Are you sure God? Me? Thank you God, but am I ready? Do you think I can do it?


When my ex-husband called me in April to tell me that he was getting laid off? I asked him “Are you okay?” He replied “Yes.”. I told him that God will redirect our path by closing doors and opening new ones for us. I told him to trust in God. He thanked me and we got off the phone.

I immediately begin to pray and I asked God “What am I going to do? I have a birthday party that I planned and paid for. I’m moving and now I have to financially support my son by myself. God, how am I going to make it?”

God immediately spoke to me and said “Haven’t I always provided for you?” I immediately felt at peace. He had. He has never forsaken me. Even when I felt alone, God was always walking with me and waiting for me to call His name. He never missed a beat.


I thought I was alone, but I wasn’t. My ex continued to pay his share of childcare and Munch’s life continued uninterrupted. God then allowed me to get an interview for the current job that I have now. He allowed me to move into a different role making more money and more responsibilities than ever.

My response was simple….Thank you God!

Favor isn’t fair and God has favor over my life. I can’t explain it and you know what? I don’t have to. I’m thankful for it and I’m using my voice to share the stories of my survival. I’m also a testament to God’s grace and mercy in my life.

You may think that your life sucks or you can’t imagine getting a better job or situation than you have now, but get over it. You can. You have to know that you are worthy. Worthy of more than you currently have.

You are bigger than any situation or problem you find yourself into. You may think that God has abandoned you, but He hasn’t. Sometimes He’s blocking things you can’t even see. Just know that you can always count on Him.




So, this happened….


Restored Ministries is one of my favorite blogs. The blog gives it like it is by sharing personal stories of failures, successes and how God moved in you. I’ve said it before that I’m a Christian and I love reading all kinds of blogs. This blog speaks to me about where you’ve been and where you can go when you just trust. It’s like God is whispering in your ear and you have that Aha moment and your life comes into focus.

I’m excited to share my story with them and I will be sure to link back here. Please check out this blog of faith, hope and strength. Trust me you will be blessed.

Merry Christmas

Luke 2:11-14 King James Version (KJV)

11 For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.

12 And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.

13 And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying,

14 Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.


Let’s celebrate and sing “Hosanna, Hosanna” because on this day our Saviour was born. That in itself is reason to sing in exultation because we know that Jesus is the reason for the season.

In opening your gifts and spending time with your family and friends remember that this day is a day of celebration. Not a pity party or a time to be upset about what you don’t have or didn’t get for Christmas. Because you did get a gift today. The best gift ever! God gave us the gift of Christ.  A king was born and the entire world received this gift.  This is the true meaning of Christmas.

So, I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and share Christmas photos of munch over the years to let you know that I’m truly thankful for the gift I was given. God is an awesome God and while my munch is opening up his gifts on Christmas morning, we will be reading the Bible story about the birth of Jesus. Let’s rejoice!







The Bestest Gift Ever

I titled this post the bestest gift ever because I wanted to tell you through pictures what Christmas means to me. It’s not the cost of gifts or whether I get any gifts at all, but waking up everyday with an attitude of gratitude and appreciation for Christ allows me to know the difference between wanting things I can’t afford and knowing that I received the bestest gift ever. It’s a year in review of what I’ve been blessed to receive.
















I’m thankful for everything. I wish you only the best this holiday season. Remember to appreciate and enjoy the life you have and know that you are truly blessed.

From the Mouths of Babes

My son is a good child.

Simple in his wishes.

He is six.

He can’t figure out when is Christmas.

We tell him.

He forgets.

He asks daily.

He sings Christmas carols.

He doesn’t get the lyrics quite right.

We laugh.

He told me that all he wants for Christmas is a stuffed bunny rabbit, a fire truck and a gold fish.

We are lucky.

No, we are blessed that God chose us.

I Like Control, But So What!

I mean doesn’t everyone like to take control of their life and plans and not just leave it to chance that they will be able to eat, live and have a career? I’ve been often told that I’m predictable. That I follow a set pattern when it comes to making plans and don’t tend to deviate from those said plans. Yep, and what’s the problem with that?

No, I’m not spontaneous. No, I don’t like surprises and no, I don’t tend to go somewhere on the whim. I am neurotic and my friends know and accept this about me (which they should because they are my friends) and they will let me know in advance of parties, play dates or drinks. I love that. If it’s not on my calendar, the likely hood of it happening are slim and none. Does it freak me out when I meet someone who doesn’t like to make plans? Absolutely.

But, I can’t change them. I want someone who will meet me halfway. Know that I like to plan and sometimes plan something or allow me to plan it. Yep, it sounds creepy and controlling, but it’s not. It’s just allowing me to feel comfortable about our plans. Heck, I just planned a getaway to NJ in January with my bestfriend to go to this restaurant that has over 30 different grilled cheese sandwiches. Yep, I’m a foodie who plans her food jaunts.

I probably should be in therapy about my need to feel in control, but I can save myself lots of money and time wasted because I know what the issue is…Lack of control happens when people don’t plan. Families break up. You go hungry. You can’t afford anything. You can’t afford doctor’s visits. You can’t afford extracurricular activities. You eat free and reduced lunch.

You grow up. You make great choices. You vowed to live each day better than the last. You control what you can around you. You control your life.

But, what happens when you lose control? What happens when things fall apart that you thought were supposed to work because you took the time, did the research, resolved and analyzed the outliers and it still fails?

You cry. You scream. You accept the inevitable.

You move forward. You grow. You make it through.

You create a new path. A new plan. You research, analyze and test your hypothesis knowing that it is all trial and error.


My First Article: Excited

So, I’m super excited to share with you my first article that has ever been published on a website outside of my own. For me, all I do is read in electronic format. I hate paper at home. I think it’s because I deal with a lot of paper at work. That being said, I’m trying to write my first book and I decided to take a break from writing to focus on getting some thoughts on “paper” and hopefully getting something published. Well, it happened. This past weekend, I receieved an email that my article was submitted for publication on one of my favorite websites. The website if “For Harriet” and I read it daily. Here is the published piece here.

It was edited and the title changed, but I’m published. The original is in my July posts. Unfortunately, I can’t seem to link it through embedding, but it’s located here: